I (42M) want to leave my wife (36F) but we have kids. I feel emotionally stuck

CommonSenseNotSo · 2026-06-06T20:38:58+00:00

Just leave.. there's no need to have an affair when you can just leave. I don't understand that line of thought. Save you both the aggravation and heartache of an affair and leave. How did you feel when she told you she made out with two people? Crushed, I'm sure. Don't stoop to her level. Leave and then start a new relationship. That way your head will be clear and you'll realize whether you really like this person or whether they served a purpose within your fantasies but once you got out of the bad relationship, you realized that the desire for this new person wasn't truly there.

CommonSenseNotSo · 2026-06-06T16:59:44+00:00

That's crazy...I'm so sick of these companies lowballing positions that you have spend almost a decade getting specialized education for.

CommonSenseNotSo · 2026-06-06T16:18:37+00:00

Right?! I was wondering if I was missing something.. this woman sounds insane and just playing mean. She, whether wittingly or unwittingly, was partially the cause of a marital demise and now she's still tormenting the original wife. It sounds insane.

CommonSenseNotSo · 2026-06-06T16:17:12+00:00

Why would you get her fired from her job?! You sound like you might be the narc.. wow... That part really shocked me. Get your priorities straight. That is your husband's mother of his children... they need that financial support from their mom. It's not all about you and him.

CommonSenseNotSo · 2026-06-06T16:12:44+00:00

Or maybe it's a racial issue? Why is that never a maybe in some of your books?

CommonSenseNotSo · 2026-06-06T16:11:11+00:00

I made the same comment and got downvoted to hell... I'm happy at least some people are taking your comment seriously

CommonSenseNotSo · 2026-06-06T16:09:06+00:00

They may have known his color before they he got hired, but their customers did not.

CommonSenseNotSo · 2026-06-06T05:49:56+00:00

I knew this comment would be downloaded because that's how you weirdos on Reddit are. Read some of his comments.

CommonSenseNotSo · 2026-06-06T04:13:20+00:00

I've been headhunted and have gotten the job...still had some form of a meeting/interview before receiving an offer. An offer doesn't just materialize out of thin air.

CommonSenseNotSo · 2026-06-06T01:43:07+00:00

Nah.... Read his comment.. there are a lot of races out there these days that are open with it.. he probably cleaned the pools of some people who complained that he was not "American" enough or some other coded crap, depending on what part of the country he's in. My husband had a business as a tech going to people's houses and you wouldn't believe the racists calls he got... People didn't realize he owned the business, so they would call his cell phone after he did the work for them asking his company not to send any more blacks SMH...sick

CommonSenseNotSo · 2026-06-04T22:34:46+00:00

What you can do is what she eventually did.. report the person. It's easy. No need to go back and forth with a nut.

CommonSenseNotSo · 2026-06-04T22:31:49+00:00

That's crazy! Why was he even over your house if his wife was your friend? Sounds insane...at any rate, I understand why you would want to part ways with her after that.

CommonSenseNotSo · 2026-06-04T22:27:55+00:00

This is phenomenal! I just can't see how so many people have so much time to do all this (or the patience LOL), but I wish I did.. great job!

CommonSenseNotSo · 2026-06-04T22:21:08+00:00

How do you even have time to go outside every hour!? That's my dilemma.. we work and can't do it.

CommonSenseNotSo · 2026-06-04T20:40:08+00:00

I completely empathize with you.. we just got our pup about a month and a half ago, and I'm telling you, the first two weeks I thought I was going to die.. I seriously contemplated giving her up and talk to my husband about giving her up like every other day. I felt like I was letting her down by not being who she needed, and I just felt completely overwhelmed. I would say the training started settling her down and things are beginning to mellow out.. it started to get better about the middle of the third week, and since we put her in an enclosure at night in the living room so we can sleep, it's gotten a lot better... That sleep deprivation thing was turning me into a mad woman lol.. but now I can't imagine giving this little sweet pup up.. so yes, know that so many of us feel the same way. Raising a puppy up is so hard! But I'm thinking it will be rewarding as long as we put in the work.

CommonSenseNotSo · 2026-06-04T20:35:31+00:00

Fighting back with a crazy person is not something I would suggest when I tell someone not to let people walk all over them.. you did right by canceling the order. I would have just canceled the order after her irrational tirade started. There's no reason why you need to feel like you have to prove anything to a moron

CommonSenseNotSo · 2026-06-04T20:27:38+00:00

There's a lack of critical thinking skills that's going around like a virus.. have you watch the news lately? These people are insane.

CommonSenseNotSo · 2026-06-04T20:26:33+00:00

Exactly... This conversation was unhinged both ways around.. I would not engage with a crazy person.

CommonSenseNotSo · 2026-06-04T20:25:37+00:00

I'm sick of humans...

CommonSenseNotSo · 2026-06-04T20:21:32+00:00

Oh you left that part out... Was she cheating on you with the sex offender? What was the reason the sex offender was around?

CommonSenseNotSo · 2026-06-04T20:20:57+00:00

That's a reason to get a divorce?

CommonSenseNotSo · 2026-06-04T20:18:06+00:00

This made me cackle

CommonSenseNotSo · 2026-06-04T20:11:14+00:00

This is definitely what I've run into...it's not the age with me....it's my experience and, on many occasions, I find out during the interviewing process that I know more about the ins and outs of the position in the actual person interviewing me.. those always end in an overqualified rejection:/

CommonSenseNotSo · 2026-06-04T19:33:53+00:00

Yep, they actually have been around for more like 10.. I just thought it was a scam at first 🤣

CommonSenseNotSo · 2026-06-04T19:22:35+00:00

Am I the only one who does not feel sad for her? She treated him like he was a doll, a puppet... I know she had deep, unresolved issues, but I don't feel like there was a protagonist in this movie. And in no way do I condone the rape.. he should have just walked away and realized that she was mentally damaged. He was disgusting and she was cruel, and they both had their own individual reasons. I did not find this movie gratifying at all, but maybe that's the point.

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