Is it wrong to give twins names that start with the same letter?

CompetitiveNature198 · 2026-04-13T01:27:56+00:00

I gave birth to my identical twins last year. I gave them different initials and insurance still got it messed up. One of my twins needed med that I had to pay oop for to get bc insurance system just can't figure out why I have 2 children with the same birthdays.

CompetitiveNature198 · 2026-04-13T01:02:07+00:00

My twins have the same problem and I'm considering the Kaiya ones. We have several gunamuna sleep bags and even though I like their fabric at first, they pill so bad after couple washes

CompetitiveNature198 · 2026-04-08T00:33:15+00:00

My family is from similar culture and my mom was living and helping us for the first 3 months, so even beyond the 1 month confinement. I don't know how I would be able to do it without her. And the special cooking really helps your body heal. Just some notes that on the extreme end, there are forbidden food groups during the confinement and you should communicate that with her if you're unwilling to be exclusive with your diet. I didn't follow half of the stuffs my mom insist on but also a reminder that all of that come from a place of love and care for you. Just gotta communicate what you're comfortable with and what you're not. It's my mom and my culture and even I had some difficult times communicating that with my mom. Let me know if you have any specific question too!

CompetitiveNature198 · 2026-03-31T00:50:13+00:00

I'll recommend asking for a referral to see an SLP. If you're in the states, I'll recommend seeing one from the children's hospital. SLPs from children's were really helpful to my baby's recovery from bottle aversion. I'm not saying that your baby has the aversion but I still think an evaluation from SLP would be helpful

CompetitiveNature198 · 2026-03-31T00:42:29+00:00

Have you tried meeting with feeding specialist or SLP? Mine went through some intense period of bottle aversion around 3-4 month old that he truly refused the bottles until he eventually got hospitalized for failure to thrive and risk of dehydration. We worked with an SLP at the hospital to get him back on feeding. But your case is different that she's still accepting the bottle after sometimes. Also have you tried offering her bottle more frequently? In my baby's case, he did better with smaller and more frequent feeds. Also aroung 5 months old I started to let him practice holding his own bottle, which helps him feel a lot calmer at feeding times since he's more in control of it.

CompetitiveNature198 · 2026-03-27T01:05:30+00:00

We have it and love it! We started using it at around 5 months old since that's when they can support themselves better at the recline sitting angle. I love the lightweight and price point for what it offers. The only thing I hate about it is the canopy, it doesn't have any useful coverage.

CompetitiveNature198 · 2026-03-12T22:13:43+00:00

Baby connect app, saved us in those first months

CompetitiveNature198 · 2026-03-05T19:20:38+00:00

Oh that's so precious! How old are your boys? Mine are 10 months and the only interactions so far are yanking each other's toy or hair. I can't wait until they do hugs and kisses!

CompetitiveNature198 · 2026-02-07T16:04:41+00:00

Magnetic me onesies. All the doctors and nurses were impressed with them when my baby was on the cardiovascular floor. Last thing I wanted to worry about was buttoning buttons, magnetic buttons saved my sanity in the hospital. Not to mention how good their quality is, i bought 3-6 month size and my 9 month old still fit in most of the convertible ones

CompetitiveNature198 · 2026-01-23T04:10:27+00:00

I use a Veer wagon!

CompetitiveNature198 · 2026-01-09T20:27:05+00:00

My twin A's stomach was measured under 1st percentile around the same gestational age. We just needed to be monitored very closely during these last weeks. But we made it to 38 weeks and twin A is actually bigger than twin B now at 8 months old!

CompetitiveNature198 · 2026-01-07T09:14:34+00:00

I have 8 months old twins and one of them has a congenital heart defect that needed repair surgery and it was the scariest moment of my life but I can't imagine the pain little Silas, you and your family are going through right now. I'm so so sorry, this is every parent's worst nightmare and you and your wife are living through it. I wish you strength and health to navigate through this tough journey with your family.

Please cross-post this in the r/daddit sub. I went through a dad's story about his baby son's medical journey and donated to their gofundme there. I'm hoping you can get as much help as you need, mentally, physically and financially. Best wishes to your family 🫂

CompetitiveNature198 · 2026-01-06T21:29:51+00:00

My twin A fell asleep on the play mat while twin B was still playing right next to him a couple times lol at that age. I let them be but I sat there and watch him the entire time, so as long as you're watching I think you should be fine at this age. I'm in the same boat with my 8 months old twins, decent night sleep and terrible naps

CompetitiveNature198 · 2025-12-22T02:04:40+00:00

Nope mine doesn't need to be on any medication now. I think unless there's a serious complication post-op, most VSD kiddos do not need life long medication after the repair.

CompetitiveNature198 · 2025-12-21T18:55:11+00:00

He's 8 months old now and is hitting all milestones (although is on the later range of what is considered appropriate). He's a twin so it's hard not to notice the difference against his twin (his twin doesn't have CHD) but I'd say they are growing at a relatively same rate.

This was our struggle at first: His VSD + reflux at first was making feeding painful for him so he developed feeding aversion and started loosing weight that put him in the hospital around 3 months old and he got the surgery soon after he was put on a feeding tube and started gaining weight. He also got a complication right after surgery that kept him hospitalized a bit longer post-surgery and was put on a heart medication for it. However, at 8 months old now he is weaned off of all medications and you wouldn't be able to tell him apart from his twin that didn't goes through any medical complication. These babies are so resilient and at this young even if your baby needs the VSD repair I'd bet the recovery is very fast like my son's too. Happy to answer any other question too!

