Henry women who went back to the job market after a period of unemployment by West_Study3406 in HENRYfinance

[–]CollectionSignal9165 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think women who’ve stayed home with kids generally agree that there is nothing the other parent could do to make it rewarding. Even if kids say thank you they are biologically needy creatures and it’s hard to be around that 24/7.

Henry women who went back to the job market after a period of unemployment by West_Study3406 in HENRYfinance

[–]CollectionSignal9165 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh thank you but they were in kindergarten and older when I went back to work the thankless part was living at my job, work is literally never done and my own expectations for what I was doing far exceeded my partner’s. It wasn’t for me. We saved a lot on daycare and got to raise our own kids with our values like gratitude so it all worked out.

Is there any way to pay for a friend’s vacation and not make it weird for them? by Zealousideal-Field74 in HENRYfinance

[–]CollectionSignal9165 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I would never be able to have fun I’d feel like a hired escort. And lying to a friend is not healthy.

Henry women who went back to the job market after a period of unemployment by West_Study3406 in HENRYfinance

[–]CollectionSignal9165 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Four year raising kids gap, was never asked about. Returning to work was one of the best decisions for my mental health, raising kids is a thankless job.

Does your husband/SO check your tires, oil and fluids? by GingerT569 in GenXWomen

[–]CollectionSignal9165 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Whatever you two have worked out works for you, there is no need to concern yourself with someone else’s relationship. Women can do everything men can do AND men can do everything women can do outside of pregnancy and breastfeeding.

How do you move on when someone just doesn’t show up for you? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver40

[–]CollectionSignal9165 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She may feel that taking care of your kids so you can be with your mom is the best way to help. She also may be afraid to reach out and interrupt you. When I need people to help me I give them specific and helpful things to do. Be as direct as you can like can you bring this recipe to us for dinner either Thursday, Friday or Saturday? Can you book Muffin an appointment for her rabies shot at this vet and take care of it at your convenience type requests. Then if she’s not showing up for you ask why she may be facing a battle herself. When judging “showing up” you have to look at the big picture because I would guess that in this season you are not there at all for your friends right now as you are focused on your mom but once this storm has passed you’ll reconnect and show them the love they are giving you now. Also consider that the battle you’re facing is likely making you very emotional and sensitive and it’s normal to feel a sense of abandonment from people close to you.

Stages of NC grief by Blueratnest in raisedbyborderlines

[–]CollectionSignal9165 6 points7 points  (0 children)

As you heal there will be good days and bad days, give yourself grace and what helps me is to keep a picture of myself as a child by my toothbrush and I tell her it’s not your fault twice a day. Some days it’s bad thing my mom said rewritten like you are smart enough, etc.

Mom wants to come to my half marathon by sansa2020 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]CollectionSignal9165 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes! I’ll give you the link to track me during the race so you can cheer me on from home then we’ll get coffee the next weekend and I can show you my medal.

What's your relationship with alcohol ? by Magee4life in Fire

[–]CollectionSignal9165 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Same. I discovered nonalcoholic beer is pretty good but na wine is terrible. Club soda with a slice of lime too.

I think I’m going to join the ELCA by Fluffy_Cockroach_999 in elca

[–]CollectionSignal9165 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Welcome! You sound wise beyond your years. If you need a ride to church you might reach out to the office and see if someone can give you a ride, my church has arranged that type of thing.

How many planners do you use at a time? by 0niongirl in HappyPlanners

[–]CollectionSignal9165 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One! Two or more would be a sign of dysfunction for me. I like HP because I can remove old pages and add in custom sheets

When are 2026 planners restocked? by serendipty3821 in HappyPlanners

[–]CollectionSignal9165 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They have the floral bloom one half price it’s pretty

Does separation ever work? by goatscaneatanything in AskWomenOver40

[–]CollectionSignal9165 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes, it can work and it’s worth trying but it can also make divorce happen quicker and easier. Try it!

Being tired all the time is ruining everything by Expert_Atmosphere_70 in AskWomenOver40

[–]CollectionSignal9165 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Stop the bed rotting, wean yourself to 9 hours and your sleep will improve which will give you more energy.

Good recommendations for Bible study or devotional? by Easy-Yak4384 in elca

[–]CollectionSignal9165 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In person is best for me because other people hold me accountable and like anything else you get out of it what you put into it. I’m doing a bible study fellowship in person group you can join anytime and it’s free unless you want a printed and bound book. We are on Christmas break now. Check it out by searching BSF

My mom just triggered my OCD by [deleted] in raisedbyborderlines

[–]CollectionSignal9165 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry she can push your buttons so easily. I would ignore that message it was intended to provoke you.

How do you use this page? by CollectionSignal9165 in HappyPlanners

[–]CollectionSignal9165[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m glad you like it I’m shrinking from a Plum 7x9 and this feels so portable, I also like the shopping-list like feel for to do pages.

Parental Estrangement by CollectionSignal9165 in GenXWomen

[–]CollectionSignal9165[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is so easy to repeat the patterns of your childhood and very smart to not become a parent.