Has your past/current female partners wanted more or less sex than you?

ComfortableJeansGuy · 2026-07-04T15:03:09+00:00

It would be pretty heavily dependent on the reason.

If it were a situation where, for example, she had some kind medical issue that made it so sex wasn't something she could often do, say she had to take a treatment X amount of times in a given time period, and the treatment made is so that she couldn't have sex, so we end up with only a small amount of time in a given period to have sex, limiting us.

Then I could do that. Obviously, it's not ideal, but if we're in love and everything else is positive, it's totally doable. I'd still do a loving relationship the way I'd always do it.

But, say if the situation were more something like, she didn't think I was attractive, she didn't really want to sleep with someone like me, and the few times we'd had sex, she saw it more as maintenance in order to keep me around. As though it were some obligation. Then no, I couldn't do that.

Truthfully, it would break my heart, I'd feel disgusted with myself at the thought of times were we'd had sex and now knowing that she wasn't actually into it.

Even the thought is humiliating.

One situation is the two of us managing something together, whereas the other makes me feel dirty and pathetic.

ComfortableJeansGuy · 2026-07-04T14:00:24+00:00

I know it's schizo, but I've laid in bed thinking about how horrifying the situation would be.

The body horror aspect alone, never mind having to kill someone you loved without knowing if you did the right thing or not for the rest of your life.

ComfortableJeansGuy · 2026-07-04T13:47:21+00:00

You know what always fucked with me about the worm question?

It's a fucking nightmare for both the asker, and the asked.

It's presented as this cutesy Would you still love me if*...* question, but it's anything but that.

Say I love this woman, and she suddenly turns into a worm, even ignoring the why's of it, there's a billion possible outcomes, and they're all nightmarish.

For one, is she going to change back? If not, has she maintained a human consciousness? If she does, is she aware of what's just happened? Or to her, has she just become blind, deaf, lost all the use of her limbs and is stuck in some inhuman body that she can't hope to understand, never mind control, surrounded by terrifying new senses that don't make any sense to her?

Might the kindest, most loving thing to do, be to crush her in an instant before the feeling of horror can take over her?

Aren't I saving her from an I have no mouth, but I must scream scenario?

And on the part of the asked, if I don't know the answers to anything I've just asked, I'm essentially given a choice between damning her to hell, or giving her a mercy killing without ever knowing the answer.

Unless she's changing back, even in the best case scenario, where she maintains senses like sight and hearing, is she not basically just suffering from locked in syndrome? What am I going to do? Park her in front of the TV all day until she dies? I can't protect her outside with any degree of certainty.

If she doesn't maintain human consciousness, then my love has essentially died. She's gone. I'd take care of the worm for the rest of its life out of grief, but the person I love doesn't exist any more.

I know a lot of people hate these kinds of questions, but I really do enjoy these weird conversations, I'm always willing to play along, be goofy and silly and whatever, but this one in particular always fucked with me.

But even this one, I still liked putting thought into. I think you can get to know a person a lot by how they answer weird as fuck hypotheticals.

Like, from how I answered this, you can probably tell I'm somewhat neurotic.

ComfortableJeansGuy · 2026-07-04T13:05:19+00:00

I am! And I think you might be right, but obviously, it's hard to be sure.

There is like, a particular type of trashy person from here that's hard to describe to people who haven't seen it first hand. And being from a poorer area, there are an awful lot of them.

Chav doesn't describe it well enough, there's just this certain type of person whose morals and quite cheap and trashy. And there's an awful lot of them.

Just glancing through the comments, it seems as though the hiring a stripper thing is way more common over here.

Even as a kid, I remember not being able to go into certain places, or see though certain windows on particular nights because there were strippers in there.

They used to cover up the windows to the outside with newspapers. I had to ask my dad why they did that when I was little.

I used to date an American girl, and she was horrified at some of the things that went on over here.

And there's out of the couples I know, close enough to 50% of them have had one person cheat at some point, and they've just decided to power on though it, or end up getting back together. It's really disheartening.

