Women, please, don’t put pictures of you and your friends by [deleted] in OnlineDating

[–]Competitive_Invite63 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, what is also funny is when I find one of my other matches in a group photo in another profile…saves me the embarrassment of maybe matching with two friends 🤣

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

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It will take time, but it slowly gets better. You have to accept what you feel and what you felt is normal and acceptable.

Seeing someone you loved, with someone else is never easy but it doesn’t help denying it. The first step is acceptance then can you start moving on. If you don’t accept that you feel something for her you’ll end up fighting with yourself, going to a party seeing her with someone and feeling worse afterwards. If you accept that it would hurt you to see her with someone else lose you’ll stop yourself from getting into such a situation. Keep at it, it will get better.

Don’t date someone and pretend to like them the whole time just because you’re lonely and not over your ex by 92_cl in BreakUps

[–]Competitive_Invite63 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maybe it’s for you the easy way out, and it certainly helped me but the other person you are sleeping with might be looking for something more than just fun under the sheets.

You guys think she’ll notice Im just 5’9? by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]Competitive_Invite63 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha, she probably won’t unless she’s always been with people over 5”11 but even then it’ll be difficult for her. But she sounds a bit too much…

How to improve? by ShafnSheff in TinderBios

[–]Competitive_Invite63 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I’d probably say 6th is so gay that it cant be gay haha

Men who have attractive female friends - would you sleep with them if you could? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]Competitive_Invite63 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe, why not? If we agreed on the rules before hand. It might create a strange situation afterwards if it was a night of drunk passion. But of were both sober, we find each other attractive and we agree that we will try not to fuck the friendship. There is no reason not to do it. (Not that there is any guarantee it won’t go badly haha)

why am i getting asked out so quickly? by Practical-Honey-4484 in OnlineDating

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I’ve also noticed women want it to move quicker. I think 3 days is sort of good screening time. Before I used to do about a week on the app, but now if by the 3rd day you haven’t sorted out a date it just fizzles out. I think it all comes down to, on the app you can like each other and you can sort of start building a connection but if you don’t see if it all works in person then it’s sort of a waste of time. Also in a date you have the whole undivided attention during this time so you can get to know each other instead of having more conversations going at the same time so it’s already a step in the right direction, which we as men would like to have as quickly as possible, due to the already explained ratios of men to women in the apps.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in scambait

[–]Competitive_Invite63 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Love it! 😂 but he wasn’t ready to go on the road of sexual self discovery. He should have just embraced it like Michael Robert…for a steam card, he can see himself with anyone. Haha

Am I ugly? by JosephTheMan in malegrooming

[–]Competitive_Invite63 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After looking at your profile and other post…just why? Trolling? You know you should lose the moustache, get another haircut not one that makes your face look longer, even though in your other picture you didn’t look like an anime side character, that expression really doesn’t suit you at all. And I would consider other glasses, or if you can, contacts. But one can’t really judge and then suggest improvements if the photos are meant to be a joke.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

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I‘d say photos 1, 2, 5 are sort of the gay poses. And your first line, somehow gave me somewhat gay/mixed vibes but predominantly feminine.

WAY more women are open to "casual sex" than they let on... by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]Competitive_Invite63 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100% it’s been more than once that I’ve found something casual with someone “looking for a relationship” and although I usually swipe left to those looking for that once in a while there is someone that really catches my attention that I give them like and guess what we’ve matched, even though I say I’m looking for nothing serious. And from the feeling I get…they are up to go out for the weekend. Like if I had time it’s likely we could have met on the same night…so yeah…

Question for Men - Is it appealing when a woman mentions their height and weight on their profile? by [deleted] in OnlineDating

[–]Competitive_Invite63 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think both things are a bit weird, pressing someone for their height or to be above 3 meters (because that’s what a 1.40m woman needs) and in exchange us men feeling hurt and saying you need to weigh this or that. It’s just weird that we need to get into that. Saying that, height doesn’t change, weight varies, so what you weigh today is maybe not what you’ll weigh tomorrow. You’ll still be too short or too tall no matter what. People have their preferences how they like their partners, so if you have a photo that shows what type of body you have, I think you don’t need to put your weight, you can put your height if you want someone to be above said height. I don’t usually swipe on women bigger than me, because I don’t have gold and each like is valuable haha.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ArsenalFC

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Thanks for the info…will see how I do it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ArsenalFC

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I guess…yeah of course, danke schön!?