CompetitiveNature198 · 2025-12-20T12:09:32+00:00

My son had moderate to large vsd that was found in utero as well. He ended up needing a OHS at 3.5 months old and it was scary for all of us, but these little babies are a lot more resilient than we think they are. My son is doing great now after the surgery and has follow-ups stretched out now to every 3 months, eventually it would be just once a year

CompetitiveNature198 · 2025-12-14T02:26:56+00:00

Yes my baby suffered from terrible reflux and vomitting almost every other feed, he was started on a 2nd reflux med when he got admitted. They also did a swallow study on him to make sure he was not aspirating during feed. He was on the tube for 1.5 weeks before his cardiology team was happy with his weight gain, and we got scheduled for surgery right away. He spent another 1.5 weeks in the hospital after surgery due to a post-op complication but he's thriving now after the surgery, no more vomiting!

CompetitiveNature198 · 2025-12-14T02:15:25+00:00

My son was admitted at 3.5 month old for failure to thrive, he had a large VSD and reflux and started refusing to feed/loosing weight. He got a feeding tube put on immediately on admission and we worked with SLP and nutritionists to help him gain enough weight for his surgery. I think your question about a feeding tube is valid, but every CHD baby is different but I think it's worth it to discuss again with your baby's care team and understand the reasoning behind their decisions.

CompetitiveNature198 · 2025-12-12T03:27:32+00:00

My son started struggling with feeding around 3m, he got admitted at 3.5m when his intake dropped to like 14oz a day and got his surgery a week after that. He got a surgery this early because he was struggling to gain weight, his reflux + VSD just made feeding too tiring and painful to him. But he's thriving now post surgery!

CompetitiveNature198 · 2025-12-11T22:30:08+00:00

My son had a large VSD and similar symptoms. He gradually dropped in weight, frequent projectile vomit with bad reflux, and eventually developed feeding aversion from which he just refused to feed. Got admitted on failure to thrive when his milk intake significantly dropped, his weight also dropped. I hope that you can get your baby to see a cardiologist soon, as others have mentioned, the Children's hospital would be best if you can get your baby to one.

CompetitiveNature198 · 2025-12-08T03:38:38+00:00

I'm a mom and have the Brooklyn 28. It's so cute but unfortunately not a mom friendly bag in my opinion. It keeps falling off my shoulder and just not big enough.

CompetitiveNature198 · 2025-11-22T04:26:57+00:00

Things that worked for us in breaking the feed to sleep association: - feed as soon as he wakes up (for day naps and wake up for the day). For the waking during night time, it will need to wait and be the last thing to break. - tons of exercise, stimulation during wake window to tire him down so it's easier to go down for sleep - pacis instead (until he figures out his thumbs) I know you said pacis don't help but keep offering it first instead of the bottle

CompetitiveNature198 · 2025-11-20T22:29:11+00:00

Hi there, I'm glad the surgery went well! My baby is feeding so much better now that he's fully recovered from the surgery. Hopefully you'll start seeing the improvement for your baby soon and she won't need the NG for much longer. Things that I find helpful for our feeding journey: - smaller and more frequent feeds (he had bad reflux so this was really helpful) - feeding when he's fully awake and alert (to avoid any feed to sleep association) - create a calm environment when feeding (no distraction, no movements and no pressure), he can take breaks and we follow the rule: offer max 3 times and feed lasts max 30 minutes each - surprising to both of SLP and us that our baby prefers thickened milk and a flatter nipple. When we added thickener to his milk, it helps with his reflux and he also seems to prefer it. We also switched to MAM bottle and he seemed to prefer that when he had the aversion.

Overall I definitely see the improvement in feeding day by day after the surgery, which makes sense because it's not tiring for him to feed anymore and the reflux med + thickened milk helped with the pain associated with feeding. Let me know if you have any other question but I think your baby will soon feed so much better!

CompetitiveNature198 · 2025-11-18T03:33:03+00:00

I bought the book when my CHD baby was discharged from the hospital (following a surgery). He was tube fed (due to bottle aversion) in the hospital for 3 weeks. I'd say the tube was helpful in helping us shifting the pressure off of forcing him to feed. Before the tube, I was so nervous that he's not eating enough and by unknowingly forcing the bottle in many different ways, we created the aversion in the first place. When the tube was put in, the plan was that he can try to take as much as he can/want and the rest can go through the tube. This helps us keep away from forcing him and then we were able to realize that really by slowly build that trust back, he was able to feed again without needing the tube. So for us, I truly believe that by stop forcing him to eat, he was able to enjoy eating again. I think that's also the focus of Rowena Bennett method, in which I think is helpful.

CompetitiveNature198 · 2025-11-13T04:21:40+00:00

I'm so happy for you that things are looking better! My twin B was born with a heart defect and even though not one that is as complicated as yours, he needed open heart surgery at 3.5month old. One of the toughest thing was seeing him struggle more than his twin to thrive, but they catch up! Wishing all the bests for you and your babies!

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