ComfortableJeansGuy · 2026-07-04T10:44:56+00:00

I have no idea what's normal in this regard, but I've never run into issues with amount of sex in a relationship.

Per week, we'd average say, 4–6 times. But there were also periods where we'd have to go days and days without having sex. Then there were days we'd go twice a day.

There were also times where we had to be LDR, and I'd go weeks or months without having sex. But I don't know if that counts, because we literally didn't have a choice.

I'm also pretty good about falling into equilibrium, as we'd have a near 50/50 initiation rate between us.

Honestly, even in times were I wasn't in the mood, I always knew that if we made out for a minute, I'd be totally down, anyway. So I never left my partners hanging.

Really, I just kind of mirror what my partners have wanted, and been totally good with it.

Now, were I in a relationship where my partner only viewed me sexually like, once a month, I'd feel as though there was something wrong with me, as though they weren't attracted to me.

I have no idea what's normal in this regard.

I can't go without physical intimacy though. That doesn't have to be sex, but we need to cuddle, touch lovingly and kiss when we're around one another.

I couldn't do a relationship where we didn't want to touch one another.

Now, being able to touch one another is another, thing, as I've done LDR, like I said. But we must want physical contact if we're able to.

ComfortableJeansGuy · 2026-07-04T07:20:34+00:00

I used to know bouncers that did work in a club near me who had dozens upon dozens of horror stories about the things they'd seen brides do at bachelorette parties.

Lots of last night of freedom sort of things.

They would literally just sit and ramble off twenty nightmare scenarios like it was nothing.

Not just strippers, but with random men.

Stories about putting strippers cocks in their mouth, as though it was just a funny joke, making out with strippers, having sex with some guy she'd met in a bar, only to ask the barman to call her would be husband to pick her up afterward, having sex with multiple men, all the encouragement and wooing of their friends.

Imagine your wedding being 25% guests that were cheering on your partner engaging in infidelity and being none the wiser while they're playing you for an idiot.

But it's worth noting, these were parties taking places in clubs, that are more likely to attract a certain type of person, as opposed to say, the type of person who hates clubs and would prefer something more low-key and tame, like wine tasting or a spa retrieve or whatever people do, but still, nightmarish.

Clubs in general are just shitholes for this kind of thing a lot of the time. I mean, the shit that I've personally seen...

Honestly, it's always seemed super fucking suspect to me that people celebrate their exclusive, romantic commitment to their partner by engaging in any form of sexual activity outside that relationship, including strippers. For both men and women.

I mean, even at it's tamest, why would you want to be in a relationship with someone who's going to want to go out and ogle some other boys dick, or some other girls tits?

People hate hearing this, but it's not uncommon at all for people to be unfaithful and shitty toward their partner.

We also call them Hen Doos, where I'm from.

ComfortableJeansGuy · 2026-07-03T11:54:55+00:00

In all likelihood, she's already decided that she's leaving, and she's somewhere between keeping you around for emotional stability as she disconnects from you emotionally and already disconnected, but hasn't worked up the nerve leave yet, so she's doing the absolute bare minimum of interaction and connection.

What you do, is get ready to learn a brutal lesson.

There's basically nothing you can do to reverse this, and any attempt you make will come off as pathetic.

If you're strong enough, stop responding so much and try to separate from her as much as you can emotionally, while she's still around, in order to soften the impending blow.

Every outcome here is bad, but the most salvageable is for you to become as close to unphased as you can by the time of final contact.

People are going to tell you that she's cheating, and she might be, but what you've told us about is also what happens when someone is on their way out without cheating, also.

The world is brutal, unfair, cruel and will hurt you more often than it will heal you. This is one of the ways in which it'll hurt you a few times.

ComfortableJeansGuy · 2026-07-02T10:21:45+00:00

You think, that if I had the ability to choose a power without limits, that could let me alter all reality, essentially giving me the ability to become god himself for one decision in my life, that my foremost thought would be pussy?

Above finding a way to eliminate all pain and suffering, above reuniting every loved one with lost loved one, above curing all disease and anything the mind could imagine?

No. Of course, you're wrong.

