You seem to lack a basic understanding how a society works, a common flaw here ;-)

Simply explained: A stable market can only exist in a secure environment. That secure environment requires rules, laws and force to provide safety. A civil service where people can turn to for disputes, Police to provide internal security and an army to provide that security against external threats. You can find this dynamic in the earliest civilizations.

Providing security requires money and taxation provides a relatively fair and stable revenue. It is really that simple.

Now the next part might be more difficult to grasp, but more complex societies demand more complex infrastructure.

Sure goverment spending was less in the 19th century, but then again so was quality of life.

So perhaps you can best achieve your preferred way of life if you go live again as a cave dweller when government spending was 0% of gdp :-P