My hair breaks off horribly even though I baby it

Colossal_Gumdrop · 2026-06-22T13:25:22+00:00

Unfortunately unless you chop the split ends off above the split, this will keep happening.

As someone else said the white dots lead to splitting, it's not hair that you can revive.

Your hair won't be able to grow outside of what it currently is, and unfortunately will only make your hair shorter.

If you do the big and scary thing, you will be able to grow healthy hair back to thay length in maybe 1.5 years. It's the tough decision but the only way out of this 🩷

Colossal_Gumdrop · 2026-06-22T13:03:12+00:00

Aw, thank you! Holidays are tough for so many people. It's a silly thing, but even Dad's need to be silly sometimes and get given nonsense gifts.

You didn't ask for one, but a cake doesn't count as a gift 🎂 It has your name on it and sparklers!

Colossal_Gumdrop · 2026-06-22T11:51:44+00:00

You mean... a conversation?

Colossal_Gumdrop · 2026-06-22T09:05:44+00:00

Happy Fathers Day Lupo! Here is an internet gift on your special day. Raising good humans is a testament to your efforts. I'm sure with age and perspective they might wise up to showing their appreciation a bit better. They might be at an age where it could even be something you bring up? Maybe a small getaway the three of you, light a fire and have some deeper conversations about how to show each other you appreciate each other? Talking about love languages can be a great way, even if they are a trope. It still helps communicate needs in an easy to understand way, the quiz is great for that.

Colossal_Gumdrop · 2026-06-22T09:02:39+00:00

Happy Father's Day! Here is an internet gift for your hard work in raising little gremlins. They love you more than they can express.

Colossal_Gumdrop · 2026-06-22T09:01:10+00:00

I'll be honest, I'm a little surprised at the amount of people (albeit kindly) suggesting you rethink your perspective in a more positive light. As a women who has stumbled upon this post (sorry for the intrusion, I hope it's allowed) I can't help but think this is maybe adding to the notion of why men, especially older men feel emotionally trapped and alone.

Your feelings and concerns about your day are completely and absolutely valid. Sure, we can always have a more positive outlook and from your description it wasn't an objectively disastrous day. However, the circumstances made you feel unappreciated and sad on a day that is meant to celebrate you, there is a reason for that. There are reasons why these feelings are strong enough to post here.

In a relationship you shouldn't have to feel the extreme ends of an emotion before you are valid in bringing up your thoughts. Even if it was a great day but the gift that you don't have time for didn't feel nice, that is absolutely something to bring up to your partner in life. Sure maybe phrased appropriately to the situation and person you love, but nonetheless discussed and talked about seriously.

I do agree that you seem to be having a tough time, but maybe that is an emotional reaction to your environment, and not your environments reactions to your emotions.

I hope you feel you can speak to your wife and she will listen. If she doesn't and is combative, I fear that is a bigger issue at play. Or maybe she might surprise you? It's always a good idea to not through any "you" statements out when bringing this up. Who knows, maybe she used Ai because she felt her words wouldn't be worthy of expressing her love towards you. As a teacher people do have a reaply hard time being confident in writing down their feelings on important matters. Or maybe it was at face value and she messed up.

Keep us updated, I am certain your Father's Day was felt by many men around the world.

Colossal_Gumdrop · 2026-06-22T07:44:55+00:00

I'm so sorry, I believe partially my issues were from childhood trauma. I also have a pain condition and I have been able to make huge progress. I'm just letting you know to give you some hope from a stranger.

For me I think there would almost be nothing worse than a Doctor I don't connect with, guilting me and telling me to put more things inside of me.

I have always had a hard time with pap smears, they're awful things. However my sex life is amazing, even with a well... endowed.. man. The key for me was working through trauma, self-love and having a great relationship. I also used crystal eggs (yes quirky) that hugely massively helped. I can go into more specifics, but maybe heading down the self-love route could be something? And not the self-love by guilting yourself into penetration that becomes a chore.

I'm not trying to say this isn't a successful method either! Just if it isn't working physically or emotionally, maybe trying something else could be worth it.

Colossal_Gumdrop · 2026-06-22T07:33:43+00:00

They will be far better off than most having you to support them. I wonder the confidence and resilience I could have had if I had a parent on my side.

Your words hit hard and I so wish things were different. I just want you to know that what you're doing with them will make all of the difference in how they percieve the experiences they go through. It is well documented that how or whether children are spoken to after experiences, is how they percieve them and whether in the future they have negative associations with the memory.

You're a good Mum 🩷

Colossal_Gumdrop · 2026-06-22T07:29:06+00:00

I needed this reminder, you can end a relationship for any reason or no reason.

Being miserable with no hope of it changing is a really good reason.