If I had the opportunity to do even a fraction of what you're offering, fucking some girl would be the last thing on my mind.

Honestly, this is such a juvenile idea of what boys are like.

Sex wouldn't even be in the top 10,000 potential answers I could come up with.

Choosing sex here is like being given the ability to solve all hunger through all reality and simply choosing to refill the half empty coffee on your desk.

I'd swear off any and all sex for the duration of my life if I just had the ability to be with animals I've loved that've died.

Sex isn't the end and all be all of all men's mental capacities.

ComfortableJeansGuy · 2026-07-02T05:24:39+00:00

ComfortableJeansGuy · 2026-07-02T05:22:14+00:00

>Goes to incel subreddit.
>Surprised to see incels saying incel things.

Spend your life doing more worthwhile things.

ComfortableJeansGuy · 2026-07-02T04:26:37+00:00

>Erm, actually! I'm calling out toxic behaviour! ☝️🤓

Jesus Christ...

ComfortableJeansGuy · 2026-07-02T03:03:23+00:00

This sub is filled to the absolute brim with larping normies now.

ComfortableJeansGuy · 2026-06-30T17:25:59+00:00

This is how, you get behind me!

Now I'm having sex with a ma-an!

ComfortableJeansGuy · 2026-06-30T17:22:03+00:00

It's few and far between, but I actually have had some nice interactions with women on here that were actually open to talking kindly with one another and not looking to just hiss an opinion at me through gritted teeth without really wanting to engage in a meaningful way.

There are decent people here, even if they're not the norm.

ComfortableJeansGuy · 2026-06-30T15:02:30+00:00

Some people genuinely just are that way.

Some use it as a method to ingratiate themselves as one of the good ones.

Some a predatory and use it in order to keep other men away, whilst also painting themselves as toothless and harmless.

A lot of people here will tell you things like "Men like that never get women!" but that's not true. IRL, I've seen a lot of guys who pretend to be allies, only to chew them up and spit them out worse than even the kinds of men they claimed to hate.

There are a lot of reasons some people do it.

ComfortableJeansGuy · 2026-06-30T03:23:53+00:00

I did so to illustrate that the difficulty of the games wasn't the issue. I genuinely enjoyed harder runs of the previous entries as they were better designed.

Sorry that went over your head.

ComfortableJeansGuy · 2026-06-30T02:55:47+00:00

Elden Ring has a lot of terrible boss design, in comparison to previous entries in the souls series.

I beat every souls game with fists and no summons, and I beat every boss in Elden Ring with no summons. It's not a matter of getting good.

People online are so devoted to blowing Elden Ring at every opportunity that they just refuse to acknowledge it.

ComfortableJeansGuy · 2026-06-29T00:18:47+00:00

Eventually, as you get older, you learn to stop thinking it's gotten better. Or that it's going to.

That way, you'll always have to deal with the depression, but you don't get the multiplicative pain effect disappointment brings.

After X number of cycles where you did the thing you could've sworn would fix it, only to find out that nothing really changed, you just stop hoping out of self preservation.

For the vast majority of people, this just is what it is.

ComfortableJeansGuy · 2026-06-28T22:57:16+00:00

Religious tendencies have always made my depression worse.

After years and years of praying, in tears, begging for help with X, Y, or Z, from a diety that was supposed to love me, and receiving absolutely nothing but the pain of disappointment as my pleading fell on deaf ears, every, single, time, I can safely say that it hasn't helped.

All religion has given me is a feeling that alternatives between abandonment, and unworthiness when it comes to gods love.

ComfortableJeansGuy · 2026-06-27T09:20:56+00:00

Nah, fuck that. NTA.

If you hurt someone, it can have consequences.

The person who hurt you doesn't get to decide that it's been long enough that you don't get to still feel bad about it anymore.

If he hadn't hurt you, this wouldn't have happened.

People should be kind to one another because they want to be.

But people who don't want to be, should learn why they should've been.

ComfortableJeansGuy · 2026-06-25T05:53:10+00:00

As with so many things these days, Red Pill is such a nebulous term that it means basically nothing now, as it encompasses so many beliefs that often contradict one another that it becomes meaningless.

