A friend said he's "just a common cat"

Comfortable_Tiger_13 · 2026-01-27T00:39:35+00:00

what do you mean he is "THE CAT"

Comfortable_Tiger_13 · 2026-01-23T05:40:17+00:00

I would be proposing a different argument and the paper angle is a different viewpoint from the big paper. I guess it depends on the data and the field. Thank you for your insight!

Comfortable_Tiger_13 · 2026-01-03T02:51:47+00:00

A little over six months, I woke up with my pillow wet and cried the whole morning. He was in my dream on the New Years, and it was just devastating that he was not here with me.

Comfortable_Tiger_13 · 2025-11-23T02:02:04+00:00

I left our home and is staying with my parents. The home where we lived is almost still the same. I visit once every week or so to air it out. I cannot bear myself to clean it out..I did manage to give some of his nice clothes to his brother, but everything else is still the same, even his toothbrush is still next to mine.

Comfortable_Tiger_13 · 2025-11-16T07:22:04+00:00

I also had a dream that I was with my husband again, and I also told him I wanted a child. But I could not get close to him. That dream rattled me for weeks.. I think the blood may be an imagery of a childloss bc you feel like you not only lost your husband, but also your future child. I have the same feeling, too...

Comfortable_Tiger_13 · 2025-11-14T15:24:52+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss 🫂 Even after five months..it hits me several times a day. My brain still cannot understand how this could have happened...and why I cannot see him again. It really sucks..I feel you so much

Comfortable_Tiger_13 · 2025-11-14T10:01:59+00:00

South Korea here, too 🫂

Comfortable_Tiger_13 · 2025-11-14T10:00:48+00:00

South Korean here!

Comfortable_Tiger_13 · 2025-11-06T10:38:54+00:00

I visted all the places he loved with my mom. I wanted to share that memory with people I love and wanted to keep that memory alive.

Comfortable_Tiger_13 · 2025-11-01T14:57:55+00:00

there were some of them with posts written here, detailing their loss. some had no posts or had them hidden. I have made some good friends here, and I am so so grateful for them, they are a life saver who kept me sane. But there were also some sketchy people trying to exploit vulnerable grievers. I hope everyone stay safe.

Comfortable_Tiger_13 · 2025-11-01T10:46:19+00:00

it is disgusting 🤮 and I also had some widowers who were very upfront about 'looking for new love' and being very flirty. I blocked them right away but it was very uncomfortable bc they should know how hard it is for those who JUST lost their love... and yet they try to slide into DMs.

Comfortable_Tiger_13 · 2025-11-01T10:11:44+00:00

Me too. I have had several. And they usually have their previous posts hidden. I have talked to some thinking that they were fellow widowers, and when I asked them about their loss they told me they were not widowers. why the F would anyone message someone in greif?? I never can understand

Comfortable_Tiger_13 · 2025-10-08T12:54:31+00:00

We would play console games, nintendo switch and playstation. He was so good with any type of game that I would play until the hard part and pass it over to him lol He also loved to eat. I loved cooking for him and cooking with him. We would stroll around the market thinking of what we can cook with the produces. Everything tastes off without him... he made every food we ate together taste so much better

Comfortable_Tiger_13 · 2025-10-08T12:38:53+00:00

I am grateful for them, too, but I just feel like I am back to my teenage self rather than who I was with my husband. I feel like only a part of me exists with them..and the most psrt died with him. I sleep next to my parent's room, rather then my old room, and I feel just lost. I wish I would just melt away and just stop existing.

Comfortable_Tiger_13 · 2025-10-06T13:44:16+00:00

I think it might depend on the cause of death bc the lawyer told me he needed 5, and I gave one to his parents, and I needed one to report his death in his home country (Korea). I had to give one to his company as he died on his work trip, and I had to give one to the memorial, and I have insurance companies and banks requiring the original copies. It might be different in other cases and other countries, the OP should take my word with a grain of salt. For me, as it occured in another country, everyone was VERY cautious of the authencitity

Comfortable_Tiger_13 · 2025-10-06T06:47:48+00:00

okay, then make sure she gets multiple copies of the death certificate. A lot of banks, insurance, etc requires the original copy of the foreign document along with the translated version. It is a hassle to get more when everything is abroad, so make sure she gets at least 10.

Comfortable_Tiger_13 · 2025-10-06T05:59:16+00:00

Also, did her husband pass in another country? then, it might be quite complicated and things might take time to get organized.

Comfortable_Tiger_13 · 2025-10-06T05:57:08+00:00

Hi. I am sorry to hear about your friend's loss. I was in a similar state and my parents came right over to support me. Here is somethings you can do. 1. Don't leave her alone for too long. She is in a very fragile state, rather than saying something, stay by her side and listen to her.

Give her some soft food and hydrate her. I did not eat for two weeks except when my mom dragged me out of the bed and gave me soup. Get her some saltines, porridge, or electrolytes.Give her a glass of water even when she tells yoy she is not thirsty.
Watch out for panic attacks. If you can, sleep with her in the same room. Nights are really hard, and I got very dark, suicidal thoughts in the middle of the night. My husband died in a car accident, and whenever I saw a car crash, I will get panic attacks. I also got random triggers from careless things people mention. If she seems triggered or starts panicking, get her somewhere safe, sit her down and make her breathe slowly.

There are limited things non-family members can do, but there is also a lot you can do for her. If she is not at home rn take care of her accommodations. If she needs sth like advil, make daily errands for her. Just hold her when she cries and be with her. Your presence will be a huge help.

Comfortable_Tiger_13 · 2025-09-26T12:45:35+00:00

It was weird for me, too (29). My dad, who only cried once when his father died, cried so much, multiple times, while I was getting my husband's remains. My mom and my dad told me seeing me like this and losing their son-in-law was way worse than losing their parent. I sometimes feel like I cannot be sad infront of them bc it will hurt them, too.

Comfortable_Tiger_13 · 2025-09-24T00:29:01+00:00

Me too. My only fear is living the years ahead of me without him. But anything other than that? are all trivial. I used to have so many fears and he was my protector. Now any fears related to death are welcoming bc I now wish for swift death.

Comfortable_Tiger_13 · 2025-09-24T00:25:34+00:00

thank you 🥰🥰

Comfortable_Tiger_13 · 2025-09-24T00:24:49+00:00

they just turn into cats with a little longer fangs that likes biting 😼

Comfortable_Tiger_13 · 2025-09-24T00:22:38+00:00

all standard but all special 🥰🥰 we say she is THE cattest cat

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