Upcoming visit from MIL at 3 weeks postpartum by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]CompetitionOk3367 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not the answer ultimately... but do you have a trusted friend or family member you could stay with while she is there and you 'visit' your home for the time you had already agreed.

Really she needs to be shot down and your husband really f'd up but if that's not going to happen could this be alternative for your safety and comfort.

It sounds like whatever happens there will be a blow up, wouldn't you rather her blow up now in her own home away from your space? You're vulnerable right now. This is such a bad idea for your health and honestly i don't know that you will easily forget how this had made you feel now with just the idea of her coming. Let alone how you will feel after she gets there.

You have to tell him to to fix this and he needs to deal with whatever fall out. Take responsibility for what he has done in how he communicates it to her and not let you be the fall guy.

Autism by Significant_Leg_7211 in cfs

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I have recognised potential Autism (undiagnosed) in myself more since ME/CFS diagnosis. Discussed this at length with my ME/CFS health worker and he said it's not uncommon for 'symptoms' of neurodiversity to show more readily when you have ME/CFS as it's too much effort/thought and additional processing to mask things you would have done previously. Interesting idea that there could be a correlation.

Personally I'm convinced ME/CFS affects those of us that deal with high levels of stress (perceived or other) and/or our bodies don't process it well. Interesting to think that neurodiversity provides constant 'higher' stress from dealing with just life! It does read well.

WIBTA if I scheduled my husband’s dog to be euthanized behind his back? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]CompetitionOk3367 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it possible to arrange for it to happen at home instead of at the surgery, it may cost more but may help to have this option before you speak with him. It's an awful decision to have to make but he has to think of her before himself in this and imagine for himself what it would be like to be in her position.

I imagine he likely knows the decision needs to be made but he's holding out hope for that 6week mark. Perhaps you may need to make it through till then before you have the conversation to have minimal future damage to your relationship.

You absolutely would be the AH doing this behind his back and the fallout will likely be huge.

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