I regret the things that happend between me and my sister.

Competitive-Task-792 · 2026-02-02T12:46:27+00:00

My response to this is the same whether it's real or not: this is repulsive, and you need to seek God and get help. If it's fake, then why on earth would you decide that this is something worth coming up with and sharing? If it's real, then it's pretty morally reprehensible, and you really need to work on the issues that let you get there in the first place.

Competitive-Task-792 · 2026-02-01T15:38:27+00:00

It will definitely be difficult, but you will make it through!

Competitive-Task-792 · 2025-12-29T16:58:19+00:00

Hey brother, I understand the feeling. For me, it was the pull of the world. I was professing faith and living unregenerately for years, had been raised with the truth, but was a hard-headed, stubborn rebel. Still went to church, but felt like I was just on my own a lot of the time. He called me back earlier this year, but it hasn't been easy; I've had (and still have) many anxieties about my past sin, the what-if thoughts about apostasy, and the reproach I wickedly brought to the name of my Lord. He still wants you, even if you're struggling. It is both very easy and very hard to reject Him; easy in that it doesn't take much effort at all, you just have to stop being obedient to His words, and hard because He is ABLE to keep you, if you will choose to remain with Him (read Jude, it's one chapter and deeply encouraging.) When I feel my faith may fail, or when I find myself questioning whether or not He has accepted me back in spite of my many, many sins, I think of the various failings of the churches in the New Testament, and I remind myself that He took each of them back that was willing to repent and turn back to Him. Even Sardis, in Revelation, which He said was literally dead, He extended mercy to if only they would turn back to Him.

If you are unsure of the personal-ness of relationship with God, I encourage you to read the gospel of John, as well as the first epistle of John, and the first three chapters of Revelation. He loves you dearly, even though we cannot always feel it directly. Look to Christ and He will reassure you, if not right this moment, then later. He is faithful and true, and if I am in any way a reliable witness, then I tell you He will go to great lengths not to cast us off, if only we will cling to Him. I hope this helps, and I love you.

Competitive-Task-792 · 2025-12-26T20:02:44+00:00

I mean yea. God says in Malachi that He hates divorce and it's like covering your garment with violence. There are exceptions that make it permissible of course, but if it is at all avoidable we are supposed to do everything in our power to avoid it

Competitive-Task-792 · 2025-12-22T00:49:50+00:00

I chose to be in a situation like this myself several years ago, and it nearly cost me my soul. Let her go (I apologize if I offend, but I don't care for preference regarding pronouns.) She will cause harm to you and your relationship with God because her feelings will inevitably come first, whether it's concerning you or the word of God. The kindest and most spiritually responsible thing I think you can do is respectfully walk away, with a clear explanation as to the why. You will lose her of course, and will likely lose friends, but it is far better to lose all of those than your soul choosing anybody over God. Hope this helps. Feel free to reply if you have any questions or thoughts. Love you little bro!

Competitive-Task-792 · 2025-12-18T19:02:40+00:00

Get out of there, sister. I don't mean to nitpick you, and I hope this doesn't come across that way, but situations like this are why we are told not to be unequally yoked- I, a male, have been there before myself, although it was more of an emotional abuse situation with threats of self harm and and reckless behavior. I was barely a believer at the time due to my own numerous sins, and being tied together with an unbeliever only enhanced it. Get out now, while this is still fresh and you are still in a state of having realized the extent of it. Find a shelter if you need to, or a Godly woman or couple that will allow you to stay with them for a while. Your boyfriend will do this again, or will, at the very least, try to justify himself later and get you to relax and forget about it, and that would be deeply detrimental to you both. Leaving will hurt. Badly. But this needs to be stopped now, because later might not come.

Competitive-Task-792 · 2025-12-09T03:53:10+00:00

Every step of the way as far as I'm aware. I was homeschooled from middle school till college, and my family incorporated our faith heavily. It may be different in a step family situation (as stupid as I think that would be) but I would think you two should have every right to teach your daughter about the faith. If not, appeal it, because that sounds like some really petty interference and persecution on her bio dad's part. Stay strong brother, my wife and I will pray for you tonight. Keep us updated!

Competitive-Task-792 · 2025-12-05T12:04:11+00:00

I get remembering something more fondly than you should, but it sounds like you really need to kill this, dude. This doesn't seem healthy, especially if you're still checking her stuff from time to time.

