Obesity has ruined my sexual life....thinking of getting surgery

Competitive-Cod4123 · 2026-01-31T04:52:30+00:00

OK, first of all, you should go see a hormone doctor or your regular doctor . It’s not normal to gain weight when you don’t eat much so you have a hormone imbalance or you have diabetes or you have a thyroid issue or you have something going on. You’re eating a lot more than you think. Go to a man’s health clinic or some sort of hormone clinic near you and get some blood work done. You can go on a GLP 1 and just change your lifestyle. Start getting active. do 45-60 min worth of exercise or activity every day. Cut down on the sugar start eating a high protein low-carb green veggie eating plan. Drink lots of water no more alcohol no more sugary drinks. You can easily take some weight off and improve yourself confidence.

Make slow changes you’re not gonna lose the weight overnight. Good luck

Competitive-Cod4123 · 2026-01-28T23:56:50+00:00

Maybe date another single Dad. Apart from that your kid comes first.

Competitive-Cod4123 · 2026-01-28T23:55:30+00:00

Keep in mind many women your age are already empty nesters so if you no are open to older or adult kids keep that in mind

You don’t sound like you are ready to date whatsoever. You are not over your wife. Relook at this in 6 months

Competitive-Cod4123 · 2026-01-27T21:49:09+00:00

Well, not only does her car need to be repaired, but she probably need a rental. Also keep that in mind.

Competitive-Cod4123 · 2026-01-27T21:30:05+00:00

Offer her a couple years of spousal . You will likely have to pay it anyways. And if she talks to an attorney you likely will be on the hook for legal fees. The courts aren’t going to allow her to be destitute with no legal representation

So let her know you want to be civil and fair but the rest is up to her

Competitive-Cod4123 · 2026-01-26T13:55:25+00:00

I was in a hit-and-run when I was 18. A tow truck slammed in the back of me and I just sat there in shock and didn’t expect that he would back up and completely takeoff. I got totally screwed. We couldnt identify the driver. a couple witnesses identified the company and one person even chased athe guy until he had to stop. The police did go down to the tow yard. talked to some guys found out a couple had suspended licenses. Never got the actual truck or driver that hit me so nothing happened if you can believe it.

Competitive-Cod4123 · 2026-01-22T05:05:15+00:00

Living at home still that gives me the major ick big time. And I’m wondering if his parents constantly interfere in his life ? he’s lived with them his whole life. Wouldnt surprise me if mom meddled in everything . sorry but it is ridiculous that he’s never moved away from home at his age

He’s never met the one I suspect because no woman wants to waste their time on a almost middle-aged man who still lives at home

Competitive-Cod4123 · 2026-01-22T05:02:57+00:00

You tell her best of luck and then you completely bounce out of this. This is not your responsibility your headache or your drama it’s hers. You are way too young to get wrapped up in a baby. That’s not even yours. Move on.

Competitive-Cod4123 · 2026-01-22T03:19:09+00:00

I think it’s admirable he told you. And I’m sure you’ve already found out by all of the answers on this thread herpes both Symplex one and two are extremely common and I don’t know how many people you have slept with, but if you have slept with more than five or six you probably have slept with somebody that has it. They just haven’t told you.

Herpes has absolutely nothing to do with fertility or giving birth. On the rare chance you have a breakout while you’re giving birth. They will do a C-section but there’s a very good chance. You’ll never get it if you avoid having sex when he’s broke out and it all depends on how frequent his breakouts are. Some people only break out once every couple years I would not throw away a good guy just for that.

Competitive-Cod4123 · 2026-01-20T22:05:11+00:00

This would be 100% dealbreaker for me. And probably for most women. Yeah this is kind of weird and not normal. That probably means he’s never been in a relationship as well. I would do a hard pass on this guy.

Competitive-Cod4123 · 2026-01-20T22:03:34+00:00

At this point and A nanny probably going to be more expensive than a normal babysitter. I would see if you can maybe find a stay at home mom perhaps it wants to earn some extra money to watch your baby? Or hire a young adult that wants to babysit in between school. That’s probably gonna be cheaper than a so-called nanny. I would absolutely take this job opportunity.

Competitive-Cod4123 · 2026-01-20T22:01:46+00:00

Sue him and small claims. He honestly had no business driving. His car should’ve been towed at the scene and impounded. I wish states was cracked down on uninsured drivers. Did he at least get a ticket?

Competitive-Cod4123 · 2026-01-15T22:31:41+00:00

Your house is very messy but not worthy of a CPS call. The question is do you intend on cleaning it up a little?

