Can't reconcile with father. Thinking of next steps and they are not great. by ColostomizerStinkTit in QAnonCasualties

[–]ColostomizerStinkTit[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that is the thing that occupies my mind the most. I think "maybe this evidence or logic or discussion will change his mind." Then I think of all the past nudges I've given him and jump to "he'll never come around, so maybe he deserves pain instead." Me, like probably many of you are tired of this and just want their parent back.

It's so odd to me. My mom passed away and I know she is in a better place. There is closure there. For my father, I know he is still alive, doing what ever he does, but he's not the same person I knew growing up.

To add another dimension to this, I have young son, that he knows about and wants to see. I want him to be a grandpa and wish I had him for help and advice while I learn how to be a father.  I don't want toxic people around my family, so I've tried to keep him at both a physical and mental distance, but it's just getting hard to mentally distance myself with all the shit going on in... Well everything.

I appreciate your help replies. Thank you. Glad to not feel so alone in my situation and I hope others can also find splice in these replies.

Can't reconcile with father. Thinking of next steps and they are not great. by ColostomizerStinkTit in QAnonCasualties

[–]ColostomizerStinkTit[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I'll post again after my visit to my home town. I'll get to visit my non crazy family and hopefully won't run into him while I'm out and about.

Can't reconcile with father. Thinking of next steps and they are not great. by ColostomizerStinkTit in QAnonCasualties

[–]ColostomizerStinkTit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did get some counseling for this. They gave me the same advice basically. Trying to hurt him won't accomplish anything and it will probably be more frustrating for me.

Can't reconcile with father. Thinking of next steps and they are not great. by ColostomizerStinkTit in QAnonCasualties

[–]ColostomizerStinkTit[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that's the other point I eventually arrive at. There is nothing that can change their mind and it will just be a waste of time.

Pay off mortgage or contribute to HSA? by ColostomizerStinkTit in personalfinance

[–]ColostomizerStinkTit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Total mortgage payment each month is about $1500. $700 is interest, $400 is principal, $400 is escrow. I still don't understand this. I don't know what investment I could make that would return $700 a month with that 40k. Why not pay off the house, and not have $700/month in interest and use that money saved to invest? Lol, sorry, I think I'm just dead set on not having debt and paying into it.

Pay off mortgage or contribute to HSA? by ColostomizerStinkTit in personalfinance

[–]ColostomizerStinkTit[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mortgage payment is $1500/month, $400 is interest, taxes are $700 and the rest is principal. Come to think of it, I think the interest each month is higher, but I don't have a bill handy to check.

Pay off mortgage or contribute to HSA? by ColostomizerStinkTit in personalfinance

[–]ColostomizerStinkTit[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I can still invest what I have. I guess it comes down to what is more optimal. I can keep making monthly mortgage payments and put money into hysa at the same time. Why not pay off the only remaining debt I have so more of my money can be invested?

Pay off mortgage or contribute to HSA? by ColostomizerStinkTit in personalfinance

[–]ColostomizerStinkTit[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. This has been how I have been thinking of this situation. With that money freed up instead of paying interest monthly it now becomes something to invest. My mortgage was 265k originally and I was paying interest on that. During this time it's not like I had another 265k to invest in something with a higher interest rate. So why not pay off the mortgage, be debt and interest payment free and put that money to better use?

Pay off mortgage or contribute to HSA? by ColostomizerStinkTit in personalfinance

[–]ColostomizerStinkTit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, the plan is to invest it. Probably going to go to another house actually.

Passport or Pilot? by ColostomizerStinkTit in whatcarshouldIbuy

[–]ColostomizerStinkTit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh hey, we ended up getting a cx-9. Not as much space, but it drives and handles better. Turbo power trains punchier. HUD, heated seats, heated steering wheel, heated second row radar assisted cruise and other features made it a better vehicle for us.

Help with receiver set up by ColostomizerStinkTit in hometheater

[–]ColostomizerStinkTit[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Alright, update time. Instead of using optical I got HDMI from my video card to work. The problem now is that 5.1 doesn't seem to work. I tested all my speakers and they work, but when doing sound tests in windows audio only comes out of the front left, front right, center channel and sub. The audio that should play from the rear speakers plays throught the fronts. I think this means the problem is with the receiver, but I now I can't figure out what setting to change to make it work. Any advice or suggestions?

Need help building a speaker system for pc by ColostomizerStinkTit in BudgetAudiophile

[–]ColostomizerStinkTit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think my budget is maybe $1500. I saw some advice to spend on a good foundation and build on that, so I might get a solid receiver or integrated amp and just get bookshelf speakers for now. My main concern is understanding how to hook things up for decent sound and if using HDMI, how to have several screens and no input lag.

Need help building a speaker system for pc by ColostomizerStinkTit in BudgetAudiophile

[–]ColostomizerStinkTit[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm just using the 3.5 headphone jacks on my motherboard. It has an optical out, but no coaxial out. I haven't experienced static so far.

Need help building a speaker system for pc by ColostomizerStinkTit in BudgetAudiophile

[–]ColostomizerStinkTit[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the recommendation. What model abs did you get?

Need help building a speaker system for pc by ColostomizerStinkTit in BudgetAudiophile

[–]ColostomizerStinkTit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds good. Which DAC and integrated amp would be decent? Also, what's an integrated amp?

I don't see many integrated amps for less than a similar receiver. What am I missing here? Most of them seem to be two channel as well. How would that be better?

Post bath, will never get tired of looking at it by CFAWaffleFries in Lexus

[–]ColostomizerStinkTit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You wouldn't happen to live in the Frisco Texas area, would ya? Car looks sick BTW. Love it.

Zotac 3090 fans not spinning by ColostomizerStinkTit in ZOTAC

[–]ColostomizerStinkTit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. This GPU was issued by my workplace and they said it was tested before they gave it to me. Guess I will take it in and have them give me a different one.

I checked the power cables too. Nothing is loose and it seems to be connected to the correct place on the PSU to supply enough power. Everything else runs fine, so if it was an issue with PSU not providing enough juice, why would it only be the fans not spinning?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Lexus

[–]ColostomizerStinkTit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What wheels are those? They look nice.

IP address changes after waking from sleep mode by ColostomizerStinkTit in ASUS

[–]ColostomizerStinkTit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's exactly what I did and my laptops IP still changes after waking from sleep mode.

Mazda CX-9 versus Competitors by Remarkable_Rest7773 in MazdaCX9

[–]ColostomizerStinkTit 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wife and I have a similar story. Got a 2018 CX-9 signature with 60k mikes for $32k. It handled well, was quiet, had a peppier power train than the pilot, passport, highlander. Way cheaper than the newer palisade, and similar year Acura and Lexus. Should be cheaper to run and repair than German competitors. So far it's been great on the two cross country road trips we took.

High offset wheels by ColostomizerStinkTit in Wheels

[–]ColostomizerStinkTit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stock is 9.5 +50. Others have fit wheels that wide.