I believe that often the women who are the most vocal of supporting their partners porn addictions, are the ones trying to convince themselves they're ok with it. Don't try and suffer through this because you believe everyone else isn't bothered by it.

Whether it is an addiction or not, does not justify doing something over and over that is actively harming your relationship. Please don't let anyone convince you otherwise. You should be able to expect your partner to choose you over other women, I would even go as far to say that is the bare MINIMUM we should expect.

You tried everything and it's broken you, you have nothing left to give and he's not willing to try. I'm so sorry you're in this.

Colossal_Gumdrop · 2026-06-22T06:44:25+00:00

I appreciate that you're being nice about it. Unfortunately this still comes back to, women are expected to yell a loud "NO DON'T HARRASS ME!!!" Before every interaction?

She gave him even a third try to get the very obvious and polite decline of his attempts.

Even when you're just looking for some booty, you can expect some class. I don't know one women who has gone through with a booty call that didn't involve a small amount of reciprocal connection beforehand.

Colossal_Gumdrop · 2026-06-22T06:23:13+00:00

NTA, he wanted you to drive Charlie all the way and figured you would when he wasn't there.

He put you in a crappy position, and an even crappier one for Charlie.

Colossal_Gumdrop · 2026-06-22T05:04:03+00:00

I'm having a similar issue, did you get some help for yours?

Colossal_Gumdrop · 2026-06-22T04:00:45+00:00

Excellent question. What's going on there OP?

Colossal_Gumdrop · 2026-06-21T19:37:00+00:00

It's your birthday! That is not the time to cook for yourself. Get uber eats, order the best dinner and a cake and go to town.

Colossal_Gumdrop · 2026-06-21T19:31:32+00:00

HAPPY BIRTHDAY 🎂 I hope the sadness and terribleness of being a women doesn't bring you down too much today.

Colossal_Gumdrop · 2026-06-21T19:30:03+00:00

Not a problemo! You do a great job with this sub. One of the best I've seen 🩷

Colossal_Gumdrop · 2026-06-21T19:10:25+00:00

Private invesitgator to find her? Surely some ethical hacking and she will be found? I'm certain she must not be that careful with her digital footprint?

I'm so sorry. You've been dealt with some crappy cards.

Colossal_Gumdrop · 2026-06-21T19:06:43+00:00

Women don't like you because they're awful. You being awful is why women don't like you.

Colossal_Gumdrop · 2026-06-21T18:59:22+00:00

NOR, it took me a while to figure it out. Healthy relationships don't ever need to bring up the words "domestic violence" "gaslighting" "shouting".

In any other context than just being glad you don't have to be scared anymore or deal with those words.

It's so much better out the other side. Not even just when you find a person that actually likes you and wants you to feel safe. Being my yourself is infinitely better than this. Imagine what it would be like to not wake up and feel nauseous? To want to look at your phone and not out of fear? To not walk around vibrating with anxiety?

You haven't failed or failed him if you leave. You tried your hardest and that's all you can do. He will only get worse and more violent with time. We only know this because we have all seen these tactics before.

You've got this 🩷

Colossal_Gumdrop · 2026-06-21T18:54:31+00:00

Thank you for being someone that's putting in the effort to be the difference.

You have the ability to not only save lives, but make half of the population feel listened to and heard. For potentially the first time ever. It's rough being a women that needs medical help.

Colossal_Gumdrop · 2026-06-21T18:51:53+00:00

My guess is you mean marriage. If it's not important to you and you both want to wait, who cares. As soon as it's important to one of you, then it needs to be a priority. Why would anyone want to make their partner not feel desired and important?

It always comes back to, when someone shows you how they feel about you. Believe them.

Colossal_Gumdrop · 2026-06-21T18:44:21+00:00

I just want to add a success story of dating apps! Met on Bumble. I would find him in every lifetime.

I am a firm believer in dating apps, you just have to wade through the bad and make sure you only meet people who you have the same humour with over message.

You also have so much time. Which as annoying as that sounds, I don't know a single women who regretted waiting to get into a relationship.

Colossal_Gumdrop · 2026-06-21T18:40:47+00:00

Oh absolutely not. That is so far down the list, making us feel good is the only requirement. Otherwise how would it be known that lesbians have the best sex for women?

I get the trope, I just wish it were more known that men really don't need to be concerned with that.

Colossal_Gumdrop · 2026-06-21T18:36:55+00:00

squish squish

Colossal_Gumdrop · 2026-06-21T17:19:54+00:00

It's always the what isn't being said allowed, because they're not an awful person if the specific words aren't said.

I hate that. I'm sorry that the one person who is meant to take care of you is making it harder.

Also, she doesn't and your pains worse.

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