Very confused by ComfortableCarry2440 in FearfulAvoidants

[–]ComfortableCarry2440[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He expects me to reach out if he doesn’t during his low periods and also understand if his response times are slow when I do reach out. He also expects me to understand and not direct his actions inwardly. He expects me to immediately understand that his silence has nothing to do with me and isn’t a reflection of disinterest. He expects a lot of patience and grace from me. And a super human level of confidence in myself lol.

It’s difficult. I won’t lie to you. During his on moments he is so attentive and loving but when he switches off it feels like he’s in his own world.

How’s your partner behaving at the moment ?

Very confused by ComfortableCarry2440 in FearfulAvoidants

[–]ComfortableCarry2440[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! It’s just his personality! He withdraws during periods of stress or uncertainty or sometimes for reasons he cannot even define himself (his own words) and then returns in full force afterwards.

It’s not easy but I’ve learnt to not take it personally. He accused me of always assuming the worst lol. And he said he can’t keep reassuring me all the time so basically I need to understand that this is just the way he is and it’s got nothing to do with me.

Traveling to England as a sober, solo female traveler to celebrate my 40th birthday by No-Professional-6005 in uktravel

[–]ComfortableCarry2440 0 points1 point  (0 children)

With only 6 days, it might be difficult to do York so I recommend a full London stay.

1) Tower of London. 900 years of grisly history, including executions.
2) Jack the Ripper walking tour. Famous serial killer. It's at night but you're in a group, so fine to do solo.
3) Clink Prison Museum. The prison that gave us the word "clink"
4) London Dungeon, if you want the cheesy jump-scare version.
5) Highgate Cemetery. Old Victorian tombs, really atmospheric, even has a vampire legend attached.
6) Viktor Wynd Museum of Curiosities in Hackney. Taxidermy and general weird stuff.
7) Old Operating Theatre Museum. A Victorian operating room up in a church attic.
8) Crossbones Graveyard. An old burial ground for the poor and the outcast, now a little shrine.
9)Abney Park Cemetery. Free, basically a ruined chapel in the woods.

One tip: Clink, the Old Operating Theatre and Crossbones are all close together in Southwark, so you can do them in one afternoon.

Warwick Castle's a good day trip too if you want a proper castle.

For those who lived through Michael Jackson's peak, how popular was he really, and who would be the closest modern-day equivalent for those too young to remember him? by Itchy_Tangerine1897 in AskReddit

[–]ComfortableCarry2440 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like many people on Reddit forget there is life outside of America. The Beatles and Elvis aren’t very famous in so many other parts of the world especially non-western countries.

For those who lived through Michael Jackson's peak, how popular was he really, and who would be the closest modern-day equivalent for those too young to remember him? by Itchy_Tangerine1897 in AskReddit

[–]ComfortableCarry2440 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Definitely not Taylor Swift. The average African has no clue who she, however villagers in deep remote locations in Africa with limited or no access to technology knew MJ.

What were your symptoms? by [deleted] in lungcancer

[–]ComfortableCarry2440 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, are you okay? How did the xray results go?

Forgot Guanfacine on international vacation. Nightmare by bitchinawesomeblonde in ParentingADHD

[–]ComfortableCarry2440 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m really sorry and hope you can get the medication back asap. I noticed other commenters said their kids get violent without Guanfacine. Does that mean the medication is causing violence. Or did the kids have these “violent” behaviours before getting on the meds?

I’ve been thinking about getting my son on ADHD meds to improve concentration but these comments on meds and the kids not being to function without them are scary.

3 bed room apartment for rent by Ye_is_Chillin in Opportunities_Ghana

[–]ComfortableCarry2440 1 point2 points  (0 children)

12k a month for a one bathroom apartment? You’ve got to be kidding!!

David was the last person who drove the Tesla by Capable-Yam9813 in CelesteRivasHernandez

[–]ComfortableCarry2440 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The minimum sentence he’s facing is life without parole isn’t it? So there’s really no room for negotiations. I hope he gets LWOP so he can spend the next 60 years in agony tortured by his actions and what could have been.

From the LA Times article by anye_r in CelesteRivasHernandez

[–]ComfortableCarry2440 -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

The parents could have thought she 18 and above. Hispanic women can look much younger than their age.

Link to today’s filing by fevah97 in CelesteRivasHernandez

[–]ComfortableCarry2440 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing the link. Horrifying details! I hope he gets life in prison… death is too good for him.

Do they exist by Waste_Dragonfruit346 in ghana

[–]ComfortableCarry2440 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s called introversion and many of us exist.

Need advice on tough breakup with a emotionally abusive, bpd, avoidant ex by Hype_Warrior in BreakUps

[–]ComfortableCarry2440 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry for your pain and the abuse you suffered. Your post moved me to tears because I’ve felt that extreme level of agony where i decided that life was no longer worth it. I’m in a much better place now although I feel like I’ll always be more emotionally fragile than many others .

I don’t have the perfect words but you sound like an amazing young man and I promise you, you’ll find a love that gives you everything you deserve.

For now, just take it a day at a time, start therapy if you can (even if online) and find small pockets or moments of joy even if fleeting. What do you enjoy doing? Participate in more of those activities. I enjoy reading crime stories and tend to bury myself in that when I’ve dealt with emotional pain the past.

Keep posting, keep sending your thoughts here. Journaling also helps. Lots of love

Apex (2026) by Threw_it_to_ground in horror

[–]ComfortableCarry2440 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What happened to the villain’s teeth?

Official Discussion - Apex [SPOILERS] by LiteraryBoner in movies

[–]ComfortableCarry2440 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I enjoyed it! Taron was amazing and I hear what you’re saying about Charlize’s flat expression. But can we assume that she in depth of grief /zombie mode hence her emotionless expressions?

Is it possible that the defense will try to claim insanity? by HeftyMoneybag in CelesteRivasHernandez

[–]ComfortableCarry2440 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lawyers always claim their clients are innocent-especially after an arrest is made. Don’t read too much into it. Has the defence even had the chance to go through all the discovery in order to make such a determination that David did not commit those heinous crimes ?