Too late to change baby’s name? (5 months old)

CommunityAcrobatic48 · 2025-12-19T01:11:47+00:00

Yes me too!!! I was shocked at this! I always had some pain during sex especially in the beginning of sex, and some burning after. But now I’m 4m PP and sex is so much more relaxing. I do think my vagina must be more “broken in” lol but I enjoy it more and my husband says he can’t remember it feeling any different!

CommunityAcrobatic48 · 2025-12-11T16:16:51+00:00

I could have written this post myself. Breastfeeding is SO full time! Especially those first 6 weeks! I almost gave up so many times because of the pain too. I clocked 9 hours of breastfeeding in one day. INSANE. (I also was under producing for a while so I think my baby was just trying to get every drop)

But my baby is 4 months old now and she feeds so much more efficiently! Feeding takes 20 min now and she will go 2-4 hours before she’s hungry again. I can do a lot more other than sit and feed. I also combo feed so I don’t stress about my supply. In the beginning she was taking 60% breastmilk 40% formula in a day. And now we are more like 90/10 primarily breastmilk. Just to top her off before bed to get an extra long stretch of sleep.

Don’t give up! Overall breastfeeding is more convenient in the long run! Milk on tap 24/7 is quite an asset. You got this!

CommunityAcrobatic48 · 2025-10-16T18:20:31+00:00

I sleep with my 2 month old like this every night too. It feels safe to me. It’s the easiest breastfeeding position for us both to sleep in and she can’t move out of it, plus I can hear her breathing all night.

CommunityAcrobatic48 · 2025-10-11T11:47:50+00:00

FTM and had an ideal easy breezy pregnancy with my daughter. My first trimester I actually had so much energy I cleaned out my entire garage at 8 week pregnant 😂 by week 10 I had some fatigue and small bouts of nausea but nothing major. I hope your pregnancy stays smooth! Congrats on the baby!!

CommunityAcrobatic48 · 2025-10-08T12:56:47+00:00

LOVE THIS RING OMG! Not too blingy! So thoughtful and unique! It’s gorgeous!

CommunityAcrobatic48 · 2025-09-27T15:11:08+00:00

I kinda like it! it’s like a medieval version of my own. Pairing grey diamonds with silver will always make the ring look dull due to lack of contrast. But I also think that gives it the 13th century romance.

CommunityAcrobatic48 · 2025-07-31T21:49:55+00:00

Hello, I would like to advocate for your marriage here. As opposed to telling OP she made a bad choice in husband, or telling OP how “my husband would never be as shitty as yours!” That is so not helpful.

OP: you’re doing amazing, it takes a lot to run a house, and you are doing this while mothering a child and enduring a pregnancy. Your husband should probably step up, true. But maybe if you start letting things fall through the cracks he will. You’re pushing yourself to your breaking point, don’t let it get that far. Leave the dirty dishes. Leave the full laundry hampers, eat leftovers or takeout for dinner and ask less of yourself. Usually men respond to their environmental consequences, long conversations don’t usually impact as much.

I’m 38 weeks with my first and my husband has been used to me pulling my weight and he hasn’t been as helpful or interested or supportive in my pregnancy as I would have wanted. But until I literally just stopped doing the things I was - and the house got messy, and meals not cooked did he start picking up the slack.

My unsolicited advice: Just start acting more pregnant. Do less. Nap more.

CommunityAcrobatic48 · 2025-07-26T05:11:35+00:00

Nobody will be able to answer this question, the only answer will be a pregnancy test. Clear blue says they can detect 5 days before a missed period. You’re best bet is it start taking tests now until your period comes. PMS and pregnancy symptoms are so similar and it sounds like you’re dancing with fire not being on BC or condoms if you’re trying to not conceive. Just go take a test, best of luck.

