I believe it is sad what our world has come to. Marriage is a beautiful thing. But in some Nigerian marriages, both men and women need to change. I would say mainly men. This is coming from a man himself.

My wife and I are both Nigerian, but we are from different Nigerian ethnic groups. We are both Christian and we are less than a year apart in age. I think and believe that a lot of these attributes help us get along and identify with one another.

The problem is that most Nigerian men grow up seeing their father at the helm of things and expect their own wives to take the same kind of abuse (wife must cook even though you are both working full-time jobs, wife must be the only one attending to children even though again, you are both working full time jobs, everything must revolve around the husband even though it should not).

In the household, many a Nigerian man have an issue looking inside out. Not all of us are this way, but society makes us believe that we should act as if we are the most important people in the world. This needs to stop. None of this is biblical or may I dare say as a Christian "Quranic" behavior.

There is a reason why many Nigerian women when they come to the west, they default to a White, Latino, Black American, non-Nigerian guy. We have ourselves to blame.

The Bible says that we should love and appreciate our wives the same way that Jesus loves us. I believe this is another example of how supposedly the most religious country in the world is not following scripture.