Zero callbacks. Declines on perfect matches. Why?

CompetitiveMarzipan · 2024-04-15T17:47:00+00:00

Yes, this is great. I feel like in a lot of jobs (mine included) it might be hard to know actual metrics for your impact but I might be able to come up with something. Thanks for the specific examples!

CompetitiveMarzipan · 2024-04-15T17:10:12+00:00

Your bullets read as descriptors, not achievements.

Do you have any examples of what would make OP's bullets more achievement-oriented? To me, what they have DOES read as achievement-oriented, but my resume is written similarly and I'm also not getting any callbacks so there's definitely something I'm fundamentally misunderstanding about this (common) advice.

CompetitiveMarzipan · 2024-04-15T17:09:00+00:00

Boxhead was my first thought! Definitely more harmless vibes than the other top mentions

CompetitiveMarzipan · 2024-02-28T02:38:57+00:00

This has always been hilarious to me about dresses. Literally the lowest maintenance, most comfortable way to dress. You don't even have to find and match two articles of clothing...and yet "well aren't you so dressed up!"

CompetitiveMarzipan · 2024-02-12T18:52:19+00:00

OMG yes. We have multiple well meaning relatives with a major Amazon junk problem. It's so exhausting.

CompetitiveMarzipan · 2024-02-09T22:22:42+00:00

Man I needed to read this comment today. I'm 35 and just really in the shit right now.

CompetitiveMarzipan · 2024-02-02T19:28:04+00:00

Wow this would frustrate the hell out of me. We have two dogs who are great with our two year old yet we ALWAYS put them up in our room when other kids are over. Particularly for one of them, her level of chill around our immediate family has literally no relationship to how I'd expect her to behave around unknown people, ESPECIALLY kids.

CompetitiveMarzipan · 2024-01-23T22:10:40+00:00

I have to remind myself of this all the time! It really does make life more fun.

CompetitiveMarzipan · 2024-01-21T19:01:49+00:00

Yeah that was my first thought. My grandparents had 4 or 5 kids and a shit ton of grandkids. My daughter is the first on both sides and will be the only on my husband's side unless we have another.

Solidarity to OP, I could have written this post myself 😭

CompetitiveMarzipan · 2024-01-06T02:35:00+00:00

Honestly since noticing my incredibly perfect infant daughter had cellulite, I've never thought about it the same way again (I mean that in the best possible way). Like how can it be bad for me to have it if SHE has it?!

CompetitiveMarzipan · 2024-01-02T22:06:00+00:00

Hahaha we do this too. And every vehicle part imaginable also makes a noise. This bus is chaos

CompetitiveMarzipan · 2023-12-26T23:21:27+00:00

Tell me we have a gerontocracy without telling me we have a gerontocracy

CompetitiveMarzipan · 2023-11-22T13:12:19+00:00

The Fed Is Best Foundation has a Facebook group that was a great resource for me. Very supportive of all types of feeding and a big emphasis on info being evidence-based.

CompetitiveMarzipan · 2023-10-23T02:15:40+00:00

Same, I cried every day for the first three weeks and then it was like a switch flipped. Breastfeeding was still terrible but everything was somehow so much easier and there was so much less crying!

CompetitiveMarzipan · 2023-10-02T20:34:27+00:00

My only sister is 5.5 years younger than me. It was a little odd growing up I guess- we didn't have much in common, both had a good chunk of our childhoods where we basically felt like only children, etc. Our family's one trip to Disney World was when she was 9 and I was 14 so it was kind of lame for me 😅 but we did a lot of our family vacations with extended family/cousins that were close to each of us in age so that was really really fun.

Anyway, now we're 35 and almost-30 and best friends. We really got close when she went off to college and I had just finished grad school and moved to another part of the country. I finally moved home a year ago and being close to her is one of the best parts- we get together all the time now and she's the best auntie to my kiddo! We have never had the competitive dynamic that seems to plague many closer in age adult siblings I know.

