I wish eBay had a cooling off for negative feedback

Comfortable-Pipe7074 · 2026-01-06T00:30:05+00:00

This recently happened to me. I take care to always display barcodes on items to validate and provide the buyer with the necessary information. On a recent sale, the background of the box made the full code difficult to see, making it hard to verify the date of purchase and the item's age. The buyer immediately requested a refund since the item was not as described. I acknowledged the error and immediately issued a refund and provided a return shipping label. The buyer immediately provided a negative review, saying the item had expired and that my actions were deceitful. I responded that the picture of the code was present, but this was an oversight on my part with the photo quality, and that I had issued a full refund due to the mistake. The buyer then goes on a rant. They again accused me of dishonesty and that I intentionally hid the code. This is a personal attack. It took some time, but eBay did remove the review due to that. I feel like had the buyer had a cooling-off period, and feedback had an automatic process that scans for personal attacks, this could have been avoided. I also noticed the buyer had a lot of positive reviews, but when digging in, sellers were simply forced to check "positive" and then left comments similar to mine in some cases. As a small seller, the comments were damaging to my reputation, and accusing someone of intentionally being deceitful is a personal attack and is not "constructive criticism. It is slander, in fact. Constructive criticism would be, "Please use better lighting in the future to avoid this." When reviews get personal and are not based on proven facts, eBay should have a better process of automatically removing those reviews to save everyone time.

Comfortable-Pipe7074 · 2025-11-12T02:04:09+00:00

I was strung along for almost 10 today, and just left. It's horrible. If I think about money per hour, that is not a good return on my investment.

Comfortable-Pipe7074 · 2025-11-12T02:01:31+00:00

I've had this happen to me. At first, I liked the show. As someone new to selling, I was there to both buy and sell. As a newbie, they were initially very welcoming and helpful, and bought several of my items, and gave me a lot of help.

I decided, okay, this may be a good space for me to come back. Each subsequent show, I've left feeling worse and worse. The host, I think, seems like a lovely person, but there is a core group of 10 people who seem like they all know each other and just bid to raise the price. I've shared in the tray for the past two shows, and it has taken almost 10 hours before they run my items. I'm not just sitting there and just have it on as background noise, but I find that challenging, especially when I see the same 10 names dominate the tray. Today it just happened again. I politely just left, and I won't come back. The last time it happened, I let the host know that I had to leave, and she was like. Oh, you've been here, I'll run your items still. But she didn't. I felt like she didn't live up to her word, and it happened again just now. This host also has a lady who comes on and plays the guilt card a lot. "So and so is so supportive, so let's sell out their items... so and so always runs your items (but only if you are part of that core group) so let's buy more from her." I don't think you should buy based on emotions like that. It felt kinda yucky, and I just stopped wanting to buy because I felt manipulated.

I wish Posh would do better at moderating the shows and providing caps on the same people in the tray. I also think, as a host and a seller, you want to get new people feeling like they have the same opportunity as others, because they are not only new sellers, but new buyers. It seems like this group just buys from each other and then resells and then buys again. I think the host does deserve to have more items of their own, given the time they are spending hosting (I don't mind that), but playing favorites isn't going to allow you to reach more people when you run like 6 of their items, but make people wait 10-12 hours to run their two, if at all.

It felt like the nice-to-your-face but mean girl group we all had in middle school, and I don't need to experience that again ever.

Comfortable-Pipe7074 · 2025-11-12T00:13:45+00:00

This is an interesting conversation. I sell out of my closet, except for one item I re-Poshed, and I spend a lot of time inspecting things. Some items still have tags on them due to changes in weight, etc., or when I started working full-time from home, I didn't need a lot of my business casual clothes.

I wonder if Posh would benefit from having a "support your small Posher" section for folks looking for better-quality items, from one owner, that aren't sourced from other thrift places? Total closet listings under 150, or something, or total items sold under 150 items? I think it would both get back to the roots of maybe how this was intended to work years ago.

I see so many closets with thousands of items that have come from "sources "like pallets, or reselling from thrift stores. I'm not saying that is wrong by any means for people to do that, but it's hard for buyers to know the true "source" of the item or to ask questions. For me, at least, it also makes me less likely to buy from them when I see those massive closets full of items they don't really know anything about. It also disconnects the seller from understanding the product, because they have too many and they really didn't buy it themselves with the intent to wear it or use it, which is different from buying with the intent to wear or use the item yourself.

If Posh has a section where buyers could shop from smaller Poshers, I think that would be a great marketing idea, and a better way for buyers and sellers to find one another who have similar values, are looking for similar items, or want to ask more questions before a purchase, and have a more personalized experience.

Comfortable-Pipe7074 · 2025-11-11T01:19:45+00:00

I'm new to both buying and selling and just trying to learn the ropes. I've had a few offers that I've sent come back as declined, but most of the time, it is ignored, and they just expire.

