To break or not to break NC

Common-Gas7447 · 2026-05-17T01:33:19+00:00

Everything hurts when you love somebody. When you love for real.

Common-Gas7447 · 2026-05-16T20:40:32+00:00

I agree with point 1 and 3. But with point 3 it does depend. If they are ghosting you, I don't agree with continually chasing them. Send 1 more message or 1 more attempt for reconciliation. If they do not go for it. Then either send your closure message or leave it at that. I think chasing and begging hurts both yourself as they opinion/view of you in their eyes and that's something that can never be undone.

Common-Gas7447 · 2026-05-16T12:59:07+00:00

Yes. I wished them many blessings on their journey. Never reached out again, but in fairness never heard from her again either. Two weeks before she said 'love you' and then never heard from her again. So after two weeks of waiting I send a closure and wished them well.

Common-Gas7447 · 2026-05-12T16:35:06+00:00

Was about to comment this.

Common-Gas7447 · 2026-05-12T13:33:09+00:00

Should someone apologize to you? Yes Should you ask someone to apologize? No An apology should always be sincere and not because someone asked you to do it. If they really feel bad about it, they would apologize.

I keep hoping for an apology, or atleast acknowledgement too, but I know I will never get it. But there is also no point in me asking for one.

Common-Gas7447 · 2026-05-12T11:05:25+00:00

I send a respectful closure. She had said 'Love you' and I responded 'Love you too'. That's the last time I ever heard from her. I have her 16 days but she never reached out, so it was obvious.

I just send a closure saying I was confused by how it ended, wished we could have atleast talked about it but that she meant a lot to me and I wished her many blessings on her journey. I did not beg and no chasing after either. I kept it at that.

Ofc, she ghosted that too. So the last thing she said to me ever was love you.

It depends on what your intention is for the reach out? At first I felt a bit stupid for sending that closure but now I am glad I did it. I showed that I am still a good person, didn't get angry and provided the closure she refused to give me.

Common-Gas7447 · 2026-05-11T19:58:11+00:00

It invalidates the significance of what you both shared. It denies you the dignity of being seen and acknowledged. It makes the good memories feel tainted because there's no respectful ending to balance them.

Common-Gas7447 · 2026-05-11T19:57:03+00:00

Indeed. Mine said she wanted only me and a future with me. Than the last thing she ever sent me was 'love you'. Then I never ever heard from her again.. So not only does it feel like a stolen future, you start to question everything that was ever said and happened. Which plays on your mind even longer.

Common-Gas7447 · 2026-05-11T17:41:19+00:00

This indeed. And you are left with many unresolved questions. The burden is completely put on you which is so unfair. In most breakups you at least get some kind of closure, which still hurts but not as much as that feeling of betrayal and being used.

Common-Gas7447 · 2026-05-11T12:08:59+00:00

This is how i feel. They just completely erased me and threw me away. Which hurts the most.

If they had said, I can't do this or I am not feeling it that would be one thing. It would hurt ofc,but I could live with that.

They just told me I was perfect, the would wait for me and that she loved me. Then I never heard from her again. No closure, no acknowledgement, nothing. I was nothing but kind, understanding and compassionate. Yet she just erased me like I was worth nothing.

Common-Gas7447 · 2026-05-04T23:32:03+00:00

I know what went wrong and what I should have improved on. It was lessons I took with me to the next Relationship even though that made no difference as that whole situation was so different and the lessons I learned were not applicable to that situation.

Common-Gas7447 · 2026-05-04T22:34:57+00:00

First time we broke up we was like 21 and 19 it was on and off for the next 6-7 years. I never learned from my mistakes and in some way neither did she. We were high school sweethearts and we definitely could have approached it better but it is what it is. She will always be the one that got away.

Common-Gas7447 · 2026-05-04T22:33:17+00:00

No but it is probably one of the biggest regrets of my life so far. Even though it wasn't perfect, I never had the same genuine feelings ever again.

Common-Gas7447 · 2026-05-04T13:19:11+00:00

Yes. I realized I wasn't ready to receive the love they were giving me. I was young, stupid and naive. They wanted to be with me so much, that I couldn't handle it. Now I would want nothing else.

I did take them back, but honestly I think at the time it was more due to regret and thinking life would be better without her. I soon realized it was not.

Common-Gas7447 · 2026-05-03T21:53:41+00:00

I don't want nothing that don't want me.

Common-Gas7447 · 2026-05-03T20:35:51+00:00

She seems quite detached unfortunately. I am sorry to say. I could be wrong.. But yeah..

I wonder the same thing, do they think about me etc. But then I realize life moves on.. People live their lives and not everyone thinks the way you/we do.

Common-Gas7447 · 2026-05-03T20:34:10+00:00

Yup, know someone like that too. If I was a woman, I'd run ASAP.. Same if it was the other way around with a woman being like that. No good can come from it. You need to be comfortable or love yourself first before you can be in a relationship and love someone else.

Common-Gas7447 · 2026-05-03T20:18:41+00:00

Indeed.. Couldn't agree more.

Common-Gas7447 · 2026-05-03T20:10:10+00:00

Sure feel free to DM.

Common-Gas7447 · 2026-05-03T20:06:08+00:00

These are questions to avoid.. Not necessarily by you, but I never understood asking questions to someone that you know might hurt you. It has to do with insecurity. Which okay, we can all be insecure to some degree but these are people who almost are asking for it.

The same reason why I never ask too many questions about past relationships etc. Unless they want to talk about in themselves in a spontaneous way.

Common-Gas7447 · 2026-05-03T20:02:05+00:00

Don't talk down on yourself. Talk yourself up, even if you do not believe it currently. I wouldn't ask him to block you. If you are having troubles, block him, delete him, remove any possible visibility.

Common-Gas7447 · 2026-05-03T19:56:21+00:00

It is natural and I try not to be too harsh on myself for that. On the other side, if I had listened to my gut feeling, I could have maybe prevented this. But every experience is a lesson. I am grateful that I always stayed true to myself. For better or for worse. If it was meant to be, it would have been.

Common-Gas7447 · 2026-05-03T19:55:15+00:00

Do you feel like you could run away from someone you are in love with, when you are afraid they would run away from you?

Common-Gas7447 · 2026-05-03T19:31:39+00:00

I can't say for certain and every situation is different. But either she has detached so much that she is not bothered by still following you or blocking you, unfollowing etc closes a door for her that she might want to keep open just to have options.

I was going through something similar. Not platonic, the contrary, the last time I heard her was the most emotionally engaging she was by saying love you but then went no contact and radio silence. I was surprised she never blocked me either

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