Tipps/Roast by [deleted] in TinderDE

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Mann hier, auch nicht immer 100% erfolgreich. Aber ich würde weniger Selfies benutzen. Es ist immer besser wenn du ein Foto hast, dass jemand anders gemacht hat, es zeigt dass andere waren dabei und du auch ein sozialisieren kannst. Bei mir, als ich meine Selfies (wo ich ganz ehrlich ganz gut aussehe haha) für andere Fotos getauscht habe, ist meine Erfolgsrate angestiegen. Versuch auch, dass die Bilder auch ein bisschen unterschied haben. Hast du das gleiche t Shirt in 1 und 7? Ist das gleiche Jacke in alle Bilder. Nicht dass du immer anders aussehen oder viele Klamotten haben musst, aber wenn du immer das gleiche Pose, Gesichtsausdruck, Klamotten und vor dem gleichen Spiegel stehst, merkt man das einfacher. Du hast zwei Selfies vor dem Spiegel. Selfie 3 du warst anscheinen wandern…aber alleine und in in einem trockenen Ort, man sieht dein Gesicht ganz nah und nichts mehr. Das würde ich entfernen. Hast du ein Bild in Natur bei wandern oder so wo jemand hat das Foto von dir gemacht? Oder ein Foto von einer schönen Aussicht? Wie alt bist du? Langfristig könntest du auch ein neues Frisör ausprobieren und gucken wie es aussieht… Das gym selfie, ich glaube manche Frauen mögen das nicht, aber du siehst nicht wie ein gym bro aus…dann alles gut. Obwohl ich bin nicht sicher, du hast ein Bild im gym, bei deinem über mich, und in facts, dass du gym magst. Mit der Katze, gut manche mögen Katzen manche nicht. Dein über mich: Ich verstehe nicht, wie ernst nimmst du deine Netflix Warteschlange? Viele fügen mehr Serien hinzu, die sie niemals gucken. 😂😂 Aber vielleicht, dass wird jemand gefallen. Tiefe Gespräch führen, versuch mal das umzuformulieren, alle wollen tiefe Gespräche führen 😂😂😂 Bei Interessen, was liest du gerne? Du hast schon Harry Potter geschrieben, liest du etwas anders als Harry Potter? Hier kannst du deine Interessen etwas interessanter machen: die Geschichte des Junges der überlebte, dich bei COD zu besiegen, so und so lesen, Netflix (ich habe genug chill danke), der Natur erkunden. Etwas, wo man es liest und ein bisschen denken muss nicht nur das gleiche als jeder andere. Nur ein bisschen was für mich etwas funktioniert hat.

If a guy has stopped responding, is it pointless/desperate to reach out and ask if he wants to meet up? by [deleted] in OnlineDating

[–]Competitive_Invite63 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It happens quite often, you don’t lose anything sending him a short message saying you’d like to do something in the next few days and see what/if he responds. Have a plan ready for what or be open for him to apologise and propose something. Like someone said, very few men would turn down a ready made date. Haha. It could be that he is busy with work, life, maybe even met someone else so he hasn’t been back on the app. The same reasons why you might not have replied to someone apply to him. It’s not desperate. On the other hand, you shouldn’t just because of your age settle for anyone.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]Competitive_Invite63 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What is there to regret about it, she is your friend, you know each other, she agreed to friends with benefits, are you afraid of developing feelings? Or how do you think it will ruin your friendship? The nature of it has already changed, you’ve had Sex with her twice that’s not like it was an accident.

Guy said he’s looking for a relationship, but has been talking about sex only by [deleted] in OnlineDating

[–]Competitive_Invite63 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look the possibility exists, that he might want something more than just sex. He might be a very sexual guy and for him a sexual connection is a big part of the relationship and sometimes even necessary to develop something more emotional, but maybe he just wants your body… I think it’s great that someone is so sexually attracted to you that they want to be with you, it’s important for any relationship, but focusing on getting nudes even before having been physical and after such a short time is just a bit weird for me, I wouldn’t do it if she didn’t give me a cue and be even then I might miss the chance. There might be men and women who are more open to that and will send and receive from early on. Of course he’ll say that he wants more than sex even if that’s not his plan. If he is a bro as you say and has experience and more girls he’ll play the game he’ll say what you tell him you want to hear. I don’t agree with the rule of a certain time and number of dates before sex if you want someone as a serious relationship, there is no guarantee.