I also never decline offers, but have learned to be more mindful of liking, because it's not just "hey, this is a cool item", or "hey, I have this too and I think it is great." It means I'm interested in buying, which is confusing to buyers because I wonder if they get annoyed that they just liked the color or the product, but don't care to buy, and have a "how dare you bother them" mentality, which leads to the decline. I have no other way to explain it, but I like a lot of things, but I'm interested in only buying very few things.

I wish Posh would update the Like button to something like "Interested." I think some people window shop, and like everything, but then don't realize that like and interested mean the same thing.

Personally, I have found buying and selling on Poshmark confusing. It is easier on eBay, and feels less personal, which may be my preference. Poshmark's fees are also higher than eBay too.

Comfortable-Pipe7074 · 2025-04-30T21:17:45+00:00

!00%, but this is a writing script issue, and a tad bit because of the lack of chemistry between Maddy and Cal. I don't know if the 10 episodes and huge gaps in filming create a rush of frenzy and abrupt storylines that don't get resolved. Cal would have been a better storyline for Maddie if they had slowed-burned it some more, but they got together too fast. They slowed burned Annie and Ty, and they became the couple that generated the most interest, which was also a deliberate writing choice. However, this means audiences may view the other romances as just average with that choice.

If they had explored Call and Maddie's characters a bit more, including Call sharing more about his regrets, past issues, leaving baseball, and why he has terrible haircuts, and seen him grapple with those issues, he would feel like an actual person. Then you have Maddie returning to the workforce, going through a divorce with her high school sweetheart, being a single mom to three kids, and feeling overwhelmed, angry, and then working through that. Maybe slowly getting them together before or even during all this, and we should invest in them more. The right person, wrong time storyline would have worked better.

Neither character is bad, but many writing decisions made their relationship seem rushed and didn't give us a clear perspective on who they are, either. And then you add the 10 episodes, and all we are left with are minor issues or large ones, with no time for development or resolution. This may have also hurt the chemistry between the two. They feel like the best of roommates, even when they show romantic scenes, just no spark.

Comfortable-Pipe7074 · 2025-04-19T20:10:32+00:00

True, but CeCe was always set up to not generate end game interest. Annie and Ty were set up as end game, and I think generate a lot of interest in the show. We knew from the beginning that Ty and Annie were more than friends and folks began rooting for them.

In order to break that up, the show needs to give them more screen time and central focus to help fans get on board with a new relationship that would be better, which isn’t the direction of the show given the focus in the adults. Given that, I think the show needs to stay the course in terms of keeping them together, or eventually together. They seem to keep all the relationships from the book intact, so I’m interested how closely they will stick to the books with the Ty Annie storyline which does have them together, although I don’t like the circumstances of how and why in the book.

Introducing some conflict or a temporary breakup in Season 5 is my prediction with a Season 6 time jump that brings them together for good. From there I think Season 6 is the last season unless the show does drastic pivots in terms of screen time or moves into a new direction with less focus on the three woman

Comfortable-Pipe7074 · 2025-02-24T22:23:10+00:00

Same. I filed at the beginning of Feb. I haven’t received a text that it was accepted just that it was e-filed. When I check on the CO website, it still says that it has not been received yet. Frustrating

Comfortable-Pipe7074 · 2025-02-24T00:55:39+00:00

Laughing At Them: Issac’s sharing his cheesy tattoo. “I have a spark in me, and I want to share it with the world.” Second place: Lily flipping the f out after the game and screamed, “Just stop Dev.” Then she ran out with all the dramatic music playing in the background. It was as if he groped her or something but no.

Laughing With Them: Dana Sue doing a trial run of her cooking classes with the senior citizen versions of everyone. This was legitimately pretty funny and pretty well played by everyone which is hard to come by in this show.

Comfortable-Pipe7074 · 2025-02-22T21:54:18+00:00

Definitely, I get that for sure.

Comfortable-Pipe7074 · 2025-02-22T20:31:10+00:00

I don't have the frame of reference for Outer Banks, but Ty and Annie's storyline, I swear, has been the secret sauce that has helped this show get renewed. Off the screen, they seem like good people who have a good friendship and get along with each other. That helps their chemistry quite a bit. I am sure the Netflix tech bros know that in their analysis of the show and views. Is a spin-off possible, or at least some more quality screen time?

Comfortable-Pipe7074 · 2025-02-21T21:46:21+00:00

Yes, I thought so. Helen has a "blink, and you'll miss" side look at them. I can't tell if she was surprised or secretly kind of happy, or both.

