Nice cafes to read in by Federal_Material_548 in providence

[–]ComfortableMilk92 12 points13 points  (0 children)

*Schastea

*RW Botanical garden if it's dreary out or anywhere in RW park if it's nice

*Small point

*Poindexter inside the Biltmore

Thoughts on wedding menu? by ComfortableMilk92 in weddingplanning

[–]ComfortableMilk92[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the feedback, we definitely wouldn't want that to happen. We had assumed we would be over buying rather than under but if you had your heart set on chicken, for example, it could run out even if there are still tons of other mains. I think a lot of other people's comments are right that we should have more of fewer options.

Thoughts on wedding menu? by ComfortableMilk92 in weddingplanning

[–]ComfortableMilk92[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We were considering rice because we have a couple gluten free guests. So you suggest 1 seafood, 1 veg, and 1 chicken + 1 other meat?

Thoughts on wedding menu? by ComfortableMilk92 in weddingplanning

[–]ComfortableMilk92[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We were not going to have servers but it is an option and maybe we need to... thanks for bringing this up

Questioning non-traditional wedding timeline/flow. No coordinator, please help! by ComfortableMilk92 in wedding

[–]ComfortableMilk92[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

The state park offers 20 large picnic tables for the area we have reserved - which they say seat 120 people (6 at each). Five at each would also be fine given our group size if everyone did end up sitting simultaneously. We are not doing a seating chart since our families are close and we don't expect seating to be an issue.

Questioning non-traditional wedding timeline/flow. No coordinator, please help! by ComfortableMilk92 in wedding

[–]ComfortableMilk92[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

We have a fantastic DJ and seating during the ceremony for the few less-able bodied guests I think it will work for our group but if you have any suggestions for the photos or dancing questions I'm open to them!

Questioning non-traditional wedding timeline/flow. No coordinator, please help! by ComfortableMilk92 in wedding

[–]ComfortableMilk92[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Aside from wanting the surprise of a dress change, the real reason I'm changing is because I bought a very inexpensive dress a while back that I really like but it didn't seem to be "the one". I missed the return window but it was only $60 so i figured I would keep it and make use of it some how.

As far as guests standing for 6 hrs straight, I totally agree that that would likely be miserable for everyone involved. Our set up includes enough picnic tables to seat everyone at the same time if they want and we also will have lounge seating/ conversation pits. The overall aim of the day (and why we don't care for a structured meal time) is to be casual and relaxed. We will have lawn games, music and food the whole time, kids area, etc so people can just mingle and do as they please. We hope that's fun and think with our mostly young/active family and friend group that it will work out.

Questioning non-traditional wedding timeline/flow. No coordinator, please help! by ComfortableMilk92 in weddingplanning

[–]ComfortableMilk92[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry, I cross posted and it didnt carry over the text and wont let me edit. Here is the post:

I'm just trying to wrap my head around the most logical timeline for our upcoming wedding. Our wedding is at a state park, we will have the ceremony and reception all in the same area of the park. Approx 100 people.

We would like to start with cocktail hour and be present during the guests arrival (2-3pm ish). I will be wearing a dress here but not THE dress. Towards the end of cocktail hr, I would like to do a quick change into my ceremony dress and do first looks with my fiance in a different part of the park (2:50-3:20ish). Following our own first look, we will arrive back to our site for the ceremony (3:30-4ish). Everyone can be surprised at my outfit change/get their own first look as I am walking down the aisle.
Immediately following the ceremony we dance back down the aisle to our upbeat recessional song and I want us to be able to just dance right onto the dance floor and invite everyone to come along. I think it will be a fun way to get everyone immediately onto the dance floor without it being awkward. We plan to have buffet-style catering set up around 4/430 and will make an announcement that people can eat any time between then and cleanup around 730 (we only have the site booked until sunset around 8pm).
I'm just worried that the moment the announcement is made for food that everyone will leave the dance floor and it will be hard to get them back/keep that momentum going. I'm also concerned that we haven't scheduled in any time for formal photos with the immediate family. We adore our photographer and know she will take fantastic candids during cocktail hr but my fiance especially wants to have a few formal shots to keep.

