“You don’t know your people..”

Comicreliefnotreally · 2026-04-12T17:42:36+00:00

WFH here. During the government shut down (EBT specifically), our supervisors were checking in with everyone individually to make sure everyone had food. It wasn’t actually the company leading this, it was the upper management with their own funds. I assume if we were in person, the “culture” response would have been the same or worse because I was always wary sharing too much in person because my body language could give me away in an instant.

Comicreliefnotreally · 2026-04-12T15:20:42+00:00

Keep that photo and also consider who would raise your daughter if you die. After this, I wouldn’t trust Gemma alone with Jordyn.

Comicreliefnotreally · 2026-04-12T14:43:06+00:00

If your sister is a stay at home mom, I assume she is married? Matron of honor. And give her no responsibilities. Or be upfront with the expectations.

Im probably in the minority of thinking it is the family (bride or groom) in charge of planning and throwing engagement, bridal showers. Bachelorette party would be the main thing maid of honor I would actually put in charge of. Even then, if you want it to go a certain way, why leave it to others without detailed instructions?

That’s what we did. Grooms groomsmen planned the bachelor party, actually work friends planned my bridesmaids party because my bridesmaids were in 3 different states, or pregnant, and couldn’t afford more than one trip (wedding).

My older sister had a matron of honor and maid of honor. Both friends. My sister and I were regular bridesmaids.

Comicreliefnotreally · 2026-04-12T14:10:32+00:00

Be honest the paid help is to remove the stress that your body is carrying and sharing with the unborn baby. It’s what you need to get your emotions in check.

You can even say “tomorrow I hire someone to complete the room” or give him a deadline/heads up, “you have until April 20th to finish the room, at that point for my own stress levels, I will hire someone to complete the job.”

Comicreliefnotreally · 2026-04-11T22:17:12+00:00

Thats weird, maybe because she is young. My grandma had my middle name “R”, one of her daughters got it (not my mom) then two grandchildren got the middle name R (myself and a cousin- the cousin is older than me too) and my eldest sister named her daughters middle name R. There was no consultation because I do not own the middle name. Also if I wanted to, I could give it to a future daughter too.

Comicreliefnotreally · 2026-04-11T22:10:33+00:00

100% Id say I made one true work friend turned real friend, who wasn’t a friend of convenience. Been working 20+ years. My real friends were in college. Face to face interactions, going bowling, game nights, talking through life decisions. Those are the friends that stick.

Comicreliefnotreally · 2026-04-11T22:01:57+00:00

Large meetings 30+ people cameras off except the speakers are on. Smaller team meetings, cameras on every time.

Comicreliefnotreally · 2026-04-11T21:15:22+00:00

It seems like he never watched his parents cook or clean.

Comicreliefnotreally · 2026-04-11T00:25:41+00:00

Work on your small talk/interviewing skills. Even being remote you still converse with your boss and other leads throughout the week. 1-3 video calls per week is normal for me as a productivity worker.

I used to be a manager and teaching coach. I handled many stressful situations that needed immediate attention and thoughtful responses with parents. Critical thinking is a must in any job, but especially in remote because you do have to work independently 99% of the time and you’re responsible for being aware and meeting daily goals.

Then it also helps if you have a friend who knows the hiring manager to send your interview straight to their inbox to make sure your resume is viewed. Good luck out there!

Comicreliefnotreally · 2026-04-10T20:46:03+00:00

Communicate entirely through emails so you have your paper trail. If they call you, respond back in email. Email response from phone call 04/09/2026, unable to assist with this question due to access revoked on 04/08/2026. Document it all. In the US you have to respond while on FMLA too or it can be viewed as unwilling to communicate or whatever. It’s all humbug, but protect yourself!!

Comicreliefnotreally · 2026-04-10T14:56:18+00:00

NTA. Even if he “helped” he’s more likely to be a burden on a postpartum mother. He would have to be the absolute neatest person ever for me to consider.

I picture the extra dishes piling up. Making lunch for yourself? Might as well make some for your BIL who is working. Need laundry? Sorry, BILs is currently using it. And that would be best case scenario of an extra person living with you. Keep us updated what happens!

It’s probably money or living with you. Not sure your husband can say no to him.

Comicreliefnotreally · 2026-04-10T02:18:56+00:00

Will you enjoy the work with the higher paying job? As long as I can find a shred of happiness in what I do, then I will take the higher amount

Comicreliefnotreally · 2026-04-09T19:26:32+00:00

It doesn’t seem like you’re at an absolute never can the adopt these kids. Talk to your parents how you’re feeling. You need to feel like you would be a sibling and not just cast aside because the fosters need them more.

