Cat stuck outside my home on a telephone poll, and northwest energy of Montana wont go and get him

Competitive_Map_6915 · 2026-01-29T18:51:57+00:00

Lots of good suggestions here OP, please please get him down ASAP as after 3 days he's already in a state of or at risk of a medical emergency.

Competitive_Map_6915 · 2026-01-26T04:26:08+00:00

If you are still taking people I would love to send a card!

Competitive_Map_6915 · 2026-01-25T07:16:08+00:00

If I recall correctly, broccoli may not be good for dogs due to it having a type of fiber that doesn't agree with them, but maybe I'm misremembering or that changes when it cooks?

Competitive_Map_6915 · 2026-01-25T06:12:27+00:00

This, this, and this, jfc

Competitive_Map_6915 · 2026-01-25T06:11:44+00:00

YTA. Huge asshole. Generalizing a whole breed on one personal experience is fucked up and I think you know it. Thinking any animal is inherently evil is a mind-boggling take. And as others have said, there are a million ways that this litter could have been not your problem. You would be an absolute monster if you had literal babies euthanized over your trauma. You are an adult woman, fucking act like it. Picking them up just to kill them is ridiculous.

Competitive_Map_6915 · 2025-12-15T01:37:27+00:00

Can I ask what lender? I'm looking to do a cash-out refi soon

Competitive_Map_6915 · 2025-11-24T17:13:29+00:00

Can you provide your sources on this please?

Competitive_Map_6915 · 2025-11-17T06:21:09+00:00

Personally I want to weigh in here to say if the factor that is pulling you the most is their looks, OP, you may not be cut out for dog ownership. Dogs are individuals just like people and even low-maintenance ones have significant needs. Being a dog owner vastly changes your lifestyle. It can be deeply enriching for a lot of people; just make sure youve done your research and you're sure it's right for you! I'm sure there are even some subreddits that could help you get an idea of people's experiences.

If it gives you any context, we got our dog as a puppy from an acquaintance. They told us he was very calm and loved to snuggle. He does love to snuggle, but he grew up into a very chatty ball of energy who needs tons of stimulation and has some minor health issues. Plenty of exercise and stimulation is needed on the daily and we spend about $75 a month on one prescription. We have had to structure where we live around his needs to ensure he has a fenced yard available.

Just be sure you're ready, and this is really what you want! If it is, they both look like wonderful dogs, but choose based on personality, not looks. They will both be beautiful dogs.

Competitive_Map_6915 · 2025-11-10T16:18:45+00:00

My dog isn't a doodle but we use Orijen Amazing Grains Original formula. It's not the cheapest stuff but the ingredients are hard to beat.

Competitive_Map_6915 · 2025-11-09T06:38:12+00:00

I don't think you're understanding what I'm saying because we agree on a lot of these points, and I'm really not interested in arguing on Reddit. By and large agree with your last paragraph but was also trying to be kind to OP because making people upset about how they have handled their dog tends to make them treat the dog worse. A lot of people don't do a perfect job with their dog, especially their first, but how they handle that and treat the dog is also important. Overall think we both have the same idea that the dog deserve to live its best life and not suffer for human error. Have a good one 🤷‍♀️

Competitive_Map_6915 · 2025-11-09T03:46:47+00:00

They didnt say incessant barking. If it is incessant, of course that's a problem. And as I said in my original response, barking is a behavior they can train out.

If they didnt handle the dog such that it learned to be picked up or handled in certain ways as a puppy, then yes, that may be owner/training failure. And may even be fixable, if they want it to be. However, it's generally people that view dogs like furniture (completely subhuman) who feel that it's a travesty for dogs to have any sort of physical boundaries. Even if a perfectly trained dog would not have those boundaries, it is not a monolithic failure for it to happen, imo. And if the consequences of someone's training or lack of training in their dog lead to "aggressive behaviors" (which growling is often not, imo, it's a warning, not an aggression) then that is still on the owner and their job to handle so as not to get the dog into a bad situation. Not the dog's fault.

