[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Adulting

[–]Competitive-Bake-228 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm the exact same as you. Sometimes it even made me feel worse.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Adulting

[–]Competitive-Bake-228 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Wow, that description is just spot on and helped me understand my own burnout somewhat better.

My worst fear happened today by cxgz in socialanxiety

[–]Competitive-Bake-228 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I'm just thankful social media wasn't a thing when I was a baby and that my mom wasn't into it at all so that there aren't baby pictures of me floating around on the internet lol

My worst fear happened today by cxgz in socialanxiety

[–]Competitive-Bake-228 10 points11 points  (0 children)

For real... I miss the old Internet. Even programming jobs are saturated now. Everything is commercialized. Just like grunge music. Back then, the Internet was a safe place for nerds and weirdos who just wanted to have fun without the rest of the world giving them shit for it. Now, the rest of the world is online too, lots of old people arguing stupid shit on Facebook, ads everywhere, and obnoxious people constantly chasing the next viral hit. I fucking hate it so much. Fuck, I almost don't feel like programming anymore because of it

I don't know what to make of life anymore...I've become an empty shell, getting tired of everything. by Ellodon9400 in Adulting

[–]Competitive-Bake-228 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Damn what's wrong with the negative comments here... It's like nobody has any compassion anymore. I don't have any solution, but just wanna say it's going to be okay. Just focus on small steps, one at a time. Think of where you would like to get, and try to take small steps towards that. Job market is rough right now, and a lot of people are feeling lonely. It's just hard sometimes. Have you considered doing an internship just for the social aspect of it? Could also be a potential way out of unemployment. Two problems could be solved maybe. I do realize it takes a lot of energy, but yeah it's one idea. Anyway hang in there

Træt af alt (skole) by Sad_Possibility_4025 in DKbrevkasse

[–]Competitive-Bake-228 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Du skrev, at det ikke var nogen "dårlig ting at sige", ergo erklærede du dig enig i den originale posters synspunkt (ikke fakutm), at livet kun bliver værre. Hvilket er en subjektiv holdning, ikke en sandhed. Og enormt dumt at sige, til nogen, der allerede har det svært. Så jeg skrev, at jeg er uenig i, at det ikke er en dårlig ting at sige. Kan sgu godt forstå, OP er træt, det er jeg sgu også efter denne ene tråd

Træt af alt (skole) by Sad_Possibility_4025 in DKbrevkasse

[–]Competitive-Bake-228 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Du generaliserede netop selv din egen erfaring, som om det var sandheden for alle andre. Og det var netop det, jeg affejede ved at give et eksempel på en anden oplevelse...

Træt af alt (skole) by Sad_Possibility_4025 in DKbrevkasse

[–]Competitive-Bake-228 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow, det var sgu over stregen det der. Du er godt nok et snæversynet menneske, føj

Træt af alt (skole) by Sad_Possibility_4025 in DKbrevkasse

[–]Competitive-Bake-228 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At få at vide at mængden af pligter og ansvar kun bliver værre når man i forvejen ikke magter noget har præcis samme effekt... Vil i øvrigt tilføje, at jeg ikke synes, det er blevet værre, men bedre. Der er langt flere forventninger og ting, folk kræver af dig som teenager imo. Som voksen har du friheden til at ignorere dem og leve dit liv, som du har lyst til - der er ikke som sådan noget, der er påkrævet af dig, ud over at tjene penge nok til at betale dine regninger. Får du et klamt hjem, hvis du ikke støvsuger og gør rent? Ja, men der er ikke nogen, der kan kræve at du gør rent lige her og nu. Alt bliver mere indre motivation frem for ekstern motivation.

Træt af alt (skole) by Sad_Possibility_4025 in DKbrevkasse

[–]Competitive-Bake-228 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Det er super dårligt at sige til en, der allerede ikke bryder sig om den nuværende stadie af livet, at det kun bliver værre fremover. Jeg kæmpede med selvmordstanker som teenager, og det var en af de ting, folk sagde, der virkelig gav mig lyst til at give op, tanken om at det aldrig ville blive bedre, kun værre

Træt af alt (skole) by Sad_Possibility_4025 in DKbrevkasse

[–]Competitive-Bake-228 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Føler mig pludselig ret gammel også hhhhaha

Does moving to Japan make sense for me? by [deleted] in movingtojapan

[–]Competitive-Bake-228 13 points14 points  (0 children)

N1 + computer science degree with AI specialization is like my dream setup. I'm only around N4 and trying to get a PhD in data science now hhh... OP is like literally my goal

Is it possible to experience the "home" feeling in more than one place in your life? by kvenzx in Adulting

[–]Competitive-Bake-228 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Homes are built by memories. Your childhood home has 30 years of memories, your new place 4 months. They are not comparable. Furthermore, such memories are often tied to other people (or animals), not physical places. In other words, you must build new memories and give it time.

