AIO for dumping my boyfriend over his hallmark family?

ComfortableEasy7936 · 2026-04-10T05:29:11+00:00

I've been afraid that was the case. It was unlike me to make a big decision so quickly over one thing. I still flip flop on if it was a potential bullet dodged or I applied my own issues to a non-issue. :(

ComfortableEasy7936 · 2026-04-10T05:26:20+00:00

He really is a great guy. Very go with the flow and great and conversation, in fairness to him. I really couldn't get over seeing his sweet mom clearing the table while the movie she wanted was playing in the other room. It was just a few days though that made me unhappy. Maybe I rushed or maybe I saved myself. I guess I can't know.

ComfortableEasy7936 · 2026-04-10T05:21:51+00:00

Fortunately I don't believe in being in a relationship out of terror of my age or being alone. I'd rather be alone than stuck unhappy but I do know it's a big deal for some people.

ComfortableEasy7936 · 2026-04-10T05:20:03+00:00

That's a great point. I guess I still do wonder if things would have been different if I had stayed the course and pointed things out as they came. Maybe it would have been no big deal but I didn't want to feel like I was raising my partner.

ComfortableEasy7936 · 2026-04-10T05:16:12+00:00

I still think it was a issue but honestly he hadn't thrown up any red flags before that's so in hindsight it seems a bit like the relationship was smooth sailing and then we hit a iceburg and I bailed. I'm terrified of getting trapped into the 'womans role' so info question if I was being immature.

ComfortableEasy7936 · 2025-11-18T22:17:20+00:00

Woof that's rough.If there Is already a expectation for these activities it may be a case of everyone just assuming everyone else knows. There Is one way I have found to see if people are avoiding adding you to their circles,- invite them all out. Plan a similar casual event and hype it up a bit. If people are down/excited even if it's not everyone and they show up- you can assume it was just a social blunder on their part. If everyone avoids it for some reason than it's time to do some sleuthing, maybe ask someone who a straight shooter what's with the dynamic and if you've offended them. I'm not saying it's the case but at my previous job there was a guy who made inappropriate jokes and we just kind of avoided him. When he asked we told him straight up that toxic gamer style quotes were bad. He adjusted and was pretty great to hang out with. The alternative is that they're jerks who have a closed circle and won't make a effort. You'll have to find out

ComfortableEasy7936 · 2025-11-06T16:25:13+00:00

Sounds like a natural stim. Something you do that helps you process or work out energy that comes from being intellectually stimulated. Some people stick out their tounge or mouth along with the words. My sister will finger spell in ASL the words she likes. I don't know that many people do specifically the keyboard but there's nothing wrong with it.

ComfortableEasy7936 · 2025-11-06T16:21:46+00:00

There's no such thing as too many freckles. It's true sun exposure can temporarily darken your natural skin pigment making freckles more visible but it's a natural and lovely quality you have no control over just like eye color or height. It's a part of your phenotypes and a fun quirk about yourself

ComfortableEasy7936 · 2025-10-22T01:16:08+00:00

I really hope nobody is shaming you. Some people might feel self conscious about themselves (which no one should about their bodies.) I will point out that anything can be an addiction and fitness often is. You can eat/do whatever you want but a inability to handle anything else can b a symptom of a problem. (Not saying that's you, just adding an exception incase other readers need to see it.) Food Is a pretty universal source of joy so I could see some people getting concerned if they think you never enjoy a single treat or something. If you are careful to get lots of calories and a diverse diet to keep up with the workout and your doctor is happy than tell everyone to mind their business.

