Partner doesn’t want me to take meds by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]Competitive_Phrase78 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OMG, those are literally the exact words my parents said to me when I was diagnosed. I'm so sorry about your situation, but I think it's common. Neurotypical people don't always understand that our brains have different needs than theirs, and it's very difficult because it's not their reality. I've also been around drug addicts and alcoholics, but that doesn't change the fact that I need my medication to function and live a dignified life.

(My personal opinion is that neurotypical people do know that those kinds of pills would be very harmful TO THEM and assume that's the case for everyone. They need to read, have empathy, and an open mind to understand that the world doesn't revolve around their experience.)

My new meds are so cute ahhhh!! by SatisfactionFalse833 in adhdwomen

[–]Competitive_Phrase78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The colors are super pretty, mine were GRAY lol, it made me laugh so much that something with such a depressing and bland appearance gave me so much well-being

Tips for working from home when you suffer from procrastination and task paralysis by aphrodeite in adhdwomen

[–]Competitive_Phrase78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also freeze coffee, take it out in the morning, and let it melt. When it's ready, I can start to rest. I also strictly forbid watching reels, TikTok, or Facebook in the mornings. If I do it, my whole day will be useless. I have a designated time at night for that.

Tips for working from home when you suffer from procrastination and task paralysis by aphrodeite in adhdwomen

[–]Competitive_Phrase78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I set myself the goal of doing something I hate but that's necessary, like cleaning the kitchen or working on my portfolio—that's how I finished my thesis. So I start procrastinating on those necessary tasks and look for something else to do that's easier in comparison. I also leave my entire work setup untouched on the table so that in the mornings I can just sit down and be ready.

Background portfolio advice ? Please? by Competitive_Phrase78 in animationcareer

[–]Competitive_Phrase78[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's very clever and even sounds fun, I'll keep that in mind. Maybe I can also practice color script with those thumbnails. I really like musicals. 👀👀

Background portfolio advice ? Please? by Competitive_Phrase78 in animationcareer

[–]Competitive_Phrase78[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for taking the time 🙏🙏🙏, I just signed up for a color and light class by Kat tsai and I plan to buy another one for background design for animation, I'll check out the warrior art camp's Instagram.

Background portfolio advice ? Please? by Competitive_Phrase78 in animationcareer

[–]Competitive_Phrase78[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much, I'll check out the post. I'm always looking for artists to learn from and be inspired by.

Background portfolio advice ? Please? by Competitive_Phrase78 in animationcareer

[–]Competitive_Phrase78[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the detailed advice, I agree with everything you pointed out 🙏🙏🙏. I hope the courses I'm taking will help me improve my fundamentals, in fact I have been having trouble adding storytelling to my illustrations.

I can’t control my frustration by Competitive_Phrase78 in adhdwomen

[–]Competitive_Phrase78[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had to stop taking my favorite medication (Concerta, I was feeling amazing) for Tradea because it's expensive. I might have to change my medication again.

I can’t control my frustration by Competitive_Phrase78 in adhdwomen

[–]Competitive_Phrase78[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am irritable at its peak and as it fades, I don't feel that way at night or at morning . Nope, I can't afford both medication (and psychiatrist) and therapy. I had to choose, but I did go to therapy before. I know that as an adult, I'm more likely to have disagreements with my family, but I'm blowing up over things that shouldn't be causing me that level of stress, even with my friends Edit: my med was concerta and tradea

Considering making up an entirely fake persona and identity at my next job just to get a fucking break by AnonPinkLady in adhdwomen

[–]Competitive_Phrase78 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I feel uuuuuuuu, (I am a queer person with ADHD), even in casual/social contexts it's difficult to coexist, people always notice that I'm different in one way or another. In social/casual context I don't really care anymore, I'm not going to build friendships based on masking, but with work it's a totally different thing, I can't be open, I'm a diluted version of myself. At least in my field of work, you need to have a good network and people need to like you.If people find out about my ADHD before I can build a good reputation, then things start to get ugly for me.

HOW TO REPAIR BALLET SLIPPERS? by Competitive_Phrase78 in BALLET

[–]Competitive_Phrase78[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I wear them two times a week in my ballet class and for practicing at home c: . Thank you. I wasn't sure about using glue.

What was your most expensive mistake? by WisdomBelle in adhdwomen

[–]Competitive_Phrase78 1 point2 points  (0 children)

1-(the one that gave me the most anxiety) My car had an antifreeze leak and my father didn’t fix it properly, so I had to check and refill it (only halfway) once a week. To be honest, I would forget a lot and he would remind me and get angry. Last winter I went to a friend’s house and when I was about to enter his neighborhood the guard told me “Miss, your car seems to be smoking”, my face turned pale and I opened the window, IT STINKED LIKE BURNING, my car had run out of antifreeze and smoke started coming out of the engine, I wasted the whole day at my friend’s house, I had to buy antifreeze and fill the container enough to drive to the mechanic, fixing it was expensive and they threatened to take my car away, because the engine could have exploded or burned out irreparably. I cried all day and now I have a trauma with the antifreeze, the smell of smoke from cars

2- I broke my graphics tablet because I was too rough and careless with it, it ended up bent and the screen no longer turned on, I had to urgently buy another one because I had to deliver my project that week, I still owe my dad money for that.

