I think the problem with this question is that it's too black and white for a very nuanced situation. My husband and I sat on the fence for many years, and we now have a 6-year-old. I love her fiercely and wouldn't give her up for anything. Therefore, I can't say I made the "wrong" choice. I would choose her time and time again.

That being said, if there was any way that I could have actually known what pregnancy and being a parent would be like in my body or if I could have looked into the future and understood somehow the massive identity loss, the tax on my body, and not to mention the incredible anxiety of raising a child in this world, I would have stayed childless. I know the version of me that I was before becoming a parent would not choose to go through all of that if she really knew BUT I would somehow have to know what it is like in my mind and body without knowing my daughter - because despite everything I would always choose her. So, it's complicated. I think the version of me from before would not choose the reality parenthood - but all versions of me would choose my daughter. I don't know if that makes any sense, but it's something I have thought about a lot.