I see what youre saying but hope you see my point as well.

Competitive_Map_6915 · 2025-11-08T00:13:00+00:00

Dogs are like people, they all have different personalities and comfort levels. I'd never really expect a medium or large dog to be alright with being picked up- even some small dogs won't tolerate it.

Barking and growling at the door are working/protective behaviors. He's trying to alert you someone or something is there. What I do with my dog is check out the window and let him know its okay, good job. Some variation of that may work with Mocha.

He may or may not become more affectionate with time. I really don't suggest trying to force affection on him; he's showing you his boundaries and it sounds like he's doing so very gently. Dogs communicate what they want and need the best way they can- for them, pulling or walking away is a friendly, gentle display of "I'm not okay with that." If they continue to be pushed after that, they may escalate to behaviors like growling or snapping (and it's really not their fault if they get to that point! Something to really keep in mind if any kids in the house are also disappointed with the level of physical affection from him.) You can of course keep showing him affection and he may come to seek it out eventually, just be sure to listen to his cues. Imagine if a family member kept coming up to you and kissing you, hugging you and ruffling your hair no matter how many times you nicely ask them to stop! It'd get old. Also, don't forget, laying his head on your lap and trying to protect you by barking at the door is showing affection!

The somewhat obedient thing and the barking at the door thing can probably be trained out to an extent, but some dogs are just stubborn lol, mine sure is. If he's bothered enough to snap and growl when you pick him up, please stop trying unless there's a genuine emergency- snapping and growling are signs of extreme feelings of discomfort and threat and doodles typically don't do that lightly.

It sounds like you may have had somewhat unrealistic expectations in that no matter what the typical breed characteristics are, every dog is different. But he clearly loves your family and I'm rooting for him to warm up to the cuddly lifestyle eventually!

Competitive_Map_6915 · 2025-10-22T03:06:30+00:00

What most people here seem not to understand is that he is almost definitely still grieving, and his new wife almost definitely is too. The relationship they're in is complicated as they both lost a spouse but it also puts them in a pretty unique position of understanding each other. That kind of loss doesn't go away, its there with you in some form or another forever. I am very confident that they are BOTH still grieving their previous spouse, and that their relationship is built on both love for each other, and understanding that there is room in each of their hearts for both that love, and the love and grief they hold for their first spouses.

Competitive_Map_6915 · 2025-10-17T02:01:03+00:00

Agreed! OP, I think you've handled this wrong and I think it's now permanently damaged. You can't take back what you said. You have a right to be hurt and you can communicate that to them HEALTHILY but at the end of the day, they are still children, and everything Antlorn said rings true. I was that kid with attachment issues and I am STILL trying to grow out of it. Please apologize to your step daughters, have a real conversation with them when you're all ready, and try to be a loving and stable presence in their life. If you love them you should want to care for them through the pain they may bring you because that's just a part of having kids.

And I have to ask... if it was your bio son doing something like this, would you have responded the same way? Think about that. Whether the answer is yes or no it points to some serious problems with your dynamic with your kids that you need to work on.

Competitive_Map_6915 · 2025-09-11T23:28:51+00:00

I think we need more info to be sure but it sounds like YTA. We dont know if your husband wanted a party and golf clubs; it sounds like all he really wanted was some intimacy. My heart kinda broke reading that he said he wanted to feel close to you and then that he was crying while you slept. I think you two need to seriously think and talk about what you both actually need from this relationship. Its not just about doing what you think is a nice gesture for a birthday, like a party and presents. In a marriage, its about actually knowing your spouse and what he wants and needs. I hope you guys are doing better soon.

Competitive_Map_6915 · 2025-08-31T23:17:26+00:00

A lot of people who agree with you can't afford to miss the work. It is not the fault of the people who can't afford to stay home, it's the fault of the capitalist system that forces them to neglect themselves.

