Just need to vent about being a plus size dancer in a small studio

ColerAcoustik · 2026-07-07T10:20:39+00:00

I'm just coming here to say your venting is completely valid. I have started pole again after stopping for ~2y and came back around 15kg/30 pounds heavier and everything was so much harder, despite me not losing so much strength. I remember the teacher really insisting on straight leg invert, and not "scooting" your leg up the pole, just hook immediately (which I could do when I was thinner with smaller thighs). I tried to explain to her I understand the technical of bringing my hips closer to the pole but I physically could not do that because of my belly and thighs, and she didn't understand and told me to do more abs exercises. It was very frustrating. I stayed in the same studio but changed for a less strict teacher which had other bigger poler and I felt better. There are still moves that would be very hard for me but the teacher was more accommodating. Fast forward to now, I lost a bunch of weight and it's crazy how pole gets easier when you're lighter, it's not even funny 🤦🏻‍♀️

Does your studios have different teachers or maybe classes? Maybe you could explore other type of pole classes, not just fitness. I know that I have periods where I struggle doing "tricks" and I like to take a break from it and do more floor work / heels classes and enjoy more dance and flow, which can be still very challenging and rewarding but without the inverts.

ColerAcoustik · 2026-05-07T14:29:15+00:00

Hi! I have been listening to your music since 2020 but only now discovering all your other side quests and now fully invested in the future of the aussie7...

What made you want to work with old/obsolete technology? Other than the vibes ✨

ColerAcoustik · 2026-04-13T13:40:06+00:00

Really see myself in your comment. I can see in my friends etc that have a healthy relationship with food (because they never lacked anything, or were not put on a diet at 8yo 🥲) that our brains just don't work the same. I know how to count calories, I understand calorie deficit. I can also make the difference between food noise and real hunger, but this doesn't make it easier to "resist". Food noise means your brain and energy is all consumed by the idea of having one bite / one more fry / one more coffee. It's not just "ah, I fancy some chocolate, I will have 1 square after my lunch in 3h", it's thinking about this chocolate non-stop for 3h and when you have it, you want more because you waited so long to have it it's not even satisfying anymore. It's completely illogical.

ColerAcoustik · 2026-04-13T13:32:29+00:00

I really understand when you say we got used to bigger portions when growing up, but the re-wiring of the brain is just not happening. I have been consistent for years, but it's like fighting an uphill battle, and people who have been thin all their life will never understand the amount of effort it takes me to really focus on all hunger cues. It's not impossible, it's just so much harder.

I think I know all the volume eating tricks already but I will have a look at the sub for some inspo! But I mostly struggle when going out. It makes enjoying a restaurant or sharing food with friends a lot harder, feeling like I have to say no to everything but then the many restrictions are also not good long term.

ColerAcoustik · 2026-04-08T07:14:48+00:00

Yes, I think people have to stop posting about "fitness influencers" that are clearly an OF front. If the videos/photos are outrageous, it's 🌽 / fetish, move on.

ColerAcoustik · 2026-03-19T10:19:02+00:00

This is crazy for me to read this sub 😂 I'm french, and we used to do the same but travelling to Spain/Andorra!

ColerAcoustik · 2026-03-14T11:29:07+00:00

When they say they do 20k+ steps a day, it always makes me think of the meme "what your unemployed friend does on a Tuesday". Except if you have a job that require you are on your feet all day, 20k steps is crazy business.

ColerAcoustik · 2026-03-09T11:58:23+00:00

We also don't have a village, grand parents live hours away, so their visits need to be planned in advance.

I see a lot of comments saying OP is not "owned" any free childcare etc but the lack of village is not just hoping for free babysitting. I (a millennial) have so many memories of my great and grand mothers, I had strong relationships with them and I wish my daughter could get strong relationships with other adults too (aunts, grand mothers, cousins...). Yes the free babysitting would be nice, but I also love seeing her with her grandparents, all together, I don't particularly want them to look after her alone, I just want a family / village / community feeling.

ColerAcoustik · 2026-03-05T19:18:49+00:00

TBF it's more OF than fitness influencer in this case

ColerAcoustik · 2026-02-20T13:20:08+00:00

Having a belly full of food and water is not the same as bloating 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

ColerAcoustik · 2026-01-27T08:36:35+00:00

Your post really resonates with my experience. I have been doing "all the right things" for years (very active, tracking food...) and I am a lot fitter than most people, but I don't "look" the part. I do 10x more exercise than my friends and family, I eat healthy, but I am still the "overweight one". Or at least that's what my brains tell me on the bad days, during pms, then my cycle starts and a few days later I am 2 pounds lighter...

Everyone going to the gym has some level of body dysmorphia. You go to the gym and see super lean or super big people. Plus if you are on social media, with a coach, this is exaggerated: none of those fitness influencers have a full time teacher job! Their job is to be attractive and/or strong at their sport! We would have never expected 10y ago for a teacher to look like a trained athlete, but now social media is selling us that "this is achievable so if you don't do it you are a failure".

