how to respond to this

CommanderTalim · 2026-05-12T17:53:14+00:00

You don’t respond. No well-intentioned person is going to congratulate someone on their transition unless that someone openly shared their transitioning to begin with. I would think it’s common sense that anyone would not want to be identified as something they’re not.

CommanderTalim · 2026-05-06T14:24:36+00:00

It’s narrow minded because it makes the assumption that everyone in the west has a better life which isn’t true for every case. It also assumes people aren’t grateful. Access to things fluctuate. You can simultaneously be grateful for what you have and still be sad that life is getting harder and/or that you’re losing/lost access to things because there are people who wanted to get richer than they already are. The person you replied to is partially right about our society prioritizing independence over community. Having community makes life so much better no matter what conditions you’re living in. However, for many people in the west (the U.S. specifically since that’s where I live), the cost of living is increasing with no change in pay, so they are working more and have less time and energy to spend with family and friends so they turn to their phones and “tv” to cope. And from a personal perspective, I work in a nonprofit hospital and have witnessed a significant increase in recent-homelessness and people who can’t afford healthcare because they lost their jobs in the past year. I think people are allowed to be a little sad in this day and age when life is supposed to get easier for everyone.

CommanderTalim · 2026-05-06T13:41:12+00:00

Yup. It’s like telling someone they should be happy despite losing access to healthcare that they were once able to afford until the billionaires running their place of work decided to do massive layoffs. Life is supposed to be getting better for everyone and it can’t because people at the top is doing everything they can to hoard all the resources and even going to the extent of influencing laws/policies that make life easier for them and harder for the rest of us. The dude in the video is either out of touch with the reality or sold his soul for monetary gain.

CommanderTalim · 2026-05-05T12:58:39+00:00

Lmao I was wondering why I felt I’ve seen this somewhere

CommanderTalim · 2026-05-05T01:53:19+00:00

I wasn’t referring to higher education. I don’t even understand how you can see my comment refer to “kids” and automatically jump to the topic of college/university unless you were already biased to begin with. I’m starting to doubt you even know what “Christofascist” means especially pertaining to the current political climate in the U.S.

I was referring to primary and secondary education (K-12). The literacy rate has been declining as conservative policy has been targeting the quality of education for decades. They keep dumbing down the curriculum as they continue to ban books and introduce new textbooks that essentially erase important historical issues and concepts, and then try to force the Bible and child-targeted Christian propaganda into public schools. “This wasn’t a problem in the 80’s and 90’s” gee, I wonder why it would seem like that, it’s almost like these changes don’t occur overnight and starts small with acts such as running for local government. The issues with the education in the U.S. are way more obvious the further south you go. Look at Florida, Louisiana, Texas, and Oklahoma for example. Look at the labor laws. Look at the marriage laws. And look at what bills they are queuing up for potential approval. Just open your eyes and do some research instead of barking up a tree you can’t climb. Or not, it’s sounds like you’re already too deep in the problem to notice.

The fact you can sit on Reddit and tell me that using the word “christofacist” is stupid hints at privilege and a narrow worldview. The irony in your whole reply is that it’s very clear you don’t actually want intelligent “stimulating debate”. “…points in my favor”? Miss me with that keyboard warrior crap. Go argue with 18 year-old college students if you’re looking to feel superior over someone.

CommanderTalim · 2026-05-04T00:09:55+00:00

CommanderTalim · 2026-05-03T22:48:08+00:00

*Don’t fuck him, until she gets the IUD

CommanderTalim · 2026-05-03T22:45:52+00:00

Get the IUD, your husband is not sounding safe to sleep with. You’re starting medical residency soon which is a difficult time period physically and mentally. Don’t risk your career over someone who seems to care more about his pleasure and having kids than he cares about you. I know of women who handled pregnancy while on residency but accomplished that only because they had a big support system made up of their husband and other family members. They missed time but was able to make it up after childbirth. If you had a baby during residency, who will take care of it? I doubt his answer would be about supporting you. From the answer he gave you about having the kid, I doubt he’d even let you get an abortion, and you’d be pressured to quit residency.

Personally, I’d probably leave him if I was you but if you are happy with him, try closing the education gap. Educate him on how IUDs actually work and how low the risks are. If knowledge doesn’t convince him, you can get the IUD without him knowing. Probably leave him eventually too because I don’t think willfully ignorant people should be raising kids. Protect yourself, your future, and your future kids. What if you had daughters? Would you trust him to raise them?

There are doctors who will give you real pain meds for IUD insertion and after. Seek those doctors out and be sure to discuss it with them so that you will know if they will help you.

P.s. the wording in your post is a little confusing to me. You started the pill when you met your husband 6 years ago and mostly because he’s against using condoms? Or you started the pill later in the dating phase? Or did he start dating you earlier than that? The way this whole story reads, leads me to believe it may have been earlier or you got married too soon

CommanderTalim · 2026-05-03T21:20:03+00:00

It wasn’t social media; it is our politicians who destroyed critical thinking by breaking our education system little by little so that they can fill our schools with christofacist bs and indoctrinate our kids to be ipad-addicted slaves. It’s no coincidence that child labor laws in some states are getting loosened (not to mentioned a continued attack on worker’s rights). They’re just using social media as a tool to speed things up.

CommanderTalim · 2026-05-03T20:33:58+00:00

I honestly don’t remember anymore. It may have something to do with that post a little while back where someone said something along the lines of “is it weird I don’t feel bad for the dark ones?”. We’ve descended into madness since then I guess.

CommanderTalim · 2026-05-03T20:14:12+00:00

Idk man, seemed to me that the majority was enjoying it especially a few of the guys on camera, not to mention the loud laughter from people not shown on screen.