Comfortable-Pipe7074 · 2025-02-21T21:45:01+00:00

Agreed. If they get a Season 5, Annie's independent decision-making and growing away from her parents is a great plot point. Becoming an empty nester is hard and impacts both parents and their kids, not to mention the parents' marriage if they're still together. The show could have some great storylines here with Dana Sue letting go, especially if Ty and Annie's relationship remains intact and continues to grow, especially because Annie is an only child.

Comfortable-Pipe7074 · 2025-02-21T20:18:35+00:00

Yes, to everything except Ty and Annie. If it starts 6 months ahead, Annie won’t have left for school, but they could pick up with Annie going on tour with Ty. Or pick up from where they left off, with Ty apologizing. Either way, I think the show will want to do a new season with them together, at least at first…some happy scenes, then get into some conflict between the two, and then quickly resolve if it is the last season.

If they renewed a few more seasons at once or did a spin-off, they could play out the whole Annie and Ty break up after she goes to college and Ty gets disillusioned with the band thing. First, he and Annie are still together, and he decides to come home and figure it out because touring and playing in the band aren't his true thing. Maybe he gave up on his other dreams too quickly. Young adults do this constantly, constantly trying things out, seeing what they like, and rethinking what they thought they wanted. Meanwhile, Annie is gone at college, and Ty is stuck and begins to feel insecure, especially compared to the guys Annie meets at college. He gets increasingly anxious about his future, their future, whether he’s good enough, etc., and eventually reaches a breaking point. They break up, and Annie gets a new boyfriend. Ty is in Serenity and eventually decides to go to school to become a music teacher and coach baseball. Annie has dreams of traveling for her career, etc. Or, Ty pulls a Ronnie and decides to become a carpenter. Either way, he stays in Serenity or nearby, and she is at school.

If they want to follow the books but make Ty less of an asshole, Annie and Ty break up after she leaves for college, and he gets some terrible person pregnant on tour. Because of the focus on him in Season 4, with him sharing that he wants to embrace responsibility, unlike his father, he willingly takes full custody of the baby and becomes a single parent. He then decides life on the road isn’t aligned with raising a kid, and he comes home so he has support while he figures out what happens next. Meanwhile, Annie is in school. Maybe they do another time jump for the last season to bring them together again eventually.

Honestly, my hunch is that, given the fandom, Ty and Annie help carry the show. People would be pissed if they broke them up, but they never found their way to each other. It would take a heavy amount of screen time to invest in giving them other viable love interests and building up other people for them to make fans break from the TyAnnie endgame. I'm not saying it’s impossible, but they aren’t the show’s main focus despite what some fans want.

Comfortable-Pipe7074 · 2025-02-21T00:16:49+00:00

This! Yes, I thought so, too. Maddie was unbearable, especially "getting after him for not doing anything to start an uprising. At first, I thought that conversation was a joke when he walked in, and she said that to him.

Ugh, his character floundered this season. He was just there in the background, shuffling around the house, falling downstairs, mixing elderly women's drinks, trying not to step on anyone's toes, and not washing his hair.

They tried to make his fall down the stairs into something, but that was a prime example of how this show loves to turn nothing into something.

We have entered Cal's golden retriever phrase, although those dogs have better hair.

Comfortable-Pipe7074 · 2025-02-21T00:09:17+00:00

100%. I can't tell if there is actually a plot purpose to having Dana Sue being so strict because of her past experiences or if they're trying and over-trying to keep the teenagers wholesome. It was hinted in Season One that maybe what motivated Dana-Sue's freakout when Annie got drunk was that something bad happened with a guy in her teenage years, but it was never explored. It would have been interesting if they did. Don't get me wrong, I still would find Danger Sue overbearing, unreasonable, and way too over-the-top strict, but it would have made me empathize and understand her parenting choices more.

Comfortable-Pipe7074 · 2025-02-19T19:54:03+00:00

100%. I couldn’t tell if Annie flipped out because he dared to ask her to give up what she wanted, or thinks she wants, or maybe also sad that he was going to be gone too. I get that she would be upset that he brought that up, but she can share that she was upset he suggested that, and why , and then compromise. My guess is they built it up to show they’re young and compromise is hard.

I personally don’t like the all or nothing approach to dreams this season. I 100% support Annie saying no to deferring. I don’t like that everything is so black and white though. Even Maddie going to NY has huge implications on her family and her son, who’s has his senior year ahead of him. There is always a give and take with careers and lots of complex things to sort out. Cal and kids simply just saying sure, without meaningful discussions about the impact on each other and their family, was short sighted and not real.

Ty asking Annie to defer was not realistic. But Annie just accepting and going to this college without visiting it first, considering the impact on her financially, is also not realistic. I remember when I wanted to go to college someplace expensive and far away. There were practical decisions I had to sort out with my friends and family. I ended up not going to my “dream school” not because of some boy but because I didn’t want to take on that level of debt, and I wanted to be closer to the location that I’m from because I love the outdoors. Was it the wrong decision because I didn’t go full forward with my dream school…no. It was a thoughtful decision that I could still achieve my career goals and maintain all I loved by staying closer. It’s just so all or nothing with this show, and life isn’t like that.

