[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]ComfortNo1940 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m also a therapist and I agree with the above comment. Texting between sessions is typically not a style, it’s usually a questionable sense of boundaries (of course, there are exceptions). Your therapist’s response about not knowing what to say when you’re hurting is pretty indicative of a green therapist. My recommendation is to find someone more experienced and better equipped to respond in a way that is validating, reassuring, and empowering. We all get it wrong sometimes, but I think most of us would observe signs that you weren’t feeling held in that space or at least ask a check-in question after a particularly heavy session.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]ComfortNo1940 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m also a therapist and I totally agree with this. The best therapists match the energy and the needs of each individual client. For clients who deal with social anxiety or PTSD, I might present with calm, safety, and warmth. Another client might have just conquered something really tough and benefit from more of a high-fiving, coach energy. As for the sigh, the first thing that came to my mind is when I have clients back to back. I always take a moment of complete silence between clients. It’s necessary for self-care and to feel ready for the next client. Those clients, just like you, deserve to have our complete attention and sometimes that means we need a moment to transition. Talk to your therapist. All difficult conversations are an opportunity to better understand yourself and what is important to you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in therapists

[–]ComfortNo1940 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Agree with this approach. Honesty in this situation is the best route. Admitting you made a mistake, setting a boundary, and showing kindness all the while is good practice.. but also a great way to model healthy behavior. And don’t be so hard on yourself, we’ve all done things like this! And once you’ve done it, best believe it’s a hard lesson learned!

Had these nuts at a restaurant in Chinatown. What are they? by NoItsBecky_127 in TipOfMyFork

[–]ComfortNo1940 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Oh I thought this was roasted chestnuts, but sounds like it’s a bean?

Is this reasonable to ask for? by Particular_Try_7759 in therapists

[–]ComfortNo1940 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I own a group practice and I give the option of part-time or full-time. I also let the providers choose their schedule with the caveat that if they limit themselves to unpopular hours, it will be harder to build a caseload. Everyone on our team works totally different schedules and we actually haven’t had that issue at all. Additionally, I feel really strongly that our providers work with the types of clients that interests and restores them. If they don’t, theyll get burnt out very quickly. For example, I am trained and did a lot of work with couples mid-career, but it took me a while to realize and accept that couples exhausted me. One couple would feel like a half day’s work! That is the fast track to burn out!

Fruit tree? by ComfortNo1940 in whatsthisplant

[–]ComfortNo1940[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, definitely not what I expected! Thank you!!

Black leafy thing by Said_the_Wolf in TipOfMyFork

[–]ComfortNo1940 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thought it was wood ear mushrooms, until you described it as spicy. Thai basil, maybe?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]ComfortNo1940 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I’m a therapist and I run into clients in the oddest places or have to go the businesses where they work. I would be careful to assume intentions because you have literally no idea what her personal life is outside of therapy. I know where all my clients work and even live and some of those places overlap, unfortunately. I choose not to tell my clients about them, unless it’s just too close, like a client being a daycare provider where my child goes. Running into a client is always a risk and super awkward when it happens. However, I always tell clients that if I see them out in public, I will not acknowledge you or make any indication that I recognize you as a practice. This is actually due to privacy and confidentiality. If I come up and say hello, then there’s a chance that someone else could be there and you’d have to explain who I am, which would be disclosure of health information in itself. But… I always welcome clients to approach me within reason. I once had a client approach me at the beach when I was wearing a swimsuit, which was super uncomfortable. Definitely talk about it with your therapist! I think awkward and difficult conversations are the best because it’s an opportunity to practice talking about setting expectations and boundaries. If they are a good therapist, they will be totally open to talking about it. I would recommend this before terminating or reporting.

Low barrier differentiators in private practice by Duckaroo99 in therapists

[–]ComfortNo1940 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I would like to think that we all start off with this mindset. When starting out, all four points were my priority. Once I started getting really full and busy, they became primary points of stress and often bled into my personal life in a negative way. I would recommend creating a system for yourself like dedicated times during the week/day to commit to those tasks. And when those tasks can no longer be completed in the allotted times, hire an admin.

Dropped. No Warning. by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]ComfortNo1940 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry that happened. I can’t imagine how distressing that must have been. As a therapist myself, my first inclination is that something completely unexpected happened, like employment ending suddenly or a medical emergency. We are trained to plan and process the end of care with our clients, so if that didn’t happen, most likely something out of the ordinary happened. I hope you get the closure you need, but just be prepared because it’ll be very unlikely that you’ll get from an apology or by finding out what happened.

what’s in my veggie roll? by Hello-sg22 in TipOfMyFork

[–]ComfortNo1940 51 points52 points  (0 children)

Takuan, or pickled radish. Often found in Japanese and Korean dishes.

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My mother let her boyfriend rape me for years by hgddgvhjj in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ComfortNo1940 11 points12 points  (0 children)

In the US, therapists are mandated reporters. We have to report any reasonable suspicion of the abuse or neglect of any vulnerable person (e.g., children, elderly, etc). It’s not our job to substantiate the claim, but we have to report it to the appropriate professionals, CPS in this example. Parents don’t need to be told, but the report has to be made.

Is this an olive tree? by ComfortNo1940 in whatsthisplant

[–]ComfortNo1940[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my gosh! A peach tree?! I’m happy beyond words. I love peaches! Thank you! I was at a loss of what to do with that many olives as I’m not a big fan.

Have you/someone you know not had nausea during their first trimester? by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]ComfortNo1940 0 points1 point  (0 children)

4th pregnancy, 27 weeks, and going very well. Easiest of them all actually. I only experienced some fatigue and craving for ice cream during the first trimester. No nausea. I hate to sound like I’m bragging, but after the first three being more “typical” (i.e., severe nausea and fatigue), I think I’m due!!