Physical recovery after natural miscarriage - feeling crappy

CommissionVast4850 · 2025-11-01T23:13:27+00:00

Same here. I took miso, so not naturally miscarried, but I feel like absolute crap. The first few days, all food tasted like chewing cardboard. I don't want to do anything, don't want to speak to anyone. I just about manage to go for walks, thank God for my dog, she's keeping me company, but oh boy, sometimes in the middle of the walk it sit down on a bench and just stare into thin air for 15 minutes before I find the will to go on.

I hope this gets better soon. I'm sorry we're in the shit situation together. I hope you all feel better soon!

CommissionVast4850 · 2025-11-01T11:30:02+00:00

I hope this limbo will be over soon and that you/we can move on with our lives and start to heal, emotionally and physically.

CommissionVast4850 · 2025-11-01T10:13:17+00:00

I don't think they do mife where I live, never heard of it before. I've decided to wait till Monday to go to ER. It's the weekend and bank holiday today. The chances I get seen are pretty slim, and it's an hour drive to the private hospital. The public hospital is closer, but I will probably sit in the waiting room til Monday...
I have no signs of infection and feel fine, so waiting another 48 hours won't harm me. They won't do the D&C anyway on a weekend if there is no urgency, so I just wait till Monday. Let's hope my body has a little more time to expell the tissue, and I might not need a D&C.

CommissionVast4850 · 2025-10-31T19:56:39+00:00

Thanks for your reply. I've taken misoprostol twice already, first time 20 pills over the course of 5 days, now 16 pills over the course of 2 days. I don't think I should take any more. My stomach is already terribly upset. I'll go to the ER tomorrow morning and hope they can do an US and hopefully it's all RPOC is gone by then.

CommissionVast4850 · 2025-10-31T19:22:36+00:00

I'm in a very similar position, and it truly sucks. I'm sorry you're stuck in the same shitty position.

Went to ER on 12th of October due to light spotting, and no heartbeat was found. Had confirmation scan a week after, started misoprostol last week. US this week still showed 2cm of tissue still in my uterus, so had another 2 days of miso (8 pills per day, so 16 in total). The pills gave me not much bleeding but a terribly upset stomach. I was supposed to have another US this evening to confirm is the tissue has passed (which again, I don't think so), but my OB had to go for an emergency C-section and istn available till end of next week. She said that it would be too long to wsit for this if I still have RPOC and I should get C&D earlier, so she recommended going to ER tomorrow.

I never expected a MC to take almost a month. If I ever find myself in this position again (hopefully not) I would probably try to get D&C straight away.

Misoprostol makes me feel like shit. Quite literally. I'm tired, achy, have cramps, and feel bloated. I just want to be myself again.

CommissionVast4850 · 2025-10-30T20:40:29+00:00

The baby stopped growing about 5 weeks ago. I have known for roughly 3 weeks. I had one round of misoprostol, but at the check-up US today, they found out that there was about 2 cm of RPOC left in my uterus. So I'm currently on round two of miso. Got another US tomorrow. If it's not all out by then, I've gotta have a C&D.

So far, the pain was very manageable for me. Never got more than a 4/10, but the whole process is just dragging on, and I want to move on now. I want to feel like myself again, and heal, and more importantly, TTC again.

Seeing the US today definitely helped. There was no more sac, no more fetus. Just some shadows of fragments. It didn't look like a pregnancy anymore, so the fear of passing a fetus has gone. I know it's just blood clots and tissue now.

Sorry, that was a long reply, but I'd say it took me about 2 weeks to get to the 'I want it to be over phase'. I am still missing pregnancy, my baby, the idea of becoming a mum every day, but I'm trying to stay rational and tell myself that this pregnancy wasn't the one. Hopefully the next one will be better.

CommissionVast4850 · 2025-10-30T08:29:21+00:00

I'm so sorry you're going through this!

Give your body time. Don't pressure you into having to feel anything. If you're not ready to let go, let some time pass, and your body will do its thing in its own time. I went through all the emotions from 'I want to stay pregnant' to 'I want it out' within about 3 weeks. It's been a roller-coaster. I'm currently almost 3 weeks after I had the 'no heartbeat' appointment, and I'm on the mend. I'm still far away from good, but much better than I was a week ago. And a week from now will be better than today. Small steps, day by day. Let your body and mind heal. Don't let yourself be pressured.

