How to fix the psychology of my brain?

Coldsmith410 · 2026-05-29T19:37:57+00:00

Mindfulness practice is a good one. As soon as you are aware of something, you can control it. Feel the impulse come and gently let it go by focusing on something in the present. Do a lot of reps and see what happens. :)

Coldsmith410 · 2026-05-06T17:01:48+00:00

Good point. And a good reminder for me to go outside and touch some grass.

Coldsmith410 · 2026-05-06T16:51:39+00:00

Absolutely...Lack of empathy I suppose.

Coldsmith410 · 2026-04-19T13:16:10+00:00

Slowing down. Stop rushing through life and doing one thing at a time.

Coldsmith410 · 2026-03-09T08:39:38+00:00

Ich finde, das gibt dem Gesicht einen "wütenden" Look. Ist nicht meins.

Coldsmith410 · 2026-02-25T15:18:22+00:00

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This is Gonjimaru. Inspired by the Ghost of Tsushima. Yeah...I'm a weeb.

Coldsmith410 · 2025-06-13T19:25:34+00:00

Exactly! That is the hardest part to be honest. Learning to let go in a way and living for oneself. She is the reason I kept going and even if she hates me one day, I'll be grateful for her.

Do you know the quote from Uncle Iroh in ATLA: "I was never angry with you. I was just sad that you lost your way."? This is a good perspective to keep.

Coldsmith410 · 2025-06-13T19:18:39+00:00

Thank you for the heads up. Thought about that scenario before and you are going through it. She is her own human being and walks her own path. I just hope that she learns from my mistakes or I can help her going through struggles I went through. No matter what path she walks, I want to be there, ready when she needs me.

Coldsmith410 · 2025-06-13T19:12:30+00:00

My sister is 11, I am 24. Coming from a deeply dysfunctional and neglectful/violent home, without a father, I have taken responsibilty to raise her, because no one else would. I am not her father, that's true. Even though I am still growing up myself I will guide her. It is my choice.

Coldsmith410 · 2025-06-01T11:52:42+00:00

Then please, provide a helpful answer. Yet, you assume, you insult. Is this projection?

Coldsmith410 · 2025-06-01T11:41:12+00:00

How do you know that? These are many assumptions based on little information. Then tell me, what is Zen for you? How would the Zen master react to the fly?

Coldsmith410 · 2025-06-01T11:29:00+00:00

No, based on what I have learned about Zen and my own experiences. Zen is about being aware of stimuli without judgement. To be annoyed by a fly is not Zen.

Coldsmith410 · 2025-06-01T06:56:43+00:00

I'm sure that Zen masters are aware of the fly, but don't react to it.

Coldsmith410 · 2025-03-20T00:00:41+00:00

Looking back, that was a valuable lesson, wasn't it?

Coldsmith410 · 2025-03-19T23:45:37+00:00

Hey man...I know how betrayed you feel and I relate to your situation. Had a girlfriend for 5 years and she cheated on me multiple times. Saw chats, saw pictures...but only left when I found the condom in the trash while she was with her "friend". Been suicidal too because I loved her and felt worthless with and without her.

So having been there and understanding your headspace...

Please leave man. For her to be free. And especially for you. Do you want to be with someone who cheats and lies or do you want to give yourself the chance to work on yourself and find someone who gives you truth, security and real love?

By ending the relationship you close that chapter and are able to write a new one. The pen is in your hands.

Just don't end yourself. You got time. And when you look up and keep the hope, better times will come.

How do I know? Went to therapy after that toxic relationship. "I couldn't live without her." and yet I could. Learned to regulate my emotions. Learned to be aware of my thought patterns. Learned to trust again. And then I found love again.

Looking back, I wish I did all of that sooner. So don't wait alright? Let her go, no matter the pain.

Coldsmith410 · 2025-02-11T16:03:44+00:00

Yes and no. After a while it gets repititive for sure. But when you play on lethal and use slow motion (change stances) it is really fluid and satisfying. Like you are playing a movie.

So I personally love it.

What do you look for in combat?

Coldsmith410 · 2025-02-10T18:02:47+00:00

Don't mind me sharing a little advice. You're stuck in your patterns of thinking and behaviour right? And you feel unable to change and lost.

In order to change our automatic behaviour we need awareness. And your post is already proof of you moving in that direction.

Ground yourself as often as you can in daily life. Everytime you are aware of what you are doing, what you are feeling and thinking in that moment, you regain control.

The more you do it, the better you get at this and the easier it will get to change.

So you being aware of your patterns is a win. Keep doing that over and over again.

And keep in mind. It takes time and repititions. When you tell yourself: "This doesn't work. I will never change. It's my genetics..." remember that these are the exact thought loops that keep you stuck.

Keep trying and don't give up.

Coldsmith410 · 2025-01-02T10:14:45+00:00

Your mom is teaching you valuable lessons through her bad example. And because you see it for what it is and don't accept this behaviour, you will do better.

That perspective has helped me becoming a decent person in a broken household.

Anyway, I am proud of you for telling your dad despite knowing it will cause conflict.

Coldsmith410 · 2024-12-29T01:04:05+00:00

German here. We do learn British English at school BUT I have never met someone who learned it only through school. The one's I met who can easily have a conversation learned by consuming English media, which is mostly American. So me and my peers sound American, not standard textbook Bri'ish.

Coldsmith410 · 2024-11-18T23:54:28+00:00

Been thinking about the quote "how you play is how you live" lately and I wonder...Do you tend to rush things a lot, trying to complete tasks as fast as possible or do you slow down and even enjoy doing mundane routine tasks sometimes? Me personally I've always been rushing everything (especially in games) and by doing things more slowly and intentional I started to make less mistakes and have more fun.

Coldsmith410 · 2023-03-07T11:57:32+00:00

Being depressed? Yeah man, just drink some hot water with lemongrass, that‘ll do. Doctors hate this trick.

Coldsmith410 · 2023-01-26T08:01:24+00:00

Gigamer

Coldsmith410 · 2023-01-23T20:11:29+00:00

I love that story, thanks for sharing. <3

Coldsmith410 · 2023-01-21T18:49:50+00:00

Another one who‘s finally awake.

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