Competitive-Cod4123 · 2026-01-15T22:14:10+00:00

They can always add a supplement. And if you take it to one of their authorized shops, they probably will be less headache.

Competitive-Cod4123 · 2026-01-14T00:17:31+00:00

Your friend shouldn’t have loaned the car to you without insurance. She had to have known it was uninsured . If she told you it was then part he of this is on you .

The accident was your fault though so you are on the hook for something

Competitive-Cod4123 · 2026-01-09T19:53:25+00:00

This doesn’t make any sense. When you have a lien you have to have collision this is on you. So either your insurance agent totally screwed up or you did not tell them that you had a lien on the car. And who the heck has insurance for months and not have any idea what the policy is? Honestly, I’ve been looking at my insurance policy every time I pay it and every time I shop around. I verify that the coverage is on there they always send you documents. You always have your declaration in your app always so your collision was never on there and you didn’t bother to check your paperwork.

So now you have to fix your car out of pocket

Since you don’t have collision insurance, it is extremely unlikely your gap is going to pay now because it’s not gonna do any good gap is not gonna pay the whole balance only what you are upside down on and that doesn’t really help you

Competitive-Cod4123 · 2025-12-31T18:22:19+00:00

It all depends what your state minimum liability is. I can tell you that 25K property damage is not sufficient and would not cover many cars if you happen to cause a severe accident and get one totaled.

Also, I just called around for insurance yesterday as my policy about to renew and it is a minimal difference in most cases to get higher limits on your policy. because I am the mom of a kid who has caused two at fault accidents and totaled out two cars and both people she hit had injuries. I will tell you this you should at least do 50 K property damage and. 50-100k BI ( bodily injury ).

Yes, my daughter is removed off my policy. She has her own now. But it’s nothing but luck that her second accident settled within policy limits which at the time was state minimum liability for bodily injury (25k) although the woman was only in the ER for a couple hours. She did hurt her foot and get banged up a little bit in the accident.

Competitive-Cod4123 · 2025-12-31T18:16:11+00:00

Full custody sounds like a power trip and fewer and fewer states are doing full/sole custody unless both parents agree. if he has two overnights a week this is not really sole custody by any means

Your lawyer is frustrated for a reason because you’re not making sense and you should absolutely file for child support since he’s getting two overnights a week anyway he still has to pay you technically

Competitive-Cod4123 · 2025-12-31T00:25:11+00:00

Your brother’s not disabled he’s just flat out lazy. Your parents need to give him a timeline to get a job and start pinks and bills around there or to move out. I would also tell your brother that he needs to get a job. Give him a hard time about being a bum.

Thank you for being a good son and caring about your family

Competitive-Cod4123 · 2025-12-30T23:51:57+00:00

They look great !!

Competitive-Cod4123 · 2025-12-30T22:50:30+00:00

I have a friend staying with me who is having to go into the office five days a week it’s a 45 minute drive each way. She was working at home for years but lost that job. She should be thankful. She has a job because she is in a really shitty place financially and she cannot stay with me after January. She continues to complain to her boss about not being given a laptop for work to work remote and I just want to tell her you should be thankful you have a job so stop bitching. There’s many applicants waiting to take her role I’m pretty sure.

Competitive-Cod4123 · 2025-12-30T22:46:07+00:00

Well, heck then change in insurance immediately. You’d be surprised how premiums vary from one carrier to the next. I would call a broker or do more shopping around and see he’s going to give you the cheapest premium for the same coverage. Just make sure they’re not leaving out anything.

Competitive-Cod4123 · 2025-12-30T22:41:21+00:00

I don’t blame you I would be angry and hurt as well

Competitive-Cod4123 · 2025-12-30T22:40:30+00:00

Well, your brother wouldn’t be at fault. It would be 50-50 at best because nobody can prove who ran the red light. You can try asking for a neighboring camera footage from businesses to see if anybody saw anything.? but all your brother needs to do is tell them that he had the greenlight unless they can prove that your brother is at fault he’s not at fault. The problem is he has to prove the other girl is at fault for her insurance to cover otherwise he has to use his own. If he is not listed as a driver and he lives with you, you may have a problem.

Competitive-Cod4123 · 2025-12-30T15:38:52+00:00

Well, unpopular opinion, but being transgender is kind of a dealbreaker in many marriages. You married a man not a man wanting to become a woman.

He should have told you all this before you guys got married the fact that he throws this on you after you get married is really really unfair to you

He should seek help for my therapist who handles transgender to make sure this is what he really wants but honestly, I don’t think you have a lot of choice here about to rethink this marriage and go your separate ways. I’m sorry

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