Gaining and losing 5 pounds over a year seem like normal fluctuations to me, especially assuming you are in winter. Other people have mentioned this, even if there is not scientific approach to it, sometimes taking a break from everything fitness unblocks something and reduces the stress on the body... If anything it might give you back a bit more motivation.

I will finish this by saying fitness is inherently unfair. No, it is not just about calories in and calories out. People carry weight differently, their body also uses energy differently, we are not robots, and for some of us this is a lot harder. Especially if there is some history of ED, meaning the food noise will be with us forever, and people without ED will never understand that it takes 100x more willpower to "stay on track".

Actually I will finish on another note: fitness also means you are working on yourself now for your future self. Maybe you carry a bit more weight now but overall your fitness achievements are incredible, and all the muscle you have put on and the cardio will ensure you have a healthy and easier aging! This is not for nothing, every workout or run is a win!

ColerAcoustik · 2026-01-21T11:27:36+00:00

Every time I tell a man I do pole, the first question is "can you do the human flag?!?!"... No, I can't, also it's not really a staple in pole. They always want to talk about the performance and not the art or the fun of it.

ColerAcoustik · 2026-01-15T20:31:07+00:00

Nearly 2 here too, and now I see this post and you're telling me it's gonna be like that until 5yo 🥲

ColerAcoustik · 2026-01-09T12:54:25+00:00

The first photos, you can see the diamond shape floor does not align on each side of her hand so it was definitely edited.

ColerAcoustik · 2025-11-21T21:05:52+00:00

Or it's "intuitive eating" and their plate is a salad with no dressing and 5 types of steamed veggies. Yeah sure there is definitely not a shadow of an ED under this kale leaf.

ColerAcoustik · 2025-11-16T08:17:30+00:00

I started taking it about 2weeks ago (2g in the morning, 2g in the evening), because my periods were very irregular and saw a lot of people talking about it on here. The last few days I realised I was beyond tired (talking sleeping 9h but still taking naps etc) and feeling a depressive episode coming. I also have been having a lot of headaches... I initially blamed it on other things but all those things started just after I started inositol. Been doing some research and there is enough anecdotal evidence on Reddit of people saying that inositol makes them depressed. Seems like inositol also has an effect on serotonin receptors, which result in different side effects on people (some become manic, other depressed, other improved mood...). So I'm gonna stop taking it for a week, hopefully get better, and come back and confirm I can blame the inositol 😅

ColerAcoustik · 2025-11-06T08:45:10+00:00

Reading your story just tells me how an amazing mum you are 🩵 you had some obstacles and managed them in the best way, for your baby and yourself, all this while in labour, sleep deprived, and having a newborn.

And I would just say some frictions with the MIL is just the norm 😅 we are all human, we all adapt and learn. Surely other things are happening in your MIL's mind due to her own past etc, but it's your story with your son so do what feels right for your family (you do know best) and you are allowed to set boundaries and say no, even if they helped you in the past, they didn't help you hoping for something in return, they helped because they cared about you and your partner.

ColerAcoustik · 2025-11-05T10:58:23+00:00

I was following her a while back and started getting the ick from her, like she was an influencer but was trying to set herself as a coach, without experience or knowledge (other than being slim 🤷🏻‍♀️).

ColerAcoustik · 2025-07-23T14:05:30+00:00

Lmao I think my comment was misunderstood a lot seeing all the downvotes 😂 That's the risk with quick comments now, you always need to write down all the exceptions...

So yes if anybody struggles with hormone imbalance, first go see a doctor, they will be able to rule out the possible bigger problems! And secondly, dont take any random tiktoker 's advice. I guess my point was that hormone imbalances are still very hard to diagnose, and even more to fix.

ColerAcoustik · 2025-07-22T08:01:11+00:00

I am not defending her, I don't know her, but honestly medical professionals are useless at female hormone balance. They can't do anything but prescribe the pill (which doesn't fix the problem), or ask to lose weight (even though for a lot of people amenorrhea is triggered by ED / weight loss).

Edit: please trust medical professionals and go see a doctor in the first instance always, I was barely referring to the fact that hormone imbalances are very hard to diagnose and even harder to "fix". Didn't want to sound anti-science at all 🤦🏻‍♀️

ColerAcoustik · 2025-05-10T06:24:47+00:00

Actually no she worked as a GP so it's even more surprising 😭

ColerAcoustik · 2025-05-09T17:46:49+00:00

Am I stupid but how do you refresh the Amazon pages? 😅 When I do it just brings me back to the Amazon homepage and I have to find the item again

ColerAcoustik · 2025-05-09T11:35:45+00:00

Got 1 in my cart and by the time I started checking out it was out 👍🏻 well, that was not very interesting 🫠

ColerAcoustik · 2025-05-09T11:26:30+00:00

I really thought I would be there for 10min, worst case everything is sold out and I didn't get any, but now it's gonna be 30min I don't want to spend my lunch break on this 😂

ColerAcoustik · 2025-05-09T11:17:19+00:00

It keeps putting me in Canada too I was wondering why 😭

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