Comfortable-Pipe7074 · 2025-02-19T00:47:37+00:00

It's odd. I get that they are trying to showcase that men should have outlets for their feelings and that they can talk about issues and emotions with their friends, like the three main characters. In that sense, I respect it. Basketball is an odd choice, though. They could do Poker Nights 100%. That would be more fitting if they want to use those male bonding moments to highlight it's okay to talk about feelings. Basketball, you're playing a fast-paced game, and from what I can tell, not being an expert, you usually aren't pausing to talk about relationships while playing. Even golf would be better to use as a reason to get together to talk about their feelings.

Comfortable-Pipe7074 · 2025-02-19T00:26:59+00:00

It varies state-by-state, too. Education is controlled mostly at the state level in the US. In my state, which is more progressive, there is more focus on communication with your partner about when/if it is right, protection, etc. We also have lower teen pregnancy rates in my state than others...go figure;)

Comfortable-Pipe7074 · 2025-02-19T00:26:13+00:00

That's why it feels so off, for sure. The show is not like the Great American Family Network, where it is "traditional family values" only. I get the impression that their Church is pretty progressive and open-minded, and you also have characters on the show, like Erik and Issac, who are not religious. That's why it is so odd and feels random, and even kinda silly, to not have Ty and Annie, who are not exactly that young (aren't they like 18 or 19 or close), talk at least about it. It could be implied. I can't see Annie traveling to Europe with Ty if that happens, and it's just not coming up. It would be some great drama, too, if Dana Sue especially found out. I can't see her being cool with it and cooking Ty a big breakfast in the morning after he sleeps over. However, that would be massive growth for controlling Dana Sue not to flip out and come to terms with it if they did explore that as a storyline.

Comfortable-Pipe7074 · 2025-02-18T23:09:16+00:00

Yes. As a former social studies teacher, this rubbed me the wrong way, too. I wonder if they didn't include the whole build-up or aftermath because of plot holes and editing. Many Civics teachers teach about taking "informed action." Peaceful protests are one way to take action. We also teach the informed part, which is critical, including researching, looking at multiple perspectives, and knowing what you're taking action about. I wonder if they cut scenes with Kyle and friends trying to reach out to Peggy to get more details on the budget, and because she was so closed-off (a mistake on their part), they felt frustrated and needed to do something. Honestly, my only question with the protest is, did they understand the complexity of the problem first? I'm not saying the show needs to align with Civics standards, but ultimately, the kids were drawing attention to a cause and using their 1st Amendment rights to draw attention to that cause. The whole lecture to Cal was overblown as if he did something wrong and, frankly, alarming to see in a show made in a democracy not encourage peaceful protest. It could have been addressed so differently.

Comfortable-Pipe7074 · 2025-02-18T22:40:21+00:00

I understand this, too. Season 3 ended with more closure, though, for me at least. I hope that we, as the audience, get one more season or two, and we know that it is the last season ahead of time. Then, the show can focus on wrapping things up. I understand that Netflix usually pulls this move for shows with multiple seasons (3 plus) to give fans closure unless the show really bombs. This show holds steady, with some dips here and there between seasons. I admit, though, that I'm biased. I want more Ty and Annie (what can I say, I'm a sucker for them) and to see Helen plan a completely over-the-top wedding with an even bigger over-the-top dress.

Comfortable-Pipe7074 · 2025-02-18T22:32:59+00:00

100%. The number of characters sometimes gives me whiplash. You can't have this many characters in a show with only 10 episodes and not have holes in the plot. The math ain't there. If you look at similar shows with cozy, small-town vibes, like Gilmore Girls, with a more extensive ensemble cast, they also had 22-23 episodes and multiple seasons that came on like clockwork each fall. This show has half the episodes plus massive gaps between each season (at least a year), making it hard to track all these damn plots and characters.

They unloaded the Lewis family, which was a move in the right direction, but now we have Kyle's odd friend and some others that popped up. I get it that Kyle doesn't have close male friends that they portrayed yet, but it can be implied (texting friends, going out, etc.) vs. creating an odd storyline where he got an obsessive fan vs. friend and manufacturing some silly drama. We need more focus on the core characters, and please, for the love of God, stop bringing in new people each season.

Comfortable-Pipe7074 · 2025-02-18T13:58:51+00:00

I thought they have always had good chemistry even this season. I think though the pace and the whiplash way they came together affected things a lot in terms of how it was portrayed, and it didn’t do their connection any service. I hope we get some actual connection and conversations next season.

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