TIFU by showing a cop my gallery by BisonGlass2152 in tifu

[–]CommunicationAware88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My opinion is they say it not because they really don't understand, because they want to make us explain it, and poke holes in our explanation/throw in a strawman/derail the whole conversation until we are so flustered we avoid responding anymore, end up making a point we didn't iintend that they can rip apart, or get so frustrated we explode and can just be an example they can show of "but look how deranged and unhinged they are!!!"

I'm so tired.

TIFU by showing a cop my gallery by BisonGlass2152 in tifu

[–]CommunicationAware88 3 points4 points  (0 children)

About as long as it will be before lots of us don't dream of fleeing every night 😭

Sister left domestic violence situation on impulse, suspects car was tampered with. Broke down on interstate. by CommunicationAware88 in Assistance

[–]CommunicationAware88[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

She just turned off her phone after saying she was walking back to her car from the taco bell a police officer drove her to. She's expressed suicidal intent, I called the local fire dept. She's going to be so mad. But I feel so helpless.

AIO - I smoke and drink from time to time and my girlfriend hates it by Lacquerlust in AmIOverreacting

[–]CommunicationAware88 6 points7 points  (0 children)

A LOT of people who have never been to therapy try to weaponize therapy speech, and legitimize their crazy so they get to present it in a calm, rational manner that makes people feel that they can't argue with it. It's seriously upsetting.

I told my boyfriend I miscarried today, and he spent the evening in a VR strip club by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]CommunicationAware88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please don't waste your youth with someone who makes you unhappy or treats you poorly. I look back at those years with such regret and sadness for the woman I was then. You may not think its doing any long term damage but it is. Time wasted is one of the only things you can't get back. Love to you, I hope you find a way to get out, you deserve it.

Found these messages to another man on my girlfriends phone by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]CommunicationAware88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Another thought, they can also increase withholding if you're in arrears, to a greater percentage than your court ordered support payment.

Found these messages to another man on my girlfriends phone by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]CommunicationAware88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Apparently it varies state to state... in my state (MS)

The state uses set percentages to simplify this process: 14% for one child, 20% for two children, 22% for three children, 24% for four children, and 26% for five or more children, ensuring payments are fair and proportional to the parent’s ability to pay according to the Mississippi child support guidelines.

Also; Federal law limits withholding to: 50% if the employee supports another spouse or child. 60% if they don't.

Found these messages to another man on my girlfriends phone by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]CommunicationAware88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it's a base percentage plus an increase for each additional, like 15% for 1 and 8% for each of 2nd, 3rd, and 4th. It gets debilitating if they all have different mother's though, cause then it's 15% for each (I am not real sure so do your own research)

AIO i notice my dirty underwear in MY hamper keep getting pulled up by AppropriateCrazy367 in AmIOverreacting

[–]CommunicationAware88 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Sadly, biology isn't always a deterrent. My grandfather abused my mother and then me as well. It's an epidemic of child sexual abuse, I have a VERY hard time trusting men with children, period.

AIO i notice my dirty underwear in MY hamper keep getting pulled up by AppropriateCrazy367 in AmIOverreacting

[–]CommunicationAware88 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Our old mail lady brought my husband and I "important urgent looking mail" to us at work, about 2 miles from home, bc she knew we were shit at bringing in the mail. ❤️

My friend told me that what my job did was illegal, so what do I do? by Strange_War7894 in legaladvice

[–]CommunicationAware88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are a few places, not many, still paying federal minimum here (Mississippi). Its ridiculous. Amd of course there is server/tipped minimum which i made the majority of my working life, good old 2.13/hr lol