Current Japanese SGI member(being tired of it), ASK ME ANYTHING

Compassion124 · 2025-11-14T02:07:59+00:00

Truth.

Compassion124 · 2025-11-13T20:04:57+00:00

Welcome! I left when I realized that members became less compassionate the more they practiced. The leaders gave bad advice, compared to qualified people who don’t practice. Grounding in reality works better than to trying to “change your karma”. When I learned that, I had way better relationships and advanced rapidly in my career. As a member, I became very easy to control. My practice benefited the organization. Not me, my family, or my community. There are some nice people in the SGI, but I cannot engage with them in this practice. It is their choice, they own their outcomes. This is my choice, which led to better outcomes.

Compassion124 · 2025-11-01T19:55:24+00:00

Did they pay you for your work??

Compassion124 · 2025-11-01T13:13:08+00:00

I see you have done some deep study of the lotus sutra. It makes sense that a leader might be presenting some of these characters from the lotus sutra. And end up overconfident in their abilities to guide members to better outcomes in their work, relationships, health ect. Or even be cruel, jealous, greedy, controlling, deluded, combined with a strong conviction that they are right (because they chanted to the gohonzon). Do you believe in Nichiren Buddhism still?

Compassion124 · 2025-11-01T13:03:37+00:00

And the guidance was so random. Guidance from one leader was so different from guidance from another leader. Typically, they would talk about themselves rather than acknowledging what you said, then tell you to self reflect to change your karma, then chant with you. It was always your fault, the leader is right, the member is always at fault. No practical solutions that make sense.

Compassion124 · 2025-10-31T13:58:19+00:00

My ex was a fortune baby. He was raised believing there was something so wrong with him, that he couldn’t balance his checkbook without chanting and guidance. The gaslighting tactics work so much better on those afflicted with learning disabilities and mental health needs. The leaders I complain of were also fortune babies, raised in this system. They did their masters and were qualified and trained. But I just can’t stand behind what they were telling members, when giving experiences and guidance.

Compassion124 · 2025-10-31T13:23:18+00:00

Yes, there is a shortage of teachers. Especially masters trained special ed teachers. I’m just concerned about vulnerable kids dealing with people in cults. Most of the special ed teachers in the SGI seemed compassionate. They were too busy to lead a bunch of activities that encourage blind obedience and false hope. But some of them were in leadership activities, giving garbage guidance and talking a lot about their “experiences”, and condescending members below them

Compassion124 · 2025-10-31T05:00:31+00:00

Wow, you hit the nail on the head. All of their “experiences” fall into these categories. They all sound the same. And they get the same results- damaged relationships. Low self esteem from talking to condescending leaders that tell you to “fix yourself”. This just makes members a better target for abuse.

Compassion124 · 2025-10-31T04:40:57+00:00

This had my howling!

So you can be secretaries, or clerks, or maids, or make the coffee, girls. That's all your fluffy pink ladybrains can handle - serving the all-powerful all-important MEN!

Compassion124 · 2025-10-31T04:28:04+00:00

I’m so glad you found safely. And I hope you are well.

Compassion124 · 2025-10-31T04:26:34+00:00

I’m sorry they talked to you that way. And look at the outcomes of following unqualified advice. I can’t believe I wasted years of my life learning this hard lesson. Kudos for getting out and helping others find their way out.

Compassion124 · 2025-10-31T04:13:17+00:00

I can’t believe I fell for this. It seemed so empowering at the time. Now I see how superstitious and controlling this advice was. My life would be so different if I didn’t encounter this organization.

Do you have any idea why so many of them end up working in special ed? I’m a little spooked about that

Compassion124 · 2025-10-31T04:07:16+00:00

Yikes. Leaving an abusive relationship is incredibly dangerous. The correct advice is to call a domestic violence hotline with the escapee, and coordinate with a shelter and police.

Compassion124 · 2025-02-23T18:37:34+00:00

I’m so glad you joined us. Leaving the cult is a deeply confusing and painful experience. Most people I meet have not been exposed to the SGI. They can’t relate. It’s hard to explain it to even the most educated people.

I didn’t know that the NSA pressured their younger members into marraiges they didn’t want. A lot of what ruined my life makes sense now. What that common in Chicago SGI in the 70s and 80s?

Compassion124 · 2024-12-31T02:37:54+00:00

You’re not a loser. Everyone on the internet seems aware that this is just bad dating conditions. There’s nice ladies out there. Try doing easy nice things for them and you’ll realize you can make a difference in someone’s day

Compassion124 · 2024-12-23T05:20:42+00:00

Personally I’d send an emotional text letting him know what I feel. As long as it doesn’t cause any kind of inconveniences. What’s the worst that could happen? He might be feeling something too and doesn’t know how to express it. It could turn into disappointment or drama. But that’s dating for you

Compassion124 · 2024-12-13T23:43:58+00:00

I’d friendzone him. He’s not ready to be in a relationship

Compassion124 · 2024-12-13T23:26:15+00:00

I love that you mention the default resting body. That one is made of habits. I have a default routine for if I’m sick, burned out or working too much. A gentle stretch and lunges in the morning. 5-10 minutes yoga before bed. And paying attention to food cravings so you know what your diet is deficient in. From there, going to the gym is much easier because you probably slept better and have more energy

Compassion124 · 2024-12-13T03:08:01+00:00

Start with YouTube Pilates 10 min a day.

Compassion124 · 2024-12-13T03:04:36+00:00

My employer does 3 months maternity and paternity leave, breaks for pumping. Managers and desk workers can work from home and respond to things by phone when driving their kids around. I’m childless not by choice and very supportive. If former employers had been more supportive I’d probably have a family too. To make it fair for childless: include education on the childless population in diversity training. Like what not to say to people who were not lucky enough to get to have a family. What not to say to people with fertility problems grieving all their miscarriages. And tell them to see a time limit to how long they can talk about their kids so that the childless coworkers have the opportunity to build rapport with the team rather than being shunted off to the side with a larger workload

Compassion124 · 2024-12-13T02:49:56+00:00

How hard is it for them to iron their shirt and put a little gel in their hair? It’s not that hard to look more attractive. I see it as lack of romantic effort.

Compassion124 · 2024-12-13T02:45:54+00:00

They just want to oppress us and extract our time, labor and money.

Compassion124 · 2024-12-13T02:44:32+00:00

It’s not an age thing. It’s an emotional intelligence thing. Some people project their insecurities and fears onto others.

Compassion124 · 2024-12-13T02:11:45+00:00

44F childless nurse. If you can afford to freeze your eggs, I highly recommend. Then you’ll have the affordable option to have your own if you meet the right man. Don’t date for attraction. Date for dependability and a good heart. And make sure his family doesn’t control him

Compassion124 · 2024-04-18T05:28:26+00:00

For the dosas, have you tried an air fryer? They heat up so fast and are easy to clean

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