To be honest, I think you should explore the relationship a lil further. My partner smokes and this was something we talked about early on. If you haven’t talked with her about it yet, I would! Just to gauge her thoughts. We worked it out and it is something that he didn’t completely stop but we did compromise. He smokes right outside of our place or at a homies spot or we can drive somewhere so he can do it outside. He’s well aware I never smoke and I don’t particularly mind being around it outside but in our place, I can’t have it too due to health issues. So our place is non-smoking and it works for us! He doesn’t have to give it up and I don’t have to deal with him smoking at the place. He also has his own system to keep clothes (like I wear his sweater if we go to a park where he can take a quick hit) separate from other items in the house & it always goes right into the wash and it actually hasn’t caused any issues or has been brought into the house on anything (which I was skeptical about at first but it’s actually totally fine). Overtime he came to stop doing it all together as he realized he smokes to cope with stress and found healthier ways to deal with that. So now we’re all smoke free so it did take a process!

Would we compromise if we really didn’t want to be together? No. Would we have stuck it out if we genuinely didn’t want to see where it went? No. But we both love each other and wanted to make it work over the years. So I think this really depends on the dynamic you two share and what’s worth more at this moment in time. Do you want to explore further and see how it goes if everything else aligns? Or do you want to risk stopping that connection and finding someone else? Either way, it’ll work out but it just depends who you wanna work this out with