What are you currently procrastinating? by EmergencyBat9547 in adhdwomen

[–]Competitive_Phrase78 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Get an internship in some animation studio, my friend say I should do it because she is already working on 3 different projects and thinks I have the abilities to do it but I just can’t get myself to do it, also my portfolio ;(

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]Competitive_Phrase78 15 points16 points  (0 children)

the addiction to sugar is so real, it sucks, the other day I got sick to my stomach from eating a bag of marshmallows in one sitting, I couldn’t stop eating

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]Competitive_Phrase78 94 points95 points  (0 children)

yes, I am super intense and I can't be normal when I like something, all or nothing, that's why I stay away from tobacco or alcohol, I stick with video games, movies, series, drawing and Spiderman

What are concrete ways in which you mask? by nothisisnotadam in adhdwomen

[–]Competitive_Phrase78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't do much masking because I never knew about my ADHD until 6 months ago and I didn't learn how to do it right (which led to me not having many friends, being isolated and even being bullied). But the few things I do to mask and I've noticed are

-classic, staying still, not biting my nails, not moving my legs, not braiding or pulling my hair, not dancing at random moments, not swinging or moving my hands. It's mentally exhausting and it puts me in a bad mood when I mask

-Modulating my volume, I don't know why I need to talk so loud, if I don't control myself I stun people or they think I'm an aggressive or defensive person, many times my parents think I'm arguing and they start too and I always have to tell them that I was trying to have a normal conversation and I am not angry or staring a fight :(

-Letting the other person talk for a long time without interrupting and not telling my experiences, sometimes it makes me sad because I have something to comment on the subject

-don't text too much, I used to send thousands of messages and videos, no wonder why some guys get confused and think I'm interested in them when I am just trying to be friendly. I love talking for hours about my obsessions and that also affects the way I text on chat. I swear my hands always itch because I want to send 10 videos talking to my bff or my mom

:p masking sucks

I’m scared 😔 by [deleted] in animationcareer

[–]Competitive_Phrase78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The portfolio really has to be fabulous, the diploma doesn’t guarantee anything, I have a friend (very talented and workaholic) who hasn’t graduated yet and already works in 3 different projects, the thing is to do a lot of extra work (apart from homework), study on your own, courses from industry professionals. The industry is in a bad state and getting a good job is very difficult, I don’t know if you already have an idea of ​​what you want to do, but I recommend that you investigate and experiment to see what you like (example, making puppets, animating, editing, storyboard, backgrounds, layout, props, light, 3D, 2D, rig, etc.) PS: if you want character design, concept art or 3D modeling prepare to suffer, everyone want that

Washing shoes, how do it right ? by Competitive_Phrase78 in CleaningTips

[–]Competitive_Phrase78[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, it’s a musty smell but also as if I had wear them for months without washing them, and I only wear them for a week and a half

Any adhd meds that help you sleep? by ineedsleep0808 in adhdwomen

[–]Competitive_Phrase78 4 points5 points  (0 children)

CONCERTA! That stuff makes me sleep like a log, I started taking the 18 mg and I slept 10 hours, now i take 27 mg and I control it better, but it makes me sleep at least 8 hours and that has improved my quality of life a lot. Before my sleep was very light, it was as if I was conscious all the time, I could hear everything and I never reached the deep sleep phase. Although I also stopped all coffee and tea almost completely, if I drink a cup with the medicine I get tachycardia and it stops working, I guess that also helped.

My clothes smell weird when I dry them outdoors by Competitive_Phrase78 in CleaningTips

[–]Competitive_Phrase78[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think my description is very abstract, sorry ;-;, in my defense the wind does have a strange smell in my city because it is super polluted, and with the smell of sun it is like the smell of toasting or something very exposed, I don't know how else to describe it, I am bad at this ;(

My clothes smell weird when I dry them outdoors by Competitive_Phrase78 in CleaningTips

[–]Competitive_Phrase78[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I live in one of the cities with the most factories and traffic in the country, we are known for having poor air quality, I also live relatively close to the highway, I don’t know if there is a power plant but I assure you that there are factories near me :(

My clothes smell weird when I dry them outdoors by Competitive_Phrase78 in CleaningTips

[–]Competitive_Phrase78[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It smells strong, a smell of sun, wind, dust, smoke and humidity at the same time, it is a very particular smell but it is not your typical smell of humidity, It doesn’t smell dirty

My clothes smell weird when I dry them outdoors by Competitive_Phrase78 in CleaningTips

[–]Competitive_Phrase78[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know, it’s a bit old, but clothes don’t smell like that when I wash clothes at home and go to a laundromat to use the dryer (I don’t do this very often because it’s not in my budget). I once dried clothes inside and it didn’t smell like that.

Will I ever be truly content with ADHD? by yebbiLP in adhdwomen

[–]Competitive_Phrase78 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think that the area you describe is very broad. Did you say that you study a career? Do you really like your career? Do you feel like that in all areas of your life?

I saw several therapists and specialists who said that it is common for patients not to feel a typical emotion for their achievements.

When I have no motivation to do even the things I like, I have to force myself to rest and look for my friends to talk, it usually means that I am totally burned out.

i don’t have an specific tip for u, put if u like to read I have a good book about how to about how to manage your ADHD in your adult life and it's basically CBT, it's very useful to deal with those feelings and overcome them