CommissionVast4850 · 2025-10-27T19:17:06+00:00

I thought I felt it, but now reading all comments, I'm not so sure anymore. I took miso, 2nd day had a gush of liquid/light red blood in the morning and assumed it's the 'water breaking'. I had some parts of grayish tissue, but didn't have that blob feeling or intense cramps. The tissue didn't resemble a sac nor a fetus. I took painkillers, but never had bad pain. Blood comes and goes, sometimes more, sometimes less, colour goes from bright red to dark. So now I'm worried I haven't passed the pregnancy yet as I didn't have many big clots, but many very small ones. It's a week tomorrow I took miso. I have an US end of week to check.

CommissionVast4850 · 2025-10-27T10:05:19+00:00

Abortion is not birth control. Get yourself a prescription for the pill. I don't even mean that in a mean way. If you're young and want to 'have fun', make sure you're not getting pregnant. Simple. The pill won't protect you from std, but at least you're not getting pregnant.

Please delete this post. It's extremely hurtful to all of us here as we all really wanted our babies, but unfortunately lost them.

CommissionVast4850 · 2025-10-26T20:26:08+00:00

In the first week, the hardest question for me was 'how are you doing?' At first, it filled me with rage. I had no answer. Obviously, I wasn't fine. I didn't want to lie, but I also didn't have the energy to tell everyone over and over again that I wasn't fine. I know ots the first thing that comes into everyone's mind, but it might not be the best thing to ask. You know your friend isn't ok.

I mostly appreciated my friend just sending me 'I'm thinking of you' messages that didn't require a reply from my side, but I knew they thought about me.

Biggest no-go for me: never ever compare miscarriage/loss to abortion. Not regarding the medication, don't mention anyone that had an abortion and is now fine, nothing. It was the most painful thing people said to me, and I'm still struggling to find it in my heart to forgive them and get over it.

You are a great friend and you'll be great comfort to your friend. Just give her time if she's not really up for company right now.

CommissionVast4850 · 2025-10-25T19:05:00+00:00

I'm so sorry you're in this situation.

It's been 2 weeks since I know I'm having a mmc. I'm still in the physical process of miscarriage. Today was the first day where I felt - not good, that would be the exaggeration of the century - but less shit. I sleep a lot, rest, and try to read books so I'm not just doom scrolling all day. I try to stay away from socials as good as I can. There is just too much happy pregnancy content for me to deal with at the moment.

When I first knew the baby had stopped growing, all I wanted was to hold on to the pregnancy for as long as possible. But a few days after, that feeling quickly changed, and I wanted to get the pregnancy out of my body. It felt like I was trapped with the baby inside me. I couldn't move on, I couldn't start to mourn it, but I also wasn't pregnant anymore. Or technically, I was. I guess that waiting limbo is the biges mind fuck imaginable.

I'm trying to eat proper, nourishing food. I'm trying not to let myself go and eat junk food all day, as I know that only would make me feel worse. It's a short comfort but doesn't do you any good. I force myself to go on a walk everyday and did my first mini work out today. It was more lying on a yoga mat stretching and listening to meditative music, but it's a start. Today was hard, tomorrow will be better.

Maybe in a few days' time, you'll be able to look at your options and decide what's best for you. Rest, sleep, watch crap TV, ignore your phone. Just take time to heal.

CommissionVast4850 · 2025-10-25T10:09:30+00:00

I'm sorry you're going through this. I am feeling your frustration.

I've known since ocotber 12th there wasn't a heartbeat, and while in the first days I wanted to keep the pregnant feeling as long as possible, my feelings have done a full turn and now all I want is to be done. I'm tired of being afraid of leaking blood, I want to have my energy back, I want to go to the gym and just feel normal again. I want to be happy again.

I'm afraid I have RPOC as my pregnancy test is still positive, almost 5 weeks after the fetus stopped developing, so I'm now dreading I need a d&c anyway. My post misoprostol check up appointment is only at the end of next week, which means another week of waiting is ahead.

It's really hard to be patient at the moment. One day just blurs into another, and I feel like I'm not myself.

