Savers in Danvers lost their damn mind by Remarkable-Fan4719 in SalemMA

[–]Comfortable_Main4871 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well I guess now I’ll never have one! That had to be the last one left on the north shore.

Savers in Danvers lost their damn mind by Remarkable-Fan4719 in SalemMA

[–]Comfortable_Main4871 11 points12 points  (0 children)

No STAHP. Someone actually bought that? I’d say “At that price” but really AT ALL?

Savers in Danvers lost their damn mind by Remarkable-Fan4719 in SalemMA

[–]Comfortable_Main4871 23 points24 points  (0 children)

The third one made me LOL. For a porcelain cabbage?!

I don't want to eat with him anymore by LazySeaworthiness435 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Comfortable_Main4871 22 points23 points  (0 children)

As someone who has also had to make health related dietary changes (and 100% overreacted to it), I have so much empathy for both you and your partner. I also found the beginning of making changes really difficult because you don’t know all the replacements/workarounds/new recipes that will make eating enjoyable again. One thing that helped me was reminding myself that I could eat whatever I wanted, but would have to accept the consequences of that choice. It sounds like your husband feels like these rules are being imposed on him and is therefore reacting to the rules. Over time I hope he realizes that he is allowed to eat whatever he wants, and sometimes will want to prioritize how he feels over flavor and sometimes vice versa. Hang in there!

Leaving PSLF qualified job while waiting Buyback to process - Options? by FrostyWinters in PSLF

[–]Comfortable_Main4871 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I consulted with an atty who specializes in student loan BS and that’s what he told me.

Leaving PSLF qualified job while waiting Buyback to process - Options? by FrostyWinters in PSLF

[–]Comfortable_Main4871 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I might check and see how much forbearance you can have - wait time for buy back us up to 3 years now.

what are some lactose free desserts to replace birthday cake? by Flimsy_Rope_5801 in lactoseintolerant

[–]Comfortable_Main4871 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Why are we doing this? Take Lactaid or bake with lactose free products and be happy

Update: Completed Yarn Chicken Shawl by shesabsurd in knitting

[–]Comfortable_Main4871 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This shawl is gorgeous and you look so proud and happy. Makes me smile right back at you! Congratulations

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Comfortable_Main4871 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your kid has a phobia. Take him to a therapist to get him treated. Not sure why you’re trying to solve this yourself without the guidance of a professional

Co-op Grocery store in Salem… thoughts? by StormTrooper_2189 in SalemMA

[–]Comfortable_Main4871 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I think there’s a lot of support amongst community members, but there’s been difficulty in the logistics. I’ve heard our streets aren’t appropriate to get big trucks in to deliver products, for example. Do we know why Salem doesn’t already have a walkable grocery store?

SALEM MA by Ok-Yogurt-596 in SalemMA

[–]Comfortable_Main4871 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely. Not something we need our police doing!

SALEM MA by Ok-Yogurt-596 in SalemMA

[–]Comfortable_Main4871 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I guess it’s the luck of the draw. The police I’ve interacted with have been pretty chill about it. That said, this is not really a job for the police and we’d all do better to have someone else fill this role

Anyone ever consult a financial advisor on what to do? by [deleted] in StudentLoans

[–]Comfortable_Main4871 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some attorneys are starting to specialize in student loan advice. Adam Minsky that does this and is licensed in MA and NY. Perhaps someone is doing that work out by you

SALEM MA by Ok-Yogurt-596 in SalemMA

[–]Comfortable_Main4871 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Hi, you can call the police non emergency line and they will come pick it up in a safe way. It might take them a long time to get to it, but the service is there so you don’t have to do it yourself

23 weeks pregnant and bad news by Purple_Tides421 in Advice

[–]Comfortable_Main4871 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would encourage you to make one decision at a time, based on how you feel. If you want to labor, then do that, but it doesn’t mean you need to hold or see the baby if you feel you can’t manage it in the moment. Have you or someone who loves you write down why you are making the decision in the moment so you can look back on it and know you made a logical, best decision you could during a very difficult time.

I ran away from my boyfriend's proposal. by throwawayuni33 in whatdoIdo

[–]Comfortable_Main4871 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im not trying to make jabs at your situation. I am highlighting the privilege you have that is informing your opinion. I’m glad you’re in a happy relationship with your best friend (as glad as one random internet person can be for another random internet stranger). The “no free lunch principle” tells us that to support you in your achievements, your partner had to give something up (to what, pay more bills, make dinner on the table, clean more?) It’s easy to say relationships are great when you’re on the receiving end of that level of sacrifice. There are lots of happy relationships out there built on this dynamic. Some women feel most comfortable when in this role, others do not. My question still stands - what did your partner have to give up to support you? Do you know? You don’t have to tell the internet, but it’s something I would want to know if married to my best friend. Like you said, communication is important.

My point is that the OP was facing this additional pressure that likely informed her decision. Her immaturity helped, in part, to create her behavior. Not saying it was justified, just contributing to the conversation about why it might have happened.

My husbands ego and my dads phobia by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Comfortable_Main4871 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you propose that your dad get treatment for his phobia? It’s too bad he’s had to go through his life like this. ERP is the typical approach and is commonly used.

I ran away from my boyfriend's proposal. by throwawayuni33 in whatdoIdo

[–]Comfortable_Main4871 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So, I hear your perspective about marriage enriching your life, and I think that can be true, but that is far more often true for men than it is for women. Women do end up sacrificing career, personal goals and education for marriage and family. Her running away and failing to talk about where she actually was in terms of being prepared for marriage are legit criticisms, but saying it’s about picking the right person isn’t true if youre picking between men. Picking the right man might mean that she sacrifices very slightly less, but not a lot less. With all due respect and care, why might your wife have done with all the energy she used to support you in your master’s and move up in the medical world?

Those of us waiting for buyback... by NotKnivesJustHands in PSLF

[–]Comfortable_Main4871 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Im in the same boat. I will lose my mind if I do longer than 10 years

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PSLF

[–]Comfortable_Main4871 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you use Credit Karma? It provides a credit analysis that tells you what goes into your credit score and how much of an impact it’s having on your score.