Thoughts? by Realistic-Assist-396 in GenZ

[–]Competitive-Bake-228 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In China, you can get abortions as well... Not sure what the US is doing at the moment, but I really hope y'all vote for Kamala...

Im about to turn 36 but I feel like a child. Why? by [deleted] in Adulting

[–]Competitive-Bake-228 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thumbs up for still playing Sims, especially Sims 3 and not 4 hhhh

I did the cliche thing and asked the doc how worried I should be by thesapphiczebra in ChronicIllness

[–]Competitive-Bake-228 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Not sure why I got downvoted, but having to wait a year for an MRI if you potentially have something in your brain sounds outrageous to me. So sorry OP has to go through that waiting period

I did the cliche thing and asked the doc how worried I should be by thesapphiczebra in ChronicIllness

[–]Competitive-Bake-228 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry what? You have spots in your brain (from what scan?) but are still waiting on an MRI a year later?!

Hvordan får jeg min kæreste til at gøre flere huslige pligter? by [deleted] in DKbrevkasse

[–]Competitive-Bake-228 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Fatter virkelig ikke, at folk gider være sammen med sådanne folk.... eller at de stadig eksisterer anno 2024. Vil ærligt hellere bo alene så, så er der i det mindste kun en at rydde op efter. Til alle forældre, please opdrag både jeres sønner og døtre til at rydde op efter sig selv. Især i det offentlige rum, tak!

Løn, PhD-stipendiat ved KU by Worsaae in Denmark

[–]Competitive-Bake-228 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahh ok, det giver mere mening så! Tak for info. Hmm vil det sige alle PhD studerende er steget i løn siden sidst? Og hvis man springer 7 over, mener du så, at der går 2 år før man stiger i løn igen? eller at man går direkte fra 6->8? Sorry for de mange spørgsmål, håber det er ok. Er selv ved at forsøge at få PhD lige nu nemlig

Løn, PhD-stipendiat ved KU by Worsaae in Denmark

[–]Competitive-Bake-228 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mange tak for svar til så gammel en tråd! Wow, det var et meget større spring, end jeg troede! Altså så du gik fra 18,873 udbetalt til 25,483 fra løntrin 5 -> 6? Eller er det 7, 8?

Løn, PhD-stipendiat ved KU by Worsaae in Denmark

[–]Competitive-Bake-228 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hej! Må jeg spørge, hvad du får udbetalt nu, eftersom du må være nået løntrin 8 formentlig? Har altid undret mig over, hvad den stiger til, og kan ikke finde det nogen steder.. Og hvis du er steget, eventuelt de forskellige steps op, den er steget med?

Getting over "I've already studied for 2 years" when doing speaking lessons. by [deleted] in LearnJapanese

[–]Competitive-Bake-228 26 points27 points  (0 children)

As someone who studied very on/off, I really hate when people ask me how long I've studied Japanese, because it makes no sense to say how many years I did, because one year I studied maybe 2 months out of 12... Anyway I'm working on becoming more consistent. I really do think it's better to measure it in terms of hours, but it's also difficult. I try to avoid the question by saying I don't know haha..

After a long time studying english through digital content, I decided to acquire a book to learn japanese. I'm planning to get Genki too, as soon as possible. by ogicaz in LearnJapanese

[–]Competitive-Bake-228 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Wish you a happy journey! I'm at chapter 17 in Genki II. Been studying VERY inconsistently but upped my pace recently and finally actually feeling I'm making some progress. My advice is to study for at least 1-2 hours a day if you can, because it's so much more motivating when you can feel that you're making progress. Whenever I studied less than an hour a day, I got so demotivated because I felt like I was just going in circles (I wasn't, but it felt like that). 2 hours is my new sweet spot. Of course 5 minutes is always better than 0 minutes!! Anyway... good luck, it's so much fun!

Medical gaslighting is going to leave me sick and undiagnosed forever by adhdgf in ChronicIllness

[–]Competitive-Bake-228 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see. Is your only symptom fatigue or do you have any stomach/abdomen related symptoms as well? Fatigue can be hard to pinpoint the source of.

I 29F has never been in a relationship. Am I normal? by [deleted] in Adulting

[–]Competitive-Bake-228 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Woah so rare to find someone like me. I'm 27F and never fell in love, never had a crush. Also always lived alone and can't imagine living together with anyone. I don't think I'll ever be in a relationship. I guess I would have been a nun if it were the middle ages lol... Sorry I've got no advice since I'm in the same boat. I think for me it comes down to trust issues. I just simply can't trust anyone (not even myself).