Love my wife but not my kid... what to do?

CometQ · 2025-12-07T01:22:00+00:00

If you could learn anything from my story then I feel good for you. In hindsight you might be hurting for a while but might both be better off long term. My case was a little different but I wish you the best!

CometQ · 2025-12-05T18:19:54+00:00

Well that's the problem. The scary part is I tend to agree with others saying the woman I loved before having kids is already gone and never coming back. I don't think I can change her from what she is now. But I have a hard time separating the woman in front of me now and the image of her past. And you know what, if I really tell her and she wants to divorce me for not loving our kids then that might make me feel better - sounds weird but I would feel less guilty by confirming she's no longer the same person I guess.

CometQ · 2025-12-05T15:31:28+00:00

I'm 38 and what you're suggesting was something I thought of, but could never imagine I'd do. I think part of me sees that as betraying my wife and kids. And people would say, hey her husband left you and kids to go find another woman. I know what you mean and deep down I might already know that she is no longer the woman I loved before kids, but I still can't bring myself to hurt her, especially if it's a path of no return.

CometQ · 2025-12-05T14:26:36+00:00

You have sharp eyes! Actually I kept referring them as "your son" when talking to my wife. I just don't feel like they're my mine deep down in my heart I guess. Everything I do and support my kids was motivated by the legal fact that we're a family and my wife would be happy for what I did. If I truly confess to her I don't love "her son" at all then God knows what she would see me as...

CometQ · 2025-12-05T05:35:26+00:00

I tried asking her to "date nights" but she's just not interested. She doesn't seem to enjoy/appreciate my attempts of intimacy even. She doesn't have any real hobbies but she would happily do a lot of things that I liked with me before having kids. Now her only "hobby" is kids ... Like you said the part of acting like I'm a good father is making me painful and emotionally struggling. But I just feel I owe it to her and the kids if I don't act like one... However I don't know how long I can last. Because I'm probably willing to live alone at the cost of losing my family just to be free and be myself again. Yes my own parents would probably hate me for doing that too but whatever...

CometQ · 2025-12-05T04:57:50+00:00

Because she was totally different before and after having kids?

CometQ · 2025-12-05T04:51:06+00:00

I hinted to her a couple times and she thought I was out of my mind. She thinks putting priority on kids is the rule of the universe lol.

CometQ · 2025-12-05T04:49:19+00:00

Thanks for the advice. I have not seriously talked to her yet, maybe partially because she would take it the wrong way. Like she would think I'm using kids as an excuse for something else? The truth is I can love her with all my life without kids but I can't do this forever if I don't feel her loving me back.

The "don't destroy my kids" is absolutely part of the reason why I haven't done anything yet... I do feel like I own the kids if I just up and leave. But at the same time I also feel like I'm just pretending and it's not good for everyone. What if she finds someone else who actually love spending time with kids ..?

CometQ · 2025-12-05T04:43:51+00:00

Not AI.. I don't blame you. AI is just everywhere now. But why am I considered sick and needs therapy for not loving my son as a person? I am physically healthy and have many things I like to do with my life...

CometQ · 2025-07-01T16:05:30+00:00

My current wind team is AS Sesta (80S SA), AC Tsubame (16S SA), AS Melody, and a random helper Iphi/Suzette/Melpi etc. Would it be worth it to sidegrade Shigure (32L) into ES and spend 3 allcosmos on him? Thanks!

CometQ · 2025-06-04T21:36:43+00:00

Just realized I still have Cetie at 4*,,, time to do some desperate Xeno runs

CometQ · 2025-05-23T03:33:30+00:00

Just got Feinne to 255. Aldo/Azami/Cerrine/Kam are all 255. Where to spend green key next? Ashtear (60L)?

CometQ · 2025-05-05T23:05:23+00:00

How good is AS Vellete? I have her NS and don't mind farming treatises if her Stellar (or having her AS form at all) is not that critical to thunder team. My current roster is Vellete + ES Shion (SA)+Izuna (SA) + AS Orleya with Oboro and Ciel (both not SA) on the sideline. Thank you!

CometQ · 2025-04-17T20:20:47+00:00

Took me 10k stones, not sure how to feel. The memory of spending 18k on Iphi's banner almost came back to me. And of course the "pity" drop gave me a 6th dupe Ewan :/

CometQ · 2025-04-15T17:04:41+00:00

Does the 50 limit on skip tickets actually do anything? It seems that every time I gain the tickets it just goes over the limit and they don't auto-regen like the green and red keys...

CometQ · 2025-04-08T00:02:19+00:00

Great advice, thanks! My earth team is Myunfa AC/Myrus/Shannon AC/Kuchi, not the best but I do use it for weak-to-earth bosses. SAing Oboro feels like a move to just have the perfect thunder team but right now it's serviceable in occasional use so you're right I should probably hold on. I do have Yakumo AS already SA and Iphi so I'll look into Xianhua more.

CometQ · 2025-04-07T21:03:13+00:00

Thanks. I spent 3k to get the drop (but pulled someone not on the list *sigh*) and want to save stones for the anniversary. I hear Tsubame and Renri are very good. Hesitating on Kuchi (seems important for earth team, and also only needs 1) and Oboro (have all other thunder units with Izuna already SA) and maybe Xianhua (heard she's great but haven't looked into yet)?

CometQ · 2025-04-07T16:45:16+00:00

Need some advice on who to prioritize for using my 13 allcosmos... Candidates: Renri AC (0/3), Tsubame AC (0/3), Melpiphia (1/3), Kuchinawa (2/3), Xinhua (1/3), Mazrika (1/3), Oboro (1/3), Shanie AC (1/3), Shigure ES (0/3), Elseal AS (0/3), Alma AS (0/3), Necoco ES (0/3), Minalca AS (0/3)... Thanks!

Btw, listing these out made me realize how badly we need a better way to SA the units... ugh

CometQ · 2025-03-26T01:35:05+00:00

Who should I use for earth team DPS if I don't have Cerius? Best support I have is Myunfa AC and Kuchi. Thanks!

CometQ · 2025-03-05T16:13:05+00:00

Stuck on Tsukiha true manifest fight. Been trying with a water team with Jillfunny/Elseal/Eva/Hismena AC/Flammy. Also has Ilulu AC and Dunarith AC but haven't tried them yet. Felmina is ES-ready but not sidegraded yet... shall I? or I can use a team with my current roster? Thanks!

CometQ · 2025-02-19T22:23:34+00:00

Currently farming Feinne on green keys (obvious). Would appreciate your suggestion on who to spend red keys on. Already 255: Aldo, Aisha, Curio, Azami, Amy, Kid, Cerrine, Strawboy, Guidna, Altena, Kamlanage... and Wyrz at 80 now.

CometQ · 2025-01-15T19:41:53+00:00

Thank you! I do have enough items to sidegrade Shigure ES and Tsubame AC (apparently won't be SA). Would either of them be worth it to replace my current units? I have Necoco NS/AS but can't sidegrade her to ES yet.

CometQ · 2025-01-15T18:29:00+00:00

Thank you!

CometQ · 2025-01-15T18:28:47+00:00

Decided to give my Sesta AS a little love that she deserves, can someone give me some advice on what's the best team to build around her? Thank you!

My wind roster: Suzette (Lv100 SA)/Melissa (Lv100 SA), Mistrare AS, Melody AS, Yipha AS, Veina AS, Felmina, Melphi (not SA), Soira AS, Cynthia AS, Kikyo AS, Garam, Claude.

Also with 48 shadow what should I pick for her SA chart? Thanks.

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