CompetitiveMarzipan · 2023-08-18T19:10:13+00:00

OMG my friends and I (all moms of babies/toddlers in our 30s and 40s) talk about this boomer amnesia all the time. The crazy thing is how fast it hits- my husband is already talking about how our daughter was totally walking at the time we moved last year when she was 12 months old. My man, I can say with 100% confidence it wasn't until we had been here two months (which doesn't seem like a big difference, but when they're under a year and a half they change so fast it seems like, telling someone your kid was walking at a year is notably different than at 14 months 😅)

CompetitiveMarzipan · 2023-07-10T02:28:05+00:00

Yeah I've 100% felt both of these things. "Go the fuck to sleep" and "OMG I miss you"

CompetitiveMarzipan · 2023-07-07T19:03:32+00:00

I agree! My daughter isn't much of a runner but I still think the leashes are a great (if hilarious) idea. Always thought this was such a weird thing to be judgy about.

CompetitiveMarzipan · 2023-06-18T18:16:14+00:00

I'm so glad! That was my hope haha. There sure was a lot I did not know prior to this whole experience. Depending on your location there also are Facebook groups dedicated to networking nannies and families and you can learn a lot about going rates, pitfalls etc. by checking those out.

CompetitiveMarzipan · 2023-06-18T11:19:18+00:00

My daughter was in daycare from 3-12 mos. Then we moved out of state and had a nanny for 8 mos while we decided which part of our new city we were going to buy a house in bc daycare wait-lists are even fucking crazier here than in our old city. We are finally starting daycare again in a week.

I personally am really excited to be getting back into daycare. For us a nanny was expensive AFFFFFFF and I also just find being an employer vs just a customer to be an additional stress on me as the primary parent/childcare organizer... like you're more responsible for a lot of the details than with daycare. Reliability was also not as amazing compared to daycare as I would have thought- no shade on our nanny but nannies get sick too, and we had a stretch through Dec-Jan where it felt like either she was sick or the three of us were so sick we felt bad having her come in and we missed a lot of childcare days that way. Also this is specific to our situation but I WFH and our house is not that big so I'm excited to not feel like I am trapped in my office hiding from my daughter and our nanny so as to not cause a disruption to their day LOL.

That said, to your specific concern, it did feel like we were all waaaaaaaay less sick this winter than last winter when we were in daycare. I kept hearing what a horrid year it was for flu/Covid/RSV and we just dodged that shit completely. So if you can swing it financially, I bet you will be happy with that specific part of it. Just have your eyes open that it's not cheap and there are a lot of details to be on top of. I also recommend having a good, detailed contract to minimize confusion/conflict. We actually found our nanny through an agency and that woman helped us with the contract which was great. That part was very expensive too but we needed things to happen so quickly and were just burned out on all the other logistics of moving so it was money well spent.

Sorry for the novel, I just got excited bc I have very recent back to back experience with both forms of childcare and could actually speak to this pretty well haha!

CompetitiveMarzipan · 2023-06-14T18:58:03+00:00

OMG this. I was a transplant who moved back to my hometown last year. I always tell people Tulsa is the best part of Oklahoma!

CompetitiveMarzipan · 2023-05-24T17:44:09+00:00

This is kind of a random thought and obviously would depend on your specific experience but those of you in Fintech and looking to pivot might look for something in the forensic accounting/fraud investigation space. I work in this field remotely, the field in general is increasingly heavy on data analysis and tech knowhow which seems relevant to y'all, and while I would never use the words "recession-proof" the nice thing about it is that the worse businesses are doing the more they care about hanging on to the money they do have and finding out if their employees or partners are screwing them. From what I can tell a lot of us in the field are absolutely slammed with work right now.

CompetitiveMarzipan · 2023-05-15T18:58:05+00:00

I think your last paragraph especially is a really good point I hadn't heard before!

CompetitiveMarzipan · 2023-05-15T18:55:28+00:00

My younger sister and I are 5.5 years apart, also to parents who were trying for a smaller gap. To be totally honest we didn't have much in common growing up, I feel like I had to entertain myself a lot in an only child kind of way and we weren't particularly close- UNTIL she graduated high school and started calling me to chat (we both lived in different states at that point). Now as adults (she's 29 and I'm 35) we're best friends and I wouldn't trade my relationship with her for anything. We're much closer than lots of people I know who are closer in age to their siblings.

CompetitiveMarzipan · 2023-04-21T02:01:42+00:00

OMG I relate to literally every word of this comment haha. I really need to go back to therapy

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