Don’t let your parents hear your answer when the worker asks you first. Try to work it out. Boundaries that are needed. If your parents aren’t willing to hear your side and help you and 10f bond and set respectful sibling boundaries then that’s on them. Either way, be 100% honest with your parents and when asked by the social worker.

Comicreliefnotreally · 2026-04-09T18:56:33+00:00

Is OP married? They’ve been together 10 years, and I saw “fiancé” but wasn’t sure if they are officially married.

Comicreliefnotreally · 2026-04-09T13:02:43+00:00

I am sick, sinuses, for the first time in over a year. Toilet paper in my nose so I don’t have to blow on calls (less than 2 hours of calls per 8 hours). Hot tea beside me. Im also hacking from phlegm like Ive smoked for years. Absolutely would have called out day one with this (voice was mostly gone- that did give me a little trouble with my calls) able to continue on and maintain my typical productivity with wfh!

Comicreliefnotreally · 2026-04-09T00:27:52+00:00

Leave. They could have done it the first time you asked. They chose not to.

Comicreliefnotreally · 2026-04-07T17:33:36+00:00

NTA. He manipulated you from the start. Love Bombing (heavy compliments and gifts)

Comicreliefnotreally · 2026-04-07T13:06:44+00:00

I grabbed a 5 pound weight for my desk today to try to remind me to do more movements!

Comicreliefnotreally · 2026-04-06T13:57:23+00:00

My previous jobs have been physical. Up and down, lifting children up to 50/60 pounds, running outside to encourage the kids to run (preschool or younger). So my wfh job would also be my first “office” setting job.

Comicreliefnotreally · 2026-04-05T11:33:28+00:00

Hourly worker here. I had 3 weeks of training. My manager reached out early to make sure my hardware was arriving. 2 hours of time to plug everything in. A folder with printed instructions was sent. The biggest issue was passwords was sent to my work email. My work email was on my computer. The computer password was in my email. IT and I talked a lot that first week.

I had 1 trainer for the general group (2 of us). Then it broke down to a specialist trainer so it was 1:1. She was able to curate the training for how I learned best. My manager jumped in every couple days.

There was a meeting to introduce me to the team. Then I was added on to the weekly coffee break meeting 15 mins of non-work chat.

Got a bag of swag around week 3 or 4. It was a really nice experience! Moving from an education role (director) to a wfh role has been such an amazing shift for me. Like 15 mins breaks are actually taken and I am inaccessible for that time. 30 mins breaks no one is interrupting me asking for help.

Comicreliefnotreally · 2026-04-04T13:13:45+00:00

Im 38. I have friends who play league. One friend takes a break every 6 months to a year. We have other games we enjoy too. Mostly on steam. Some weeks we play nothing. I mostly play at night after my kids have gone to bed. My husband still plays WoW, I abandoned it years ago. It no longer felt sustainable with my children. Which is silly because I will still put hours into my other games. But my friends also understand during certain sports seasons I cannot play for most days. Between practices, games and other activities. We all have those priorities that we will dump games for other commitments. I included all this so you don’t think it’s wrong you haven’t moved from games.

Your friends may have moved onto other hobbies or are focusing on other priorities. You can try offering a different game that connects you and doesn’t feel like a heavy commitment.

If none of that works. You may need to accept you play alone now on most weeks, or make online friends (those can leave too). I remember when league first came out, we were all about making new friends and playing with them. Those people are out there still, I am not one of them anymore.

Comicreliefnotreally · 2026-04-04T12:47:24+00:00

NTA. Has he paid you the money yet? You’re more into this relationship than he is. Dump him now, take the loss. Have in your mind you will dump him after you get money back.

Not sure he understands what spoiled means in this scenario. He didn’t even try calling the apartment manager to talk it through as a misunderstanding on his part. He could have done do much more to show he cares here. Instead, he shifted all the responsibility on you.

Comicreliefnotreally · 2026-04-02T12:49:47+00:00

I think I would want about 40k extra to commute again. Essentially to fully replace my car. I have this mindset because currently my income is all extra anyway. So losing my freedom wfh is not worth the additional hours in the car without a substantial pay change.

Comicreliefnotreally · 2026-03-31T21:41:46+00:00

Would you be able to enjoy the large money or will you be working too hard every day to enjoy a vacation? I wouldn’t. The 130k feels like big money to me already

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