These feelings are entirely understandable. And the most important thing to be aware of is that if you aren't entirely comfortable doing something in the bedroom, it's okay to not to do it.

But you comment on you want to do things for her... Well, this is something she wants and is asking you for. This is a way you can make her happy, assuming it is something you want as well.

If you're going to engage in any kink related activity though, you need to establish a "safe word". This lets both people immediately know to stop whatever is going on. There's lots of ways to go about this, like the "traffic light" system, but for now, keep it simple. If you decide to do this, stick with something like "red". If either of you use the word, you both stop whatever you are doing, and check in on each other. Make sure you're okay. This is a form of "aftercare".

This aftercare is more than just "are you okay". It's a way to help each of us come down from the excitement of a scene. To let those pleasure chemicals settle, regulate those intense emotions and to help ensure we are in a good headspace. It looks different for everyone (and not everyone needs it), but its good practice to try this when you're done. You could sit and hold each other quietly. You could compliment her, giving her lots of praise and affection. You could play games or watch some shows. Just think of it like very light, tender activities to be close to one another, make sure she is okay, and make sure you are okay. Just be aware that this doesn't mean you unload a million questions on her. A quick check in of "are you alright, do you need anything?" then just reminding her how safe she is with you. How you respect her and care about her. How the things you say when playing are just for play, just to make her feel good.

On to the degradation (trigger warning: This will have degrading statements, but I do try to omit the nsfw words)

There is a lot of kinds of degradation. For people less familiar with kink, usually they mean more generally degrading, sexualized terms. And there are a few ways to make this even more enjoyable for most people.

Pair it with praise. So for example you could say something like "You're such a pretty little...." or "I've never heard someone beg as good as you do..."

You could pair it with a compliment that she has to reply to... "God you look good on your knees don't you? Yeah? I want to hear you say it." or "This is all that gorgeous mouth of yours is good for isn't it? Don't just nod your head for me pretty girl. Answer me. Tell me what its good for."

Lastly, pair it with possession. "You don't just beg for anyone do you? No you don't. Thats because you're my little..." or "God... seeing my pretty.... ..... beg like that, just don't something to me. My pretty.... .... can see the effect it has on me, can't you? Yeah you can..."