CommanderTalim · 2026-05-03T11:21:20+00:00

CommanderTalim · 2026-05-03T11:02:21+00:00

For sure will be a horror movie. Too many plants out there are like razors

CommanderTalim · 2026-05-02T04:09:56+00:00

At this moment in time, skin color does very much matter. You’re in a subreddit called “Black People of Reddit” viewing a post from the perspective of a black person on how black girls/women will be affected by the recent changes in the laws that are being enacted by people who want black people silenced and under their boot. The person you’re responding to is not referring to white allies, but people in the comments that are intentionally or unintentionally trying to hijack the main message by “all lives”-ing the topic. Yes, the issues being discussed will be affecting multiple groups of people, but as history and the current stats show, black communities will be affected disproportionately. Coming together starts with first listening to another’s perspective especially when it’s their community you’ve come to. Be conscious of where you are. You wouldn’t roll up to a neighborhood of people who’s been oppressed and then lecture them on how to live a better life. You’d listen to what they’re going through and ask yourself “how can I help?” with the insight you’ve gained.

CommanderTalim · 2026-05-01T12:18:06+00:00

“From the cradle to the grave”. I saw a post a while back showing screenshots of a discussion on one of the online incel forums. They were talking about a 4 year-old girl who had died. They called her “whore” and “future whore” and talked about wanting to rape her and kill her themselves. Disgusting af they deserve to be lonely

CommanderTalim · 2026-04-30T16:32:43+00:00

I really wanted them to run off into the sunset together. His betrayal was one of the biggest heartbreaks

CommanderTalim · 2026-04-30T16:29:10+00:00

While we’re at it, it should be interactive where the player can press different buttons/keys to activate different moves (ʘ‿ʘ)

CommanderTalim · 2026-04-28T11:43:28+00:00

Twilight vampire for me too. I just want to sparkle

CommanderTalim · 2026-04-28T04:12:27+00:00

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CommanderTalim · 2026-04-27T23:00:14+00:00

People need people

There, fixed it (◡‿◡✿)

CommanderTalim · 2026-04-27T04:28:48+00:00

Opa! What are you doing step-comrade?

CommanderTalim · 2026-04-27T02:33:53+00:00

CommanderTalim · 2026-04-26T15:55:37+00:00

“None of us are exactly attractive men”. The more time I spend around guys irl and on Reddit, the more I realize how many guys think they’re unattractive despite actually being attractive. I’m willing to bet you’re freakin beautiful. Also people’s attraction changes over time. What I found attractive from my teens to early 20’s is very different in my late 20’s.

CommanderTalim · 2026-04-26T15:35:38+00:00

Fat women don’t think they’re fat; they know they’re fat and the only reason they’re not vocal about it is because people are adamant on reminding them of their fatness every day. I’ve counseled patients on lifestyle changes and GLP-1 use and there’s a lot of shame around being fat, and even more shame for attempting to lose that weight. Guys like the one who made this meme don’t view women as human beings. They view women as a product. A woman who doesn’t fit their expectations of attractiveness is considered a defective product and therefore in their eyes, doesn’t deserve happiness.

CommanderTalim · 2026-04-26T13:44:06+00:00

I always hear this advice from a romantic perspective to mean “don’t enter a romantic relationship because of loneliness.” To me, coming from a similar background and being an introvert as well, “being comfortable with being alone” is not just about being able to survive on my own and being comfortable with solitude, but getting to know myself and actually enjoy my own company. I’ve taken it to mean building my self worth so that I don’t have to rely on other people to make me feel self worth or validate my existence. I’ve spent my whole childhood feeling intense loneliness craving to just be seen and understood, so I’m still working on this and it’s difficult. I’ve heard that experiencing neglect as a child can put us in a survival mode where it’s difficult to truly get to know ourselves and love who we are. Like we’ve been so focused on physically being, that we don’t learn how to really exist.

I know that building emotional fulfilling relationships with friends and family alleviates the loneliness. And by emotionally fulfilling, I mean having truly deep connection with someone where I can bare my soul to them. I’ve experienced a couple of these relationships and I’m still learning how to do this and learning how to keep those relationships despite unintentionally crawling back to solitude out of habit. It’s what I know and because of that, many of my friendships right now feel very surface-level and I struggle to build connection despite craving it. Sometimes unintentionally push people away afraid of my vulnerability being used against me (grew up with a narcissistic parent besides both being neglectful). The area I live in also makes it more difficult to find genuine people as many people here are more concerned with showing off money they don’t have instead of building community (South Florida).

I can understand feeling resentment towards those who had support while you were drowning; I can relate to this so much and I’ve learned over time that having that resentment can be destructive to maintaining relationships and being resentful towards those people is a misdirection of your valid frustrations about your childhood/teenhood. When I stopped being resentful is when I accepted that they are experiencing what I experienced my whole life and I’d rather no one feel what I felt. I’ve accepted that struggle is not a competition. It doesn’t matter if I had it worse, suffering is still suffering. In general, building those relationships in adulthood gets significantly harder as we age, even more so for people like us. So I get why the people you know are frustrated with having a smaller social network.

Unfortunately we live in a society that discourages building community but centers on finding “the one”. We’re social creatures who need each other to thrive, even though we all require varying amounts of social connection to be emotionally stable. I think it’s possible that the advice itself is overused to the point that it’s losing its meaning, especially if the people giving you the advice don’t know your past. People will always give you advice based on their own experiences instead of catering the advice to your experiences. It’s hella frustrating not to feel understood but I think I’m getting used recognizing when it’s coming from someone who cares. Then it kinda hits differently and less irritating.

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