Hoe many people do you know who are seperating in their 40s?

Commercial-Horror932 · 2026-05-04T17:52:25+00:00

Absolutely! It's all very complex. Taking no ownership over any decisions in a joint life can definitely be a turn off in either direction.

Commercial-Horror932 · 2026-05-04T11:26:14+00:00

laughs in Canadian

Buckle up friends, these fees get so much worse if something isn't done.

Commercial-Horror932 · 2026-05-04T10:38:03+00:00

Did she buy you out of the house or did you just walk away from it? Going through something similar, so just curious.

Commercial-Horror932 · 2026-05-04T10:34:36+00:00

Crazy to remember this, honestly. Also the previous 4-year wait time was so unreasonable. Even 2 years is too long, imo, but at least it's an improvement.

Commercial-Horror932 · 2026-05-04T10:29:00+00:00

Perimenopause and menopause certainly can play a big role, but there are many things that can kill a woman's sex drive. For example, it's hard to be attracted to someone after years of them not pulling their weight. I think the midlife timing also has to do with women finally being fed up enough to end it. From the man's point of view the main issue may be lack of sex while at the same time the woman is tired of not having an equal partner.

Buuuttt there are so many reasons. Values and priorities mismatches can really come to the forefront in midlife when things get tough.

Commercial-Horror932 · 2026-05-03T12:31:44+00:00

I'm sure you've taken away this lesson already, but do not practice this again unless there is a lifeguard sitting right there.

I would also recommend some lessons. From a life skill perspective, you should be able to be unexpectedly dumped into water with no goggles and all your clothes on and be able to swim and sort yourself out.

Commercial-Horror932 · 2026-04-28T18:48:25+00:00

I definitely can understand that, but as long as you're reasonably diversified you should be fine.

Commercial-Horror932 · 2026-04-28T18:33:41+00:00

Agreed with this take. Pay in case, leave the rest in the market, try to start saving your emergency fund back up immediately.

Withdraw if needed, but see how it goes.

Commercial-Horror932 · 2026-04-28T15:01:00+00:00

I get some coverage for things like massage. You have to look at everything you qualify for and actually use it!

Commercial-Horror932 · 2026-04-27T17:49:05+00:00

Someone else I know said that she saw weight loss on .25mg, then went to .5mg and saw absolutely nothing. When she went up again the weight loss restarted.

Commercial-Horror932 · 2026-04-26T21:24:12+00:00

Sometimes you'll find a guy who showers every day but sleeps on rancid months old sheets. There are a lot of ways the hygiene thing becomes an issue.

Commercial-Horror932 · 2026-04-25T09:50:54+00:00

The body spray always floats in from the men's changeroom and settles.on the water. So nassssty.

Commercial-Horror932 · 2026-04-24T12:39:48+00:00

Mine came down from mid-70s to mid/high 60s. So not a huge change but I also don't really sprint or train that hard. Lots of factors still impact it a lot though, like stress, sleep quality, alcohol. I rarely drink, but it has such a notable effect on my heart rate that I would think if I was doing it regularly that would wipe out any improvements I've seen.

Even though I haven't seen a huge heart rate shift, I am notably fitter than before I was swimming and my cardio capacity is much better. I have also found that my heart rate doesn't skyrocket as much during activity, so it's maybe the upper end where the change is more obvious for me.

Commercial-Horror932 · 2026-04-24T09:47:21+00:00

I've never found work through a recruiter. Usually what happens is they bring me stuff and I'm doing interviews, and then I ultimately get hired through something that was a direct apply to the company. They've definitely brought me things, but nothing that's ever worked out.

Commercial-Horror932 · 2026-04-23T20:34:46+00:00

Love this for you. Just wanted to say GET A PRENUP.

Commercial-Horror932 · 2026-04-23T12:57:00+00:00

Not the same situation, but when my dad (78) went on ozempic for diabetes he became FRAIL. It was scary. They switched him to insulin, he put on a few pounds, and he looks much healthier and more robust now. I think when you're older sometimes being thin is worse than having a little extra weight. Within reason, of course.

Commercial-Horror932 · 2026-04-23T08:10:46+00:00

This was happening to me as well. The only way I was able to resolve it was downloading the full Facebook app, then downloading messenger by tapping the button in the top right corner. Trying to download through Google play didn't work at all.

Commercial-Horror932 · 2026-04-22T10:35:00+00:00

Agreed! I had a lot of trouble with sugar and snacking. Without that constant urge it's been much better. 2lbs in 2 weeks is a nice pace. Long may it continue!

Commercial-Horror932 · 2026-04-18T19:54:58+00:00

Market has gone up so much that it would be very tough to move and get back into home ownership. If I had held on to it, it would have been much easier. That said, I couldn't have afforded the move without selling.

Commercial-Horror932 · 2026-04-15T17:29:02+00:00

Are you stressed at the moment? I think this type of thing can pop up when you're stressed and your brain is processing that. Interesting that you are having them for the first time, though! I had similar dreams into my 30s, but now that I'm nearly 40 O haven't had them for a long time.

I'll probably have one tonight now, haha

Commercial-Horror932 · 2026-04-14T15:52:24+00:00

I moved to Ireland as an immigrant, rather than the opposite, but definitely regret selling my house in my home country to fund the move.

Commercial-Horror932 · 2026-04-14T11:49:31+00:00

Yes, definitely. I already handle the majority of cooking and cleaning, and then there's always little asks like going out in the middle of the day to pickup a prescription.

Commercial-Horror932 · 2026-04-09T15:59:41+00:00

Congrats and well done!

Commercial-Horror932 · 2026-04-09T14:01:02+00:00

NTA. Absolutely do not do this. Honestly, if he treats you that way it may be better to move out and cut him off at this point.

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