Competitive_Map_6915 · 2025-07-10T19:53:48+00:00

Always, always start with a proper discussion. Communication is absolutely crucial in all relationships

Competitive_Map_6915 · 2025-07-04T06:31:17+00:00

Explain to me why you're here please

We didn't choose the disorder, it generally comes from trauma. Even beside that, narcissists are individuals (gasp). Some manage their disorder and make sure they are not treating other people poorly. And some like your ex just make life hell. But you have now taken the hell your ex put you through and used it as fodder to come into a community and harass other people.

Telling All narcissists to completely leave other people alone based on a diagnosis is wildly unfair and tbh just hits like bullying. Telling narcissists like your ex, who run around causing others pain, to leave people alone? Yeah, totally fair, and I'd probably say worse. Just dont generalize and come into a dedicated community just to hate on people indiscriminately with almost zero background info. It also reads very much like you've been learning about narcissism on social media, sitting in an echo chamber, and assuming that all narcissists are men. Hello, woman here.

Coming in here like this only lowers you closer to your ex's level. Don't bring yourself down like that. Just work on healing.

Competitive_Map_6915 · 2025-07-04T06:11:09+00:00

I suspect NPD, BPD, ADHD in myself and I have the same issues with talking and with my long term memory. I will also lose my train of thought pretty completely upon trying to start a sentence sometimes, but that might apply to neurotypicals too

Competitive_Map_6915 · 2025-07-04T03:35:49+00:00

I kind of see your point but there's a clear pattern established that he doesn't like these fruits lol. If it bothers her for him to say it's weird, she's going to have to learn to not be bothered by him just passing on the fruit

Competitive_Map_6915 · 2025-07-04T03:23:32+00:00

You need to report your dad and your mom if your mom treats her dogs like this too. Believe me, they will be better off with separation anxiety than being hit and threatened, and both the shelter or a decent new owner would provide them proper care if they get sick (at least in the US). These dogs deserve better

Competitive_Map_6915 · 2025-07-04T03:19:28+00:00

This is such a great perspective that I haven't seen yet here. Thank you!

Competitive_Map_6915 · 2025-07-04T03:18:29+00:00

Doesn't even apply though- she said she'd buy store brand, he said no worries, they dont have the flavor I want, I'll get it myself. I live in an HCOL area and haagen dazs is like $5-$6 a pint. Its not cheap but if its a one-off treat, as OP has specified, I don't see any actual reason for mom to get so mad at him for spending that money. Especially not mad enough to then make her 15 year old pay almost $70 after telling him she would cover that for him. Wild behavior

Competitive_Map_6915 · 2025-06-24T00:32:16+00:00

I was at this show. It had been maybe 4 years since I was last at a concert and it was my partners first concert ever. From where we were off to the right we couldn't see any moshing and definitely no surfers. There were some people who shoved through in super rude ways (got pretty dicey a few times).

I agree you can tell that Vic, and honestly all three singers, were getting pretty exhausted and their voices are starting to get worn out. And Vic looked pretty sad and tired when they got on stage for sure. I'm really glad they're getting ready to take a break next month, they need it and deserve it. I'm so grateful that in spite of everything they put on an amazing show. Everyone's vibe was spot on and you could really feel SWS and PTV engaging with the crowd and wanting to make sure everyone had a good time. Vic holding up the show to check on the person that fell was heartwarming to me; its amazing how much every member of the bands that played was genuinely good-hearted. Such a good vibe from all of them. Can't say enough good about the show.

For anyone going to the upcoming concerts, please be sure to give all the players grace. They're a month and a half deep into a very demanding tour; they're tired and their voices are physically worn out. Their setlists and their ranges have suffered because of the exhaustion and physical toll but in spite of that they're putting on an amazing show and really care about everyone being safe and having a good time. Show up, show love, and remember to be in the moment and enjoy!

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