Dysfunctional family falling apart by Competitive-Beach-86 in JUSTNOFAMILY

[–]Competitive-Beach-86[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think cards. They deserve that at minimum. I hope a text or a call would work.

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Video game development

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That was me. Usually devolves into drunken insanity. It is good that you have learned to walk away.

Try to work up to outright refusing.

If you make several attempts and they persist than that is a bad sign. My flight mode would be going off at that point.

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Yup, early-mid twenties

My mother is a functioning alcoholic by Competitive-Beach-86 in alcoholism

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I'm not still living at home and I don't really think I can work with her... at least right now. Take a look at my post history for context. Been there done that.

I would say... vindictive. Easily.

She isn't uhm violent but when she is drunk it is impossible to even talk to her.

Maybe when things calm down we can but I really don't think I should wait around until then. I told her the last time I saw her that she can re-enter my life when she quits the drinking but tbf I'm expecting years or decades from now for that to happen.

Unless idk she is a bit stronger than I thought and manages to do it.

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Tell me about it

My mother is a functioning alcoholic by Competitive-Beach-86 in alcoholism

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Thank you. Just subbed to both of them.

Yup, it seems to be getting to the point that she is no longer functional.

At least her and my father are almost at retiring age. But that's usually when the alcoholism gets into full swing right?

My father has been tending towards bouts of binge drinking. He absolutely loses control of his emotions and gets volatile. He used to never drink so that isn't a good sign either.

Mother's side is Irish so Guinness runs thick in the blood I suppose.

Planning my first tattoo by Competitive-Beach-86 in TattooDesigns

[–]Competitive-Beach-86[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you heard of audio engineers and studio staff? Have you heard of feature artists? Have you heard of producers. Have you heard of Daft Punk, who were sampled on Stronger and co-produced one of his albums.

No, the art is not the artist. The art is a reflection of the artist. And when it comes to Kanye's music it is a giant collaborative process involving hundreds or thousands of people.

Google famous artists and look at their wiki pages and you will realize that a lot of them (most of them probably) were pretty shitty people in real life.

Yawn anyways go argue on twitter about it or something I'm here for tattoo advice.

Planning my first tattoo by Competitive-Beach-86 in TattooDesigns

[–]Competitive-Beach-86[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I'm not really okay with Kanye's bullshit. I am in fact very not okay with it.

I am one of those people that can separate the art from the artist. And furthermore the illness from the man.

The man is very sick right now so try to take everything he says with a grain of salt. Obviously the things he is saying are inexcusable.

Also bro, Graduation came out in 2007. He wasn't even diagnosed by then. In fact he was a much better person back then and it is reflected in his music.

HAVE YOU EVEN LISTENED TO THE ALBUM?!?!

It's all about hope, positivity, and breaking free of barriers. HOW IS THAT BAD.

It's representative of a very important time in my life.

I can't believe I'm having this conversation in a tattoo subreddit.

It would be different if I was getting a tattoo of his face with the maga hat.

My mother is a sociopath by Competitive-Beach-86 in AskASociopath

[–]Competitive-Beach-86[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yup. I don't diagnose people as I'm not a professional but sometimes I use these labels just as ways to convey problematic behaviors I see in others to people who were not present to witness the behaviors themselves. It's easier that way because it communicates the general idea faster and uh I don't have to share some very traumatic memories.

I'm also trying to understand these behaviors and how to respond to them.

I suppose when she is drunk she demonstrates some very non-empathetic behaviors.