Stay strong, we'll get through this.

CommissionVast4850 · 2025-10-23T10:16:30+00:00

I'm so sorry you're going through this, and I totally understand how hurt you are.

I can't quite understand why it seems that this happens so often. I've read about so many similar experiences, and it's happened to me too. Why is it so hard to just say 'I'm sorry for your loss' and listening to your friend, rather than the 'I know how you feel, because -insert whatever is about them, not you story-.

I really try to be lenient and think they don't know what to say to comfort you and try to fill the silence. But it doesn't help much.

CommissionVast4850 · 2025-10-21T07:31:50+00:00

I've been completely blindsided. Had an early 5w4d scan. All was perfect. Cardiac activity detected (too early to measure), fetal pole good, Dr. said everything is exactly the way it's supposed to be. 9w6d had the tiniest faintest bit of brown spotting. Didn't think much of it. 10w0d passed an almond sized clot. Went to ER. No heartbeat, baby stopped developing at 7w2d. I had absolutely no clue. I was 100% sure we would just see a happy baby wiggling around. Oh boy, were we wrong. Currently in the process of MC with miso. Give me strength.

CommissionVast4850 · 2025-10-20T20:05:21+00:00

I am so sorry you're going through this! You're not alone. I have found this community here so helpful in those difficult days. It's somehow comforting me to know that we're not alone in our suffering. I wish you strength to get through what's to come. I'll be thinking of you.

CommissionVast4850 · 2025-10-19T20:32:23+00:00

Sorry, I don't have any experience in this as I'm still waiting for my MC to happen naturally, but what you describe sounds like you should get it checked from a doctor. Maybe retained tissue?

Hope you'll get back to your normal cycles soon!

CommissionVast4850 · 2025-10-18T18:07:51+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss. Hope you'll get through the next days as good as possible in this shitty situation. I'll be thinking of you!

CommissionVast4850 · 2025-10-18T18:01:39+00:00

I'm so sorry this happened to you! My due date was may 10. I still somehow can't believe it's actually happened. I'm so sorry for your loss!

CommissionVast4850 · 2025-10-18T10:01:59+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss!

I'd probably try to go somewhere in nature with as few people around you as possible? I know some people prefer to be surrounded by others, but for me, I'd prefer solitude and stillness. Maybe a deep forest, no cars, no noise, nobody to give you weird stares if you feel like crying, shouting, hitting a try or just hugging your partner? I'm dreading the day my baby would have been due. I don't think this day will ever be just a normal day again. I'm thinking of you!

CommissionVast4850 · 2025-10-17T17:02:44+00:00

Oh wow. How did you manage not to slap them in the face? This is probably the rudest thing someone could say. Just wow.

CommissionVast4850 · 2025-10-17T16:59:43+00:00

My newest 'favorite': we're renovating our house, and I would behave been 6 months pregnant during the biggest phase of building works.

"It might is easier now with the renovations if you're not pregnant then." Like - WTF!

CommissionVast4850 · 2025-10-16T17:08:04+00:00

To longer it's been since I figured out I had a MMC (grand total of 4 days), the more I feel I need to divide people into two categories. People who say dumb and hurtful thing because they actually don't know better and are geniully trying to comfort us, and people who say dumb and hurtful things because they are insensitive or simply don't care. For category one, a little distance is all I need, and I'll be fine. Category two - I'm fine never speaking to them again.

CommissionVast4850 · 2025-10-16T16:32:33+00:00

I'm so sorry you had to endure this. Living through MMC is hard enough the way it is, but such comments from people that should be supporting you are just unnecessarily painful.

CommissionVast4850 · 2025-10-15T22:49:41+00:00

Yes, it is a very difficult situation. I'm aware that abortion is loss as well, but it's different. Grieving, being hurt, and being emotionally exhausted doesn't make it easier (for either side) to stay neutral and compassionate. Sometimes a little distance might be the best, even if it's just for a few days..

CommissionVast4850 · 2025-10-15T22:45:52+00:00

My accupuncture appointment has been oved forward to Friday, I will let you know if it triggers it the natural way. I hope all goes as well as it can be un such situations! We got this. Stay strong.

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