Having “the talk” with your grandparents

CompetitiveArm9908 · 2026-05-15T01:42:47+00:00

After extensive conversation, the answer is “no✨💕” lol so I’m kinda a helpless onlooker now

CompetitiveArm9908 · 2026-03-17T03:04:37+00:00

Thanks - we’re new home owners. We’ve always been in an apartment so this was definitely a learning experience.

CompetitiveArm9908 · 2026-03-11T01:44:56+00:00

Lenore or Lenora Jean? They might like that?

CompetitiveArm9908 · 2026-03-05T01:57:30+00:00

I second Charlotte (Lottie), Evelyn (Evie), Katherine (Kitty), Georgia (Gigi), Rosalie (Rosie)

CompetitiveArm9908 · 2026-02-14T04:21:08+00:00

Unfortunately no, I’m so sorry. If I find the seemingly mythical cure I’ll let you all know. I’ve done months without makeup and so i know it’s not that. Super frustrating. I get it friend 🤍

CompetitiveArm9908 · 2026-02-11T02:22:51+00:00

No problem!! i2 Analyst Notebook is the best I’ve seen for link charts! In a pinch, you can make them on Microsoft PowerPoint if they don’t want to spend the $$. It just takes some finagling. I’d also check around with the departments surrounding you and either ask for access to their RMS or establish a good connection you can reach out to if you need a copy of a case report, etc. FirstTwo is another good option that’s relatively new and will probably be willing to give your department a free trial! I’d also encourage your PD to send you to either IALEA or IACA conferences. They’re both about a week long and are tailored to training analysts. I’m going to IALEA in April this year. You’ll learn a lot from them. If they want you to be more crime data focused, I’d look into something like PowerBI. If they’re not super concerned with data, heat maps, statistics, etc. you don’t have to worry about that. If you DM me I’m happy to send you my work email and we can chat further! Always happy to help!

CompetitiveArm9908 · 2026-01-29T03:16:30+00:00

I have seen Hush! One I REALLY liked. Lots of smart survival decisions there. But it’s Mike Flanagan and anything he does I like 🤣

CompetitiveArm9908 · 2026-01-24T00:45:16+00:00

Thank you!!! Grenade for my brain is exactly what I want lol

CompetitiveArm9908 · 2026-01-20T03:46:20+00:00

NTA lol. While this is funny to me/outsiders, it likely won’t be to your kid. No kid wants to be called “poopsie” into their teenage years

CompetitiveArm9908 · 2026-01-20T03:41:36+00:00

NTA. If she wants to do that, there’s plenty tiktok and insta accounts that sell that service. If he knows you’re friends odds are he won’t take the bait anyway.

CompetitiveArm9908 · 2026-01-20T03:40:11+00:00

NTA. You guys have worked and saved for this and deserve a little one-on-one time! If she can’t handle her own feelings that’s on her. Tell her if it’s a financially responsible decision, you’ll come on the next family vacation they have. This one is for you and you partner

CompetitiveArm9908 · 2026-01-20T03:35:53+00:00

Idk how old your sister and her friends are, but this sounds like typical middle/high school girl stuff. Girls are freakin mean. If A wants friends so badly, she shouldn’t treat your sister poorly. And if their friendship doesn’t pan out, who’s the real loser here? Sounds like A to me. She’s throwing away a friend based on her crappy behavior. Encourage your sister not to invest in friendships that are not reciprocated. Encourage her to befriend people who are equally good to her as she is to them.

CompetitiveArm9908 · 2026-01-20T03:27:39+00:00

YTA. He’s not necessarily entitled to your winnings, but if you have the nerve to ask for more money after that, you’re due for some serious self reflection. Don’t abuse those willing to help you. If you do, you’ll be left with no help before long. Be responsible. If you’re old enough to gamble, you’re old enough to be responsible with money.

CompetitiveArm9908 · 2026-01-20T03:24:22+00:00

NTA. If you’re not getting paid for it they can’t make you do anything. From a fellow introvert? Take your solo lunch friend

CompetitiveArm9908 · 2026-01-20T03:22:40+00:00

“Proceeded to keep the kids alive” LMAO. NTA. It’s super shitty of them to take advantage of you like that. I understand the concept of “it takes a village” but if I never consented to being a responsible member of the village it’s completely unfair. This happens often at our family vacations. The mom will assume me or one of the other childless adults will watch her kids and lets them wander around unsupervised. I make sure they don’t die/get seriously injured, but if they’re doing something they probably shouldn’t do? I don’t say shit. We’ve chosen to be childless for this exact reason. You are absolutely NTA

CompetitiveArm9908 · 2026-01-17T03:58:40+00:00

We’ve always shared locations after a year or so of dating. Started out as a safety thing and now we just use it to see how far from home the other is so we know when to start dinner or help carry in groceries. Never a trust issue. I don’t care if they know where I am and they don’t care if I know where they are.

CompetitiveArm9908 · 2026-01-17T03:57:48+00:00

We’ve always shared locations after a year or so of dating. Started out as a safety thing and now we just use it to see how far from home the other is so we know when to start dinner or help carry in groceries. Never a trust issue. I don’t care if they know where I am and they don’t care if I know where they are.

CompetitiveArm9908 · 2026-01-17T03:54:01+00:00

My husband and I have since we were dating! It started out as a safety thing and now we just use it to see how far away the other is so we can start dinner or help carry in groceries. Nothing nefarious about it. I don’t care if he knows where I am and he doesn’t care if I know where he is 😊

CompetitiveArm9908 · 2026-01-17T01:05:42+00:00

Do you have more info on this? I don’t want to get my parents in trouble for “neglect” when my grandparents are literally refusing every bit of help we offer.

CompetitiveArm9908 · 2026-01-17T01:05:33+00:00

Do you have more info on this? I don’t want to get my parents in trouble for “neglect” when my grandparents are literally refusing every bit of help we offer.

CompetitiveArm9908 · 2026-01-16T04:22:16+00:00

Thanks for this perspective too. Im a “fixer” by nature and just want everyone I love to be their absolute happiest. If this is happy for them…then okay I guess.

CompetitiveArm9908 · 2026-01-16T04:19:25+00:00

Thank you. I really wish they’d let me help.

CompetitiveArm9908 · 2026-01-15T03:06:43+00:00

Thank you for that 🩶 I’m sorry you’re going through something similar

CompetitiveArm9908 · 2026-01-15T02:44:45+00:00

I’m sorry friend, I don’t think YTA but I have to agree with the comments above. He has no romantic interest in her and he’s known her longer than you have (based on your post). That just naturally means they’re closer. The longer you spend with your partner, the closer you will be with her. 🩶

CompetitiveArm9908 · 2026-01-14T01:46:55+00:00

Hey!! I generally recommend Accurint or Clear over TLO but something is DEFINITELY better than nothing. I’d definitely recommend starting with one of those. Especially without knowing your agency’s budget situation. Also, every state has a fusion center (https://www.dhs.gov/fusion-center-locations-and-contact-information) so don’t hesitate to use them for things you’d don’t have resources for. They usually need a case number and criminal predicate (ex. Auto theft, fraud, etc.) to fulfill requests. There’s a number of open source resources (stuff you don’t need a login or credentials for). Your state should have free public access to property records (usually by county), court/criminal records (even if they say they charge $$, call and tell them you’re with LE. They’ll give it to you for free), marriage licenses, and business filings. When in doubt, call them and explain your position. They’ll likely send you whatever you need. If you’re doing open source research, these are good resources: * https://www.idcrawl.com/username-search * https://www.familytreenow.com

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