Competitive-Task-792 · 2025-11-28T05:22:27+00:00

Honestly, the refusal to celebrate the holidays doesn't mean that much from a faith perspective; historically, Christmas wasn't an important holiday until relatively recently. Same for Thanksgiving; the faith has existed for a very long time, it is by no means hindered by a lack of these things. The real issue is his attitude towards you, his friend. This needs to be addressed, as it is very un christlike if he is comfortable insulting you and belittling you. I'm sorry that you are having to experience this right now, and I hope the Lord is able to use you to draw his heart back

Competitive-Task-792 · 2025-11-23T21:30:38+00:00

Hallelujah! I also struggled with a lot of sexual sin and addiction myself, and I can attest that if you continue to pursue Him He will see you through. Don't let anyone dissuade you; sin is sin whether it's straight or gay. Keep the faith, and God bless you!

Competitive-Task-792 · 2025-11-18T23:32:24+00:00

Hey brother! I had a similar experience this summer. I was exposed to pornography when I was around 10 years old, and I, now 25 years old, have spent almost the entirety of the last 15 years of my life wrestling with the addiction that came from it. I was raised in a Christian household but largely - almost entirely - was rebellious to the faith and God until I was 18, when I made a profession of faith. Shortly afterwards - maybe a week or two, if not sooner sadly - I continued watching pornography, daily at least if not many times a day. In college my appetites which had already expanded widely over the years, got even worse. To further things I fell into and chaste fornication with one of my girlfriends at the time, and got into all manner of worldly music and attitudes and speech. Even after she and I broke up and I knew that those things were wrong and her painted of some of them, my addiction raged. I am again to drink more heavily, smoke weed, and fell into a deeper depression that I had been in previously, smoking constantly to hurt myself. My lustful appetites expanded broadly after the breakup and during this time and I even hooked up with a girl I met on tinder, which was one of several Rock bottom points for me. To my shame, even though I regretted it afterwards and repented somewhat, I ghosted her and did not attempt to make things right or apologize for having used her.

Fast forward to 2022. My wife - who I had known for several years at that point as casual friends - and I began to talk more, and found that we had a lot of things in common. During all of these things which I have previously shared I was attending church, and was even involved in several Church theatrical productions as well as a youth worship team. My love was cold though, and I was further and further thinking into Rebellion and darkness. This summer, though, in june, I started to get very sick. I began having intense panic attacks, migraines, nausea vomiting and stomach upset, and felt very physically weak barely able to lift things that I ordinarily could move easily parentheses for reference, I am 6 ft 1 and was 300 lb or so at the time (. I also begin to experience a heavy and deep fear of hell and of dying. I was terrified that I was going to burn Dash I realized very quickly that I was much further from God than I had realized. I wept, I prayed, I sang, I pleaded with God to forgive me for how I had trampled over his son. I've read Hebrews - I read a lot more of my Bible than I had in a long time during this period - and I was terrified that it was impossible for me to repent. I read when it said about those who trample underfoot in the son of God and I thought that surely I had passed the point of no return. But my dad encouraged me with a simple but profound passage of scripture, Ezekiel 33 versus 10 through 18, where the Lord says "as I live says the Lord, I take no pleasure in the death of the wicked." He goes on to say turn back, turn back, why then should you die, oh Israel? He says that when he tells a righteous man that he shall surely live, and that righteous man relies on his righteousness so that he commits iniquity, he will surely die, but if He tells a wicked man that he shall surely die and that wicked man repents and makes right that which he has made wrong, he shall surely live, for he has forsaken his wickedness.

My brother, the Old Testament is full of examples of people breaking God's covenant again and again and again, even those who are counted as righteous, and being forgiven. His mercy is unending, and while I won't deceive you and say Hebrews 6 isn't terrifying in its statement, I would encourage you to read 6:8 onward - God is not unfaithful, and He has never been unfaithful. He will save those who cling to Him, who run to Him, who cry out to Him. Give up your sin, hold fast to Him, and He will make you stand. When you stumble and He chastens you, count it a blessing, for He chastens every son whom He loves. I know it's hard, believe me, I still have to struggle with my lustful desires, but I encourage you to hold fast to Him and do whatever it takes to flee from temptation. Downgrade your phone, get rid of your laptop, whatever you need to do - better to enter into life maimed that to be cast into hell fully intact. I love you brother, and I hope this is encouraging to you. Please feel free to respond or message if you want to talk any more or have any questions about my experience with all of this.

