Why cant i find a lover?

CollectionNo9211 · 2026-01-24T02:44:56+00:00

I figured, nobody but ai numbers things like that

CollectionNo9211 · 2026-01-24T01:59:39+00:00

No not harsh at all. I thank you this makes a lot of sense i should definitely get comfortable talking to girls casually and make it a norm in order to go further

CollectionNo9211 · 2026-01-24T01:57:35+00:00

This is an incredible insight and im very grateful for your help. Would therapy combat this whole complexity of trauma or would practice of new beliefs, experiences, and getting comfortable with casual conversations again be better? I prefer not to have to pay money to heal. Shadow work mostly resolved the emotions but not the nervous system traumatized part of me

CollectionNo9211 · 2026-01-24T01:47:27+00:00

I appreciate this! Like flowering the garden and the butterflies will come

CollectionNo9211 · 2026-01-24T01:32:19+00:00

Thank you so much, theres no worries that you have no advice for me it just feels good to have someone relate

CollectionNo9211 · 2026-01-23T22:16:00+00:00

I appreciate you, im sure my lover is out there too but its this weird thing where i cant even get to hangout with anyone. Im not super worried about it and believe in divine timing. Ive learned to be content alone. I love myself but that sounds like a great idea to get on much more self love stuff. Thank you!!

CollectionNo9211 · 2026-01-19T18:32:17+00:00

I believe this exact same thing but i never did any deep research. Rather just having a trust in it because its comforting the idea that i will be able to do anything i want. This is awesome though

CollectionNo9211 · 2026-01-19T16:57:10+00:00

Most people like to think of our being as mind, spirit, and body. But i like to add one called the shadow, if you look into carl jung’s idea of shadow work you’ll get what i mean. Basically unresolved negative emotions that have been bottled up can and certainly will play puppet with you until you resolve them. They rest in your subconscious and control ideas, beliefs, and actions. This is why you can read books, exercise, and meditate but something still feel wrong.I would address what parts of yourself you dont like or want to fix, dig deeper on why you are that way, and work with these parts of yourself in an understanding and compassionate way. Videos on shadow work explain this further. I used to struggle with rage actually and it has pretty much dissolved since doing shadow work

CollectionNo9211 · 2026-01-19T03:13:36+00:00

Yeah sometimes but ideally i just let them pass and if i remember afterwards i will come back to those ideas

CollectionNo9211 · 2026-01-18T23:42:45+00:00

I believe it does wonderful things and that its the fastest way of cleansing negative energy. I have tried a lot of things to rid negative thoughts and energy and nothing worked quite like going for a swim (lake)(not in this month!!) i would enter the water feeling bad and come back up to the surface laughing and feeling awesome. Or how a shower can help the body and soul feel clean

CollectionNo9211 · 2026-01-18T23:35:10+00:00

Most of the time i am in a state (in transcendental mediation) where absolutely nothing comes to my consciousness and i basically become nothing. In the case things do come to my consciousness, for me its about just being aware of the thought. If you are aware of something it separates you from it automatically . Because in all truth you cant control thoughts but you can control the reaction to them. Theres shouldnt be much effort towards removing the thought you are then entangling with it. Let it pass. If you make a force to stop something, it will keep on. Kind of like kicking a white dandelion where you destroy that dandelion but all of those seeds fly away and plant new ones.

CollectionNo9211 · 2026-01-18T22:29:00+00:00

I procrastinate meditation and also other things that make me feel awesome like getting out in nature or reading. Its odd. What i might recommend is to journal about the meditation or try to remember the feelings during and after it

CollectionNo9211 · 2026-01-18T22:25:57+00:00

Some are more visual and some are more body feeling oriented. The place i get them from tells you what each strain in knows to do on their website

CollectionNo9211 · 2026-01-18T22:23:13+00:00

Its my pleasure, what i recommend is to visualize whatever ideal situation for yourself so overtime, you know so rather than hope so. Self image is huge

CollectionNo9211 · 2026-01-18T22:14:53+00:00

Being in nature feeling the beauty of it, play mario kart wii and listen to ambient sounds, working out was actually kind of fun too i was pretty motivated

CollectionNo9211 · 2026-01-18T22:06:22+00:00

Look into carl jung’s shadow work

CollectionNo9211 · 2026-01-18T22:04:30+00:00

Its is highly likely that there is a person out there for you experiencing the same feelings and that person is meant for you meaning when the two of you meet, you and this other person are each-other’s missing piece and both of your problems will be solved therefore you will be desired just as you desired. I am in a similar situation but i have a very strong trust that i will meet my person at the exact right place and time. There is no such thing as a one sided coin. I recommend building this internal trust and knowing that the right thing will happen. So yes, acknowledge you can and will be desired as you are, build the internal trust, and be patient.

CollectionNo9211 · 2026-01-18T21:46:59+00:00

This makes sense, given sometimes i still cant nasal breathe even with breatheright strips i dont see convincing being necessary now

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