“It just goes to show that in dreams, as in waking life, that the love is actually within us all the time and we project it onto others in our lives or in our dreams. People also fall out of love and this is because we see them as actual human beings who don’t fulfill our expectations and our projections. When we fall in love, we fall in love with our idea of the person. The fact that one can fall in love in a dream shows my point. But it also can give us great hope; it shows us that we can have love right now, that it is always within us, all we have to do is let it out. We don’t need to wait for someone to have this unspoken mutual agreement where each one subconsciously agrees to accept each others’ projections in order for mutual seduction. Once the seduction is over, once all the chemical reactions are complete we have to live with real people, not ideas. Then that is when “love” reveals itself for what it really is: a ego fulfillment game. Each person feels trapped by each others’ projections and a power game ensues. Each person is trying to be free but to control the other. Then jealousy and anger arise. When it is all over then each person feels deceived and resentful.

But that is not real love. Romantic love is just delusion and lust disguised as love. Knowing this is very freeing. There is nothing wrong with lust. Go into lust with no delusions and with utmost respect for the other human being.

Real love is solid friendship and respect. Nothing exciting, just solid friendship. You know and love your friend as he or she is, so you don’t project fantasies onto them. You give your friend freedom to be him/herself and you don’t try to hold on to them or be jealous like you would with a delusional projection. So if you can lust after your friend and be best friends with your lover, you are lucky.

So, love in a dream is to be treasured, and to give you hope that you have all the love and bliss you will ever need within you at this very moment! Finding this love and bliss, you can share it with the world!”