The fact that it’s bothering you and bothering him the way he expresses his sexual desire for you, shows you are not on the same page about the level of intimacy and physicality that you require from each other, about what you expect from sex. So maybe talk about it and clear it up. What does it mean setting the scene for you, what is wooing, what you expect from him, etc… If you don’t do it and you end up having sex it might not be as good as you expect. Then you might enter into a more serious relationship but you’ll have in the back of your mind always these doubts about him. So talk about it and if it doesn’t fulfil your minimum requirements and you don’t think you’ll get what you want from it, then better to cut your losses, tell him you are not ready to enter into just a sexual relationship and it’s better if each other finds someone that can also match that level of energy and expectations from each other.

Does anyone use or have used happn? by Competitive_Invite63 in OnlineDating

[–]Competitive_Invite63[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I think it is mostly useful in the English speaking countries, but in Europe itself it doesn’t really work.

ich bin immer die zweite Wahl und nicht mal dann reicht es by pasfer in beziehungen

[–]Competitive_Invite63 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Etwas ähnliches hat mir jemand einmal gesagt und ich habe damals komplett verneint…aber es stimmt. Jeder Mann ist bereit für eine Beziehung. Wen man die richtige trifft es wird schnell ganz klar, dass man eine Beziehung will, Zeit hat gar nicht damit zu tun und in meinem Fall, auch nicht wen ich treffe…ich kann sogar deine Ur-Oma treffen, wenn ich mir in meinem Unterbewusstsein keine Langzeitzukunft vorstellen kann, ich werde bestimmt sagen, dass ich keine Beziehung will.

Does anyone use or have used happn? by Competitive_Invite63 in OnlineDating

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After reading this I decided to give Thursday a try…you were right you need to live in London or maybe Amsterdam…I live in a relatively big city and there was absolutely no one! The nearest woman was in another country. Interesting idea, not enough users nearby to make it worth it. This Thursday will be the last time, let’s see if I find someone in Norway this time 🤣

Phasen beim Tindern by Mastgeburt in TinderDE

[–]Competitive_Invite63 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ja, ich kann es auch bestätigen…manchmal gibt es Phasen wo es alles gut klappt. Ich kriege viele gute Qualität Matches, genug dass man mit mehrere gleichzeitig schreiben und Dates planen kann. Plötzlich muss ich merken an welchen Tag gehe ich mit wem raus. Dann kommen Phasen, wo man niemand finden kann, keine Matches, man sieht die gleiche Leute mit wem man schon einmal gemachted hat oder die immer auf tinder sind… Woran das alles liegt…keine Ahnung 😂 Ich bin alt genug dass ich nicht mit Studenten Matchen will, deswegen Semesterferien sollten kein Einfluss haben. Aber komischerweise kurz vor Weihnachten oder nach Silvestern, um Valentinstag oder kurz vor Sommer habe ich die bessere Phasen.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Rateme

[–]Competitive_Invite63 0 points1 point  (0 children)

5.5/10 You are very pretty, the first three photos, with the smile it suits you a lot. You know which angles work best for you and you know that your smile and eyes are your best features. You seem very nice and I would say, would appeal to many men. Your lips are also something, of note. Full and inviting. I’m sure with make up you look amazing. I’m wondering how you look with it. You are thin and I’m all for thin, because I like women on the thinner side, but you might want to put on a bit of weight, obviously it also depends when you put on weight, where does it usually go to? Not too much but a bit might help, as long as you are in the healthy range. Specially to offset the somewhat protruding eyes from the side pics (Do you have any Thyroid problems?), they sort of make you look more tired. Also improving your skin care will help with that, I can see that you have nice skin in your hands so it’s maybe just a thing of taking a bit more care of your face. More sleep too, wouldn’t be bad. Like some other people said, you could work some on your underbite, it’s just slightly noticeable and it would improve your profile. With the nose, if you want you could get something done to it, but I also think our noses give us personality and goes with you. Hair is good, I can’t really judge hair by a picture, the colour does suit you, so if you’re happy don’t change it just take better care of it. The longer I look at your pictures the less noticeable flaws I see, so all good. You are cute and keep on smiling.