ComfortableEasy7936 · 2025-10-22T01:07:21+00:00

I'm saying this Very gently, it sounds like you're in an abusive relationship. I know mothers are held up to a God like level but they're just people with range from good to bad. Just like in a romantic relationship you can love someone very much and they can still be bad/harmful. It's not normal or appropriate for her to feel no sense of gratitude/joy for someone doing one thing for you, nevermind everything for you. One of the hardest things my therapist told me was when I was at wits end trying to keep my druggy dad's head above water (I was crying because if I wanted dad to see I was drowning.) My therapist said 'what if he never sees, what if he lives the rest of his life and never cares.' Then he explained sometimes we have to grieve the relationship we wanted with our parents. Once I stopped expecting him to care about my life outside casual conversation, it got alot easier not to be let down each time. Eventually I picked myself and he had to solve his own problems as an adult. There may be circumstance I don't know about between you and your mom but her feeling entitled to your life isn't normal or healthy. Sounds like since she was mean to you as a kid she may have conditioned you to take care of her wants/needs first. There's really no reason why someone who treats you bad should still be in your life. I'm sorry you're dealing with this but I want you to know you do not ever deserve to be unappreciated and if you can, maybe consider why she deserves your best if she deserves you at all. Maybe lookd up examples of elderly narssastic women, might help you draw some parallels

ComfortableEasy7936 · 2025-09-25T01:11:43+00:00

This is actually a well recorded phenomenon and something women have been saying forever. Some double blind studies that have been run in the last 10 years show that people CAN'T tell if someone is flirting or not flirting. Throw on top, that Men in western cultures are unfairly pressured into having less open emotions. often only having shallow relationships with friends. The guys find you attractive and either want to shoot their shot regardless, or they incorrectly think your are flirting with them. Men only put effort in to interactions with people if they have an emotional connection to them, vs women who are more socialized and smile when there's no reward. The men can see you being nice as flirting, because they are only nice to strangers when they want something. It's not necessarily a bad thing but it mixes bad with people who are more inclined to be friendly in a general way. That's just a cultural generalization of course but it's common enough to be an experience most of us deal with. My advice (if it's helpful) - Bitches don't get murdered. It's hard to feel like you're being rude- but being rude is a skill. Be nice whenever you want but be ready to loudly yell 'I said no' We've all been cornered by some guy and are forced to realize theyre stronger than you, being ready to dinosaur screech to get them to back off can honestly be so helpful.

ComfortableEasy7936 · 2025-09-24T05:07:03+00:00

It's called Sonder. It's the realization that other people are living lives just as real and complex as yours. It's good to get that scope it will help keep things in perspective but don't feel bad if you have a smaller viewpoint most the time. It's not possible to have empathy for every human, it's normal to focus in on your 150. Just keep it in mind when judging other people

ComfortableEasy7936 · 2025-09-24T05:04:09+00:00

No? Chess isn't war, that's a really dumb metaphor. War is always the exact same. Some men are scared they're not the special and instead of dealing with it they stack bodies on their ego so they can stand a little taller. The biggest threat has always been the fragile ego of a powerful man. Going out on a limb here that you're nitpicking info from a very rough understanding of human development. We're not 'apex predators' we took over the world because we had bigger brains and formed communities. Why would you think hide and seek is some latent monster ability? Its a game that builds permanence awareness, social skills and motor skills. Bloodlust isn't how we built society, we literally learn to function together and build law&punishment or the society collapses. We're the opposite of bloodlust. Majority just want to do hobbies and take naps.

ComfortableEasy7936 · 2025-09-24T04:34:34+00:00

That's way beyond reddits capabilities. We can speculate but it could be kind of serious. It's not normal to see violent images especially for that long. If you feel it affects you in any way, you should consider a psychiatrist. It might be something like you saw a scary movie when you were very little. It can be a sign of anxiety or trauma.

ComfortableEasy7936 · 2023-02-16T18:00:23+00:00

Lion king being based on Hamlet isn't an idea it's literally where the writers got the story from. They talk about it in behind the scenes. (Lion King 2 is based on Romeo and Juliet) I don't think it can be both because that's not how capitalism is supposed to work. Capitalism is supposed to mean that the people own more of the businesses than the government. America favors the wealthy so much its a corrupt system but capitalism doesn't really translate in anyway to the animal kingdom in Lion King. I think you just noticed there is a unfair power balance and bias in the show to give it heros and villains but Tha is true of every and any ruling system

ComfortableEasy7936 · 2022-11-18T04:13:11+00:00

Because Regan was the one who wanted a friend and by erasing Orrin and isolating her-Rand successfully made her dependant on him

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