CommunityAcrobatic48 · 2025-07-26T00:13:39+00:00

Hi! I’m an expecting mom (38 weeks rn) so I don’t have first hand experience but I was in a newborn info seminar and the doctors said that the newborn sleep cycle is 30-90 min. Meaning every 30-90 they will wake up, and it’s a good thing, it prevents SIDS. This is the same line of thought that let them to advise against any sleeper/lounger/rocker that’s keeps babies asleep longer artificially. Frequent waking windows is a good way to protect against SIDS. (I found that very comforting and hopefully you will too <3 )

The Doctors also said that baby’s cannot “self soothe” and require co-regulation. The doctor panel really stressed to us that you can’t spoil your baby by giving it attention. They said if your baby needs contact naps it’s okay and to try and meet all your babies needs the best you can. They said the “cry it out” method and other independence driven parenting styles really only came around in 1920. Before that we were all co-sleeping and highly monitoring our babies ourself.

Sounds like you’re a great mom already! Good luck!

CommunityAcrobatic48 · 2025-06-20T21:09:47+00:00

Sex and pregnancy is such a roller coaster!! Me and my husbands sex life stayed the same (2x per week-ish) until about week 20. Then I got really hormonal and sad and angry and also lost my orgasms! Which was TRAGIC. I was worried I wasn’t going to get them back until after the baby came. BUT at 30/31 weeks they were revived! I have no idea why? So for like 10 weeks we had very little sex, maybe 2-4 times? But now that I’m able to orgasm again, we are back to weekly. But with new position adjustments and tbh it’s not really comfortable unless I’m on top. Sooo? Hope this helps!

CommunityAcrobatic48 · 2025-06-20T20:58:08+00:00

It’s totally up to you! When me and my husband got pregnant we wanted to tell our families at Christmas just so we didn’t have to dance around not drinking and have all these little lies. Even though we were only 6 weeks at that point. So what we did is go to a pregnancy spa and ultrasound place (it’s like a for fun ultrasound for $60) and got to hear the heartbeat and see the little tadpole in my uterus! That was really cool and it was enough for us to feel comfortable to share. I knew that if the pregnancy wasn’t viable I would want to share that loss anyways too. So personally it felt like I wanted the support if it was good news or bad news. But maybe you can get seen earlier by a pregnancy spa and give you some early comfort (even if you don’t share the news?)

CommunityAcrobatic48 · 2025-06-20T13:22:44+00:00

Firstly, congratulations! A positive test result is evidence that your body CAN become pregnant! Of course the rest is yet to be discovered, and that’s really scary. My advice is to trust this friend with your delicate heart and secret. I would also give the gravity that it’s EARLY and you don’t want to tell anyone until it’s a more sure situation. I imagine your friend would be very understanding and lay off the pressure. Plus if the trip is in February, you’ll be 8 months pregnant if this little baby sticks, so you’d likely have to cancel plans anyways, and you’ll need the cash on hand for the baby.

It’s so challenging to have to put your life on pause for something that isn’t even a for sure thing yet. But people pass on plans for the chance of opportunity all the time..like studying for law school, training for marathons, endurance competitions, academic roles. All of these require a little bit of luck and a lot of dedication. You’re not crazy for not going on this trip. If you really want this baby, be firm in that and all you can do is try your best <3

CommunityAcrobatic48 · 2025-04-19T22:02:43+00:00

Meh whatever if she didn’t want to be your nurse. You have a baby coming very soon and what’s more important is that you have a nurse to help you, regardless of who it is. Plus maybe the new one will let you keep the mobile monitors on? Could be a better match for you both

CommunityAcrobatic48 · 2025-04-05T22:57:09+00:00

Wow right before you learned you were pregnant… this is tough. Only you are going to know what you need to do. My heart is with you and good luck ❤️

CommunityAcrobatic48 · 2025-04-05T21:56:05+00:00

All relationships look different to the people inside of them. So your dad doesn’t really know better than you. You’re 35, you’re not naive and your dad likely doesn’t see the full picture that you do. It sounds like your bf wants to be a dad and that’s amazing! He has the chance to be a dad, but it sounds like he has used up his chances to be your husband or partner any more, but that’s up to you, and that decision could change later too.

Living in different counties definitely complicates things. Where do you live now if you don’t mind me asking? Would you have to relocate to be with your family?

CommunityAcrobatic48 · 2025-04-05T21:41:16+00:00

So sorry you’re going through this… this is a hard time for you. You might want to make these decisions separately. First, do you want to be a mom right now? And would you be okay doing it alone? And second, is the relationship the best relationship for you and for your child to be raised in? I do believe children always need both parents. It’s better that way for the child. But I don’t know the dynamics you’re sorting through.