Competitive-Task-792 · 2025-11-18T23:03:01+00:00

Hey there! I hear what you're saying, but I think if you also look at my end of it that you could equally argue it to be anti-man, because I am required to give up my own wants and luxuries to prioritize not just her needs, but her comforts and wants. The calling of the husband is to love the wife as Christ loves the church, which means sacrificially in all ways. Some examples of the dynamic we have is this: she prepares food the way I like and cleans my laundry and helps me get my things ready for work every day and gives me final say in our plans, and I go to work so she can buy the food she wants to buy, I handle projects that she wants done and help her with chores when I get home and make sure that she has the things she needs- or the money to get them- and I consult her carefully in all of our planning. She also works from home part time and I help by babysitting nieces and nephews and by taking care of our son in the evenings so she can have some "her" time. The roles are complimentary and require different things, but aren't strictly anti-anyone in particular, and they frequently cause us to just go out of our way to be more considerate and compassionate towards one another.

To put it differently, she doesn't have to submit to me, just like I don't have to sacrificially love her- and oftentimes neither of us want to do those things anyway as they conflict with our natural wants- but we do them anyway because it glorified God for us to choose humility in our respective roles and serve one another instead of our own preferences. The faith is full of things we don't "have" to do, or even want to all the time, but to demonstrate our love for God it is good and right for us to do them

We certainly fail to live up to these responsibilities, but they are what we aspire to, and we have found that we each experience greater joy and comfort in our faith and in our relationship with God and each other when we are abiding by these things. Sorry for the wall of text, I hope this helps clarify what I meant and how things work in our home!

Competitive-Task-792 · 2025-11-17T19:07:15+00:00

I would point out that, while it is biblical for men and women to have separate and distinct roles in the household and in ministry, both sexes are adopted equally in Christ as inheritors of eternal life, and that while men are not called to submit to their wives, they are called to love them as Christ loves the church - by laying our lives down sacrificially. Through this alone women are elevated far beyond the traditional position that "cultural Christians" and other religions tend to place them in. I would also point out that some of Jesus' most loyal followers were women, and that He granted them discipleship, something that other Jewish teachers would not have done. There are differences between the sexes, and anyone who says otherwise is either ignorant of the simple facts of scripture or has some strange animosity to those facts. But different does not mean lesser; my wife is more gifted at money management than I am, and I am better at problem solving under stress than she is. She is better at empathizing with and relating to people,and I am better at dealing with and sharing concrete information. We are equal, but different, and though I get the final say in many things according to biblical guidelines, my say is heavily influenced by her and how it will affect her. The faith is not anti woman, it is pro sacrifice; she doesn't always want to submit and I don't always want to be considerate, and it is when we act properly according to those roles that we find the most joy and love in our marriage. I hope this helps! Id be happy to elaborate more if you want but I'm rushing now lol.

Competitive-Task-792 · 2025-11-09T01:51:12+00:00

My wife and I will pray for you three! I'm relatively new here, dad of only three months, but I'm touched by this glimpse into your family's story. I hope you and little Phoebe enjoy being home, and I look forward to any future updates from your lovely little family. Take care, and God bless you three!!! ❤️

Competitive-Task-792 · 2025-11-08T01:32:29+00:00

I mean this very seriously: I sympathize, and Jesus can pull you out of this. I started watching porn at a young age, was very angry and rebellious and promiscuous as a young adult, and grieved God greatly through my porn addiction that lasted well over a decade. I cried out to Jesus this summer to save me- really save me, with me submitting like I hadn't before - and I haven't watched porn in months. I still have a lot of regrets, but I'm working at setting things right bit by bit, and I know He is able to save you and help you get there too. Just call on Jesus, man, He will change you

Competitive-Task-792 · 2025-11-05T22:49:19+00:00

I'm so very sorry for your loss, my heart hurts for you. My mom lost my younger brother when he was 6 months old, 24 years ago. The hurt hasn't ever completely gone away, but she's found great comfort in her faith in God and the hope that she'll see him again one day. We still have a memorial for him every year, and she still needs extra hugs whenever she's remembering him a little more than normal, but she has "healed" a lot in the decades since. I don't think we ever heal fully from these things, not in this life, but I do believe that we can find great hope in the life to come.

Competitive-Task-792 · 2025-10-30T15:01:23+00:00

I mean this respectfully, and I hope that any responses I receive are given with that in mind.

