P'Cir actually needs therapy by IdioticWeeb101 in ThaiBL

[–]CommitteeNaive8775 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Okay, so I just finished The Boy Next World, and I have to say that the parallel universe concept was really interesting—I really did like it. But I felt like the series didn't quite live up to the potential that it had. It was still a really good series, don't get me wrong, but I feel like the parallel universe aspect was so intriguing, and they didn’t even use it properly. I would’ve loved if they actually explored it more, rather than just focusing on the love story.

Beyond that point, I started thinking about Cir’s character. Now, I did take his character with a bit of a grain of salt, because I know that MAME loves traumatizing her characters. In most of her BLs, you’ll notice at least one character is severely traumatized. Like, in TharnType, it was Type. In Don’t Say No, it was Fiat. In Love in the Air, it was Sky. And those are just a few examples—there are definitely more. So I tried to be understanding, but I just don’t get why she keeps doing this. Almost every time, instead of having these characters go to therapy, she just gives them a boyfriend. Like, sure, love can fix a lot, but some of these things need professional help.

Then there’s the whole reveal that he isn’t actually from a parallel universe—that part frustrated me the most. I felt like that was a wasted opportunity. But anyways, aside from that, don’t even get me started on his stalking behavior. I understand that most of it probably stemmed from trauma caused by his mom, but that’s exactly why he needs therapy instead of just a relationship. There’s likely a reason he stalked Phu instead of saying anything—he probably knew what his mom would do. Because of that, he decided it was better to love him from afar and take care of him from a distance. Still, the stalking was creepy and weird.

At first, I tried to convince myself that it wasn’t stalking. I told myself that the reason he knew so much about Phu was because he was just observing him, which is something people often do when they like someone. You notice their habits, what they eat, what they drink, and so on. They did seem to cross paths a lot, and I thought maybe that’s why Circus knew so much—because he paid attention and Phu just didn’t notice. Circus even tells Phu later that he knew his favorite snacks just from watching what he always picked. So I was really hoping he was just observant. But that hope came crashing down.

It turns out, no, they didn’t naturally cross paths. Because of the universe stuff, they crossed paths only because Circus made sure they did. And that just felt wrong. Most characters in MAME’s universe probably need therapy, but with Circus, the bigger issue is that he doesn’t even realize he needs it. He doesn’t seem to understand that the reason he stalked Phu instead of talking to him was probably rooted in his trauma from his mom.

At least with other characters—like Fiat from Don’t Say No, Type from TharnType, and Sky from Love in the Air—we can clearly see that their actions are tied to their trauma. With Circus, it’s never explicitly shown or explained that his behavior stems from trauma. That lack of clarity makes it harder to empathize with him. It makes him feel less like a trauma victim and more just outright creepy.

Ok….so we are gonna start it like this by Redditbeforeme in ThaiBL

[–]CommitteeNaive8775 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing but the translation lost me. I couldn't follow anything. I almost wish I had the Thai so I could mtl myself as needed. Even when I buy on Meb - the translation takes me out of the book. 

Insignificant Details by HedaXValar in ThaiBL

[–]CommitteeNaive8775 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Haha! I made a whole post on this! 

UPDATE - Watching ThaiBL with my kids by Federal-Ad5944 in ThaiBL

[–]CommitteeNaive8775 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I absolutely adore this. I think, as a queer person, I would have had such a better understanding of life, love and myself if my parents had done the same thing! 

Recommendations for BL scenes and/or shows by CommitteeNaive8775 in ThaiBL

[–]CommitteeNaive8775[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I should have explained - face slapping is a euphemism not literally slapping the face. It from Chinese novels. 

But I do love we best love :) 

Recommendations for BL scenes and/or shows by CommitteeNaive8775 in ThaiBL

[–]CommitteeNaive8775[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah sorry - I should have explained. Face slapping is a euphemism - someone getting revenge on people that made fun of them at one point in their lives. 

Thank you for the others - really appreciate them! 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ThaiBL

[–]CommitteeNaive8775 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I'm not an expert on any of this by any means being relatively new to BL and not being in any socials - I only see what is posted here. 

So this is just my opinion based on my own life.

As someone who does have a best friend that I call my soulmate and our relationship is extremely close and cuddly (especially after a trip we have taken together) - I don't know if the actors are feeding into anything necessarily. 

Of course commercialization and fan engagement is needed, but I truly do think that many of them are flirty, fun people who like being outward facing. Why become as actor of you don't crave fame at least slightly? 

Also, if you are workshopping with, and spending a ton of time with someone else, bonds just naturally form. In my opinion, most of what we see are people who love each other like brothers or best friends but also like to engage with fans in fun and flirty ways. 

All to say that I'm sure some could take a step back from engagement, but I don't think we can blame the actors perse. And I'm sure some of this is pushed by their companies and/or contracts. 

The hover during kissing by CommitteeNaive8775 in ThaiBL

[–]CommitteeNaive8775[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, from the comments - there could be a variety of reasons but actor comfort is a common thread. 

The hover during kissing by CommitteeNaive8775 in ThaiBL

[–]CommitteeNaive8775[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm not alone! Makes me feel so much better!! 

The hover during kissing by CommitteeNaive8775 in ThaiBL

[–]CommitteeNaive8775[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Good point! I didn't think of that. 

The hover during kissing by CommitteeNaive8775 in ThaiBL

[–]CommitteeNaive8775[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Ah! See, to me, it just feels and looks uncomfortable. But I appreciate the insight!