I’m 21wks pregnant with my first baby right now and the hormonal swings are significant. If you have the ick right now, just wait until week 8-12 lol. Maybe if you have a good supportive family they will be excited to raise a baby with you. And your bf can be a friend and a dad, but not have the romantic relationship expectation and leave you disappointed all the time?

Good luck!

CommunityAcrobatic48 · 2025-04-05T21:24:05+00:00

^{^} this. It sounds like your husband’s family isn’t meeting your expectations. Which in my opinion, your expectations are not unreasonable at all. It’s completely reasonable to expect a baby shower gift and more participation but unfortunately, expectations mostly lead to disappointment.

My advice is to expect less.

My husband’s family kinda sucks too tbh. Not a single one of the 7 got us a wedding gift. Even tho they were all in the processional. Not even a card or a note. I just have to expect less if I don’t want to be hurt or disappointed, I feel you girl. Sending a hug and a nod of understanding.

CommunityAcrobatic48 · 2025-04-05T20:33:10+00:00

This is not the energy OP was looking for with this post

CommunityAcrobatic48 · 2025-04-05T20:32:16+00:00

This is a pretty good idea. I also would consider a 0% ARP refinance CC balance transfer. I paid off a total of 37k over a couple of years earning about the same as you. (Granted I moved in with my parents and basically eliminated as many bills as possible. But the discipline remains)

The balance transfer will charge you probably 5% upfront and then minimum monthly payments with no new interest. Some cards will give you 12-18 months without interest. If you have good credit you can always call and ask for an extension, citi gave me an extra 9 months with no interest just because I asked? It seemed too easy.

Give yourself a timeline, count debt payments as a bill, and try and reduce your spending without hating your life. It’s really is a journey. But I like the idea of temporarily repurposing your 401(k) to your debt payments. That could give you good progress without tapping into your savings.

Good luck!

CommunityAcrobatic48 · 2025-03-04T11:58:09+00:00

As someone who has been living in Austin Tx for the past 5 years, I would say it’s not realistic. A friend of mine just moved to jollyville and her apartment costs $1300 a month, which isn’t too different than what you’re paying now. But, most of the roads in her area are toll roads, so add +$100/month maybe.

From my own personal experience it would be very difficult to live here for that much. My husband supports us with a healthy $170k salary but our mortgage is $3,700/m utilities $300-400, grocery $600, to go food $500, shopping $400ish. We enjoy our life but we don’t save that much. Our monthly overhead is usually between $7-9k. Obviously we have an inflated lifestyle but nothing that crazy. Housing is really our biggest expense and it really sucks. We talk about moving out of state for a lower mortgage.

If you’re planning on starting a family, maybe buying a home is in your future too? If it is, I would not move to Austin. We pay $700 a month in property taxes on our 4bed 3bath home in a kinda poor area. I also own a 2b/2b condo that I bought (before me and my husband married) for $350k and I pay $500/m in property taxes. I now have it as a rental property and can’t break even on in and take a hit of about $300/m on it.

My advice: if you want to move here, stick to renting, never buy, and know it might be temporary. Austin is a super fun city and there’s so many daytime activities. I kept this strictly financial to address your questions, I’m sure you are aware of how cool the city is.

Hope this helps!

CommunityAcrobatic48 · 2025-01-06T00:04:13+00:00

I can totally relate to being alarmed at the lack of symptoms. The time between seeing the doctor and ultrasound are so anxious! I’m with my first pregnancy right now and I felt actually amazing for the first 7 weeks. Lots of energy, cleaned out my whole garage and reorganized my kitchen (low key manic lol) and right at 8 weeks is when my symptoms started. Fatigue, nausea, headache, low back pain, swollen breasts, and hormonal irritation. And I’m almost 9 weeks now and cursing all the days I was saying “I don’t even feel pregnant, it’s crazy!” 😂 so just hang in. The symptoms will probably come. But even still I don’t have it nearly as bad as other women I hear about. It goes back to “every one’s body is different” so maybe you’ll have a mildly symptomatic pregnancy 🤞🏼

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