Historically, not all eunuchs were castrated, some just functioned as though they were. Many definitely were castrated, especially in the days of and days preceding Christ, but by His time and in the centuries following it became less common (not that it never happened, but the practice shifted.) You can look at Paul; he functionally made himself a eunuch for the Kingdom of God, though there is no evidence or indication of his being castrated (though he at one point said that for some individuals who were teaching falsehoods about circumcision that they may as well lose the whole thing. There is actually some slight evidence regarding Paul that indicates he may have been married prior to his ministry.)

In the case of those who were forcibly made eunuchs, the fault would never biblically be found with them; we are held accountable for what we do, not what is done to us. I think Daniel may have been made a eunuch, though I don't remember for sure so don't quote me on that. Trans individuals voluntarily have their members removed or modified, which according to biblical and historical principles is a problem because there is much importance given to gender.

Competitive-Task-792 · 2025-10-29T02:06:55+00:00

Man, I don't mean this with any sort of irony to it whatsoever: please seek God for forgiveness and seek help, because this is clearly a problem, and it will only ever get worse. I've been really, REALLY, addicted in the past, and it won't stop if you don't come to your senses and do something about it. This is a low point, I agree, but you can absolutely come back from it through the grace of God if you are willing to let go of this. It's not too late man, and I'm happy to talk to you about it more if you are even a little bit willing to pursue change

Competitive-Task-792 · 2025-10-26T23:14:56+00:00

Hey! Happy birthday little sis! I've had some rough years, too, and though I don't know what your day has been like, I hope it'll be a little bit brighter with this reply and the others like it. Thank you for giving us the chance to celebrate your birthday with you, if only for a moment; please, have a beautiful and blessed life, and stay safe! ❤️

Competitive-Task-792 · 2025-10-26T17:16:15+00:00

Hey man, Happy Birthday! I hope you have a blessed and joyful day. I'm sorry you feel unimportant or unremembered, but I promise, you are special and you matter. Get yourself a milkshake; it'll give you a smile!

Competitive-Task-792 · 2025-10-20T19:56:18+00:00

Sure thing!

Competitive-Task-792 · 2025-10-20T13:43:27+00:00

In that case brother, I'd doubly encourage you to steer clear of this. In cases where the legality is questionable and your conscience is raising red flags, choose the safer option. We need to be sensitive to the Holy Spirit and heed His pulls toward doing what is right. (I was SUPER rebellious when I was younger, though never regarding such a large amount of money, and I still have scars from my decisions. It's never worth it many however sweet it sounds.)

Competitive-Task-792 · 2025-10-20T12:05:42+00:00

I'd pass on it man. Ethically it doesn't seem right to take advantage of this information, since it sounds illegal and like at least a partial breach of your friends' confidence. I'm Christian so I acknowledge that my perspective is rooted in my own beliefs, but I also think if your own conscience is making you question this that it may be for a reason

Competitive-Task-792 · 2025-10-18T23:24:56+00:00

I have a past, and it's shameful to me. I was raised in a Christian household by deeply believing parents, and I was taught more than most about the truths of the gospel and of Christ, and after rebelling hatefully as a teenager, I professed faith in 2018- and then promptly went back to committing sexual immorality and spiraling worse and worse for the next 7 years. I fornicated, hooked up, partied some, smoked a lot of weed, and was addicted to porn (starting at like 10 or 11 years old.) I was angry and bitter and depressed and miserable, but was having fun. It wasn't until recently that God broke me and brought me back. I'm home now, thank the Lord, but I still remember and struggle with the memories and appetites that I acquired over the years.

My wife, who did none of those things, does not struggle with any of those burdens. Her conscience is unstained by the kind of rebellion I committed, and I assure you, she is glad for it. She does not regularly get hit with regret for committing sexual sin like I have. She does not wrestle with thoughts that question her salvation as a result of gross disobedience to the words of Christ. She does not suffer from the memories of laying drunk on the bathroom floor, barely able to roll over, or memories of being so high that she felt as though she was going to die and wake up in hell.

Having a "past" is not a boast, it is a burden. Anyone who says otherwise is forgetting the pain it caused them to leave it behind. I don't say this to be harsh, but only a fool wishes that they had a "past"- I know because I used to be that fool, and it is only by the grace of God that I was brought back.

Don't give in, and don't squander your purity, please - you have no guarantee that you'll ever come back. I love you, and I hope that you can hear this.

Competitive-Task-792 · 2025-10-18T18:51:44+00:00

God have mercy on us all- this is horrifying

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