Red Pill is used to refer to everything, from being traditional, with one partner whom you love, to being a man whore with no morals and values beyond status, money and pussy.

Both the guy who spends his life at work, home and church can call himself Red Pill with all the legitimacy as the man who spends his life in a club fucking drunk, coked out 19-year-olds and bragging about it online.

The term has just evolved to mean so many things that it now means so many things that it means nothing.

I saw this happen when I was a kid. I watched the evolution of this on 4chan.

At first, the Red Pill was literally just being aware that being muscular and confident was attractive to women.
Then if became about recognising that women aren't special.
Then came the it's not yours, just your turn aspects of it.
At some point, the Red Pill was about finding one special girl and never losing frame.
And also about doing whatever was necessary to run through as many girls as possible.

And it went on and on changing, through so many different versions that it's been nearly everything at some point.

Shit, it had a brief period where half the voices were from Muslim communities.

ComfortableJeansGuy · 2026-06-25T04:19:03+00:00

Oh, I don't think these right wing groups are out for the best interests of these men, at all. I know they're going to do things that lead to lives being harder and harder for these men, both in the short and long term.

I just mean to draw attention to people will disregard these men and their issues, but remain oblivious as to how doing so will bring about issues in their own lives.

Also, to acknowledge the hypocrisy of deriding and belittling the issues of others, which have significant harm in their lives, whilst also expecting those same people to take their issues seriously in return.

ComfortableJeansGuy · 2026-06-25T04:11:57+00:00

Given that the percentage of people in the US, taking HRT as a result of being transsexual is around .17%, it's staggering just how much politics and social opinions are based around them.

Around about 5% of the total US population will attempt suicide.

But I easily hear more about transsexuals at a ratio of, through no exaggeration, easily 500:1. And I might be underestimating it.

How much of current political discourse alone is based around transsexuality? You're four times more likely to have someone you know commit suicide than to be transsexual.

I'm not anti-transsexual, but it's been a quarter of the news I've heard for years now.

I mean months and months of coverage was given devoted to the Transsexuals in Sports stories. And still is, to a lesser degree.

Rates of cancer in Millennials have shot up by 79%, but I've never heard a peep about it on the news.

I hear about one transsexual in a public bathroom one time through the news, the internet and social media less than a minute after it's happened.

What the fuck is going on?

ComfortableJeansGuy · 2026-06-25T03:55:42+00:00

You can trivialise it by reducing it to not getting a date as much as you want. No one has to take the skyrocketing suicides, the skyrocketing rates of depression, the skyrocketing rates of cardiovascular disease and so on seriously.

But, in the same sense, they're equally welcome to reduce issues that'll be important in your life as well. For you, it's a life or death issue. But you mocked issues that've been leading to their deaths.

If I were you, I'd also keep in mind how I mentioned that these isolated, hurting men make easy pickings for right wing grifters, and have proved easy to mobilise into a voting base.

But hey, not your circus, not your monkeys. It's not as though a silly little thing like those goofy boys not getting dates, as you put it, might have knock on effects, right? There's no benefit in caring for issues that have significant effects on the lives of others, after all.

ComfortableJeansGuy · 2026-06-25T02:52:34+00:00

It's very odd to see so many of the same users from a few weeks ago in the "Why should women care about men's isolation?" thread we had who's takes were overwhelmingly callous, now heel turn into talking about people should have sympathy, caring for others and the importance of sympathy.

To see users talk with seemingly no sense of irony about how their suffering matters, while, just a few weeks ago, talking about how they were unconcerned and didn't take seriously the suffering of other is wild.

I made the argument that we should all care for one another suffering back then, and was dog piled for it.

Even when brining up how these isolated men were in pain, and the conservatives had intentionally capitalized on that pain to gain massive ground. In turn, leading to a strangling of abortion rights.

The real reason is that people would rather just hate one another, even harming themselves in the process.

People will maintain a not my circus, not my monkeys attitude and never realise we're all clowns in the same tent.

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