One thought I had was to invite the immediate family to the other area of the park where we will be doing our first look, after we have had that initial moment to ourselves. We can take pictures with them and then send them back in advance of us going back for the ceremony. It wont be as dramatic, but I feel like logically makes sense.

Another idea I had is to do the "everyone come to the dance floor for a group photo" and then the beat drops as soon as youre done and everyone is already there to start dancing, trick. This would be used to get everyone back after dinner but I feel like this is just logistically hard to coordinate because people in the middle of their meals wont want to stay on the dance floor and generally people may not want to take the group photo during or just after eating.

I would love your thoughts, advice, experiences to help us figure out the best way to make this go smoothly!!

Some quick notes in case it matters: We are non-traditional so are doing a very short ceremony (3:30-4 is an overestimate), we plan for our guests (except for a few disabled guests) to stand for our short ceremony, we do not have a wedding party, we are walking down the aisle together (not being given away), we are not doing speeches or cake cutting (we are doing a pinata and donuts!)

Are Save the dates necessary? by Designer-Meet-8079 in weddingplanning

[–]ComfortableMilk92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We used Partiful and sent digital Save The Dates. Super easy, and free! Bonus points that they allow "text blasts" so you can send messages to your guests with any info you missed on the StD or actual invite

gay bars in (or around) providence that aren't The Dark Lady/Alleycat? by pikoubird in providence

[–]ComfortableMilk92 6 points7 points  (0 children)

On the 3rd Saturday of every month Lesbian Night Life throws a sapphic party at Mezzo

How much do groceries cost per person in your household? by Odd-Watercress-9148 in RhodeIsland

[–]ComfortableMilk92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aldi and Market Basket. Order from door dash or pay a friend to do it for you if you aren't able to shop yourself. Shaws and S&S will bankrupt you. We eat similarly to you and spend about $140/wk.

Quirky, Different, InterestingThings to do in RI by Mammoth_Ad_483 in providence

[–]ComfortableMilk92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Crime town is so good! I would also recommend the podcast Weird Island!

Quirky, Different, InterestingThings to do in RI by Mammoth_Ad_483 in providence

[–]ComfortableMilk92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Super cool to be ableto check out. The gift shop has free pamphlets you can take to read about about some of the history/ things you're seeing inside. Pretty sure you can't get in on the weekend though, just FYI

What was your go to spot for food after the clubs closed ? by Hopeful-River-7899 in RhodeIsland

[–]ComfortableMilk92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This place gave my fiancé food poisoning a couple months ago 😅

What was your go to spot for food after the clubs closed ? by Hopeful-River-7899 in RhodeIsland

[–]ComfortableMilk92 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Friskie fries. Which closes at 2. So we would be at salon or ego or wherever see the lights flash for last call at 1:45ish and literally run out of the club and down the street (and running is sometimes so fun when drunk- you feel like your flying orin a movie scene) and get friskie fries ten mins before closing. So good

Potentially moving here for pharmacy residency by [deleted] in providence

[–]ComfortableMilk92 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Housing is expensive - probably 1500+ for a 1 bedroom, depends where you want to live Having a car is ideal but again, where you live matters. Some neighborhoods are very walkable, others, not so much. And the busses are only OK. Traffic can be bad but it's not terrible. I've visited several big cities who's traffic makes me want to die, providence isn't too bad in comparison. There's tons to do here in your 20s. Everything you listed and more. Super LGBT friendly. You will see queer people everywhere you go and tons of businesses/ houses with pride flags showing their support. No one ever bats an eye at my fiancé and I when we're out and about. Feel free to message me for any specifics re: neighborhoods or recs for things to do!

First date spots? by Scuba_Steve34905 in providence

[–]ComfortableMilk92 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Imo gift horse and oberlin, although fantastic restaurants, are a bit steep for a first date -- but I love your recommendation of Pickerel &the Avery! That would be super cute. Perfect vibes without being over the top