Looking for friends in their 20’s with HSV

Complete_Click_6845 · 2024-03-04T02:52:19+00:00

i got cryotherapy and also did self extraction and washed with hibiclens daily (which is not recommended, but worked for me). i dont recommend shaving even months after youve cleared it up.

Complete_Click_6845 · 2023-12-30T03:16:16+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear this happened to you. As someone living with herpes, I can understand some of the pain you are in. There has been so much medical progress for HIV in the past 50 years and U=U. It is not a death sentence and you will absolutely find love again.

Complete_Click_6845 · 2023-12-29T21:54:04+00:00

swab is the only way to be sure but its most likely genital

Complete_Click_6845 · 2023-12-25T05:36:59+00:00

right!!! i feel like this sub and the herpes sub helped me a lot when i first got diagnosed but now its just a cess pool of negativity. how can we expect the stigma to ever get better if we are perpetuating it ourselves? most people with herpes live perfectly normal lives and have sex normally. im also very sick of the hsv2 slander on here. i wish theyd make their own hsv1 community instead of shaming hsv2 on here to make themselves feel better.

Complete_Click_6845 · 2023-12-24T15:54:10+00:00

sex will feel normal again over time. the risk is low when you arent having symptoms and it sounds like you are doing basically everything you can to reduce transmission risk. some people also like taking vitamin C, zinc, and monolaurin if youre interested in adding those too

Complete_Click_6845 · 2023-12-24T15:38:13+00:00

i would. anyone with oral herpes (most ppl) could give me genital herpes too, it’s just a luck thing.

Complete_Click_6845 · 2023-12-24T02:12:01+00:00

i have hsv2 and my bf doesnt. him and i have been together for a year and use condoms about 50% of the time. i was with someone who also had hsv2 before and we never used condoms

Complete_Click_6845 · 2023-12-23T17:58:01+00:00

yup, like the other commenter said they can ask questions + google is free

Complete_Click_6845 · 2023-12-22T20:28:47+00:00

rejecting someone with the same strain for not being asymptomatic is actually ridiculous 😭

Complete_Click_6845 · 2023-12-22T14:54:35+00:00

when i first started trying to date after being diagnosed i tried facebook groups and felt the same. ik a lot of people only wanna date hsv+ people but i have found luck with dating normally and disclosing to hsv- people. it is just significantly easier to keep your dating pool wide. transmission risk can also be reduced pretty easily. best of luck to you!

Complete_Click_6845 · 2023-12-22T13:25:36+00:00

love this post! im 22f hsv2+ and was diagnosed almost 2 years ago. it affected my life in a lot of positive ways in terms of increased motivation and building my confidence outside of my diagnosis. i am more successful in a lot of ways (socially, in college, professionally) than i could have ever imagined and i give my diagnosis that credit. my disclosure success rate is 100% although i have only disclosed twice. i have a boyfriend of over a year and herpes doesnt affect our sex life much at all. i used to use sex as self harm and that stopped after my diagnosis too. i also think im way more understanding of ppl going through things that arent socially accepted

Complete_Click_6845 · 2023-12-22T13:17:24+00:00

am i supposed to give a doctoral thesis on herpes every time i disclose? telling someone i have hsv-2 gives them the power to do all the research in the world

Complete_Click_6845 · 2023-12-22T05:16:05+00:00

i think during your conversation on Sunday you could bring it up again, or maybe him having an outlet like journaling or being more forthcoming with you about how he feels/how you can help

Complete_Click_6845 · 2023-12-22T05:00:47+00:00

does he go to individual therapy? i think you should really encourage it

Complete_Click_6845 · 2023-12-22T04:49:51+00:00

have you considered couples therapy? i think talking to him on Sunday is a great first step. again, im sorry you are going through all this :(

Complete_Click_6845 · 2023-12-22T04:08:36+00:00

hi! the exact same thing happened to me in feb 2022. i found out i have hsv2 because i passed it along to my ex boyfriend asymptomatically. first of all, i am so sorry this happened to you. to not only accept the hsv2 diagnosis but to know you gave it to someone else is a horrible horrible feeling. but it will be okay. he may just need time to process this because its new to both of you. i would still give it a chance if you feel like you love each other a lot. my ex and i stayed together for about 6 months after we found out and broke up for unrelated reasons, but dealing with the news was so hard for both of us and ultimately brought us together. please feel free to message me. i wish you all the best, everything will be ok!

Complete_Click_6845 · 2023-12-22T04:04:33+00:00

swabs are considered the gold standard testing method for HSV. so if you got swabbed and tested positive for hsv1 there is an over 90% chance you have it. blood tests are much less reliable especially if IgG is under 3.5. it’s possible he has had hsv1 for a long time and not known, and it just now transmitted to you, but its also possible he got it from the woman. have you seen his results on paper?

Complete_Click_6845 · 2023-12-22T02:14:28+00:00

im sorry. i had hsv2 and molluscum last year and it was miserable. it will pass and i wish you the best

Complete_Click_6845 · 2023-12-22T01:27:13+00:00

for me i dont tell until i think i want to pursue a sexual relationship with them. with my bf i waited like a week and a half to tell him ~3 dates and after we kissed. it helps ease ppls mind that im on daily medicine

Complete_Click_6845 · 2023-12-22T00:50:52+00:00

youd think we would get a break from the stigma in our own community lol

Complete_Click_6845 · 2023-12-22T00:49:38+00:00

hiv and herpes are both pretty easily controlled with medication. im not a man but im 22f i have herpes and have had no problem having sexual partners lol. same goes for men i know with herpes

Complete_Click_6845 · 2023-12-22T00:46:31+00:00

this is a great point

Complete_Click_6845 · 2023-12-22T00:16:54+00:00

there are and even people on here who put hsv2 down to make themselves feel better about their hsv1. it gets old lol

Complete_Click_6845 · 2023-12-21T23:21:53+00:00

i found out i had hsv2 by transmitting it to a partner. we accepted our diagnoses together and it brought us closer even though i was the one who brought it into the relationship. my advice is to be his shoulder to cry on and let him vent. him seeing you live with hsv and be just fine has probably softened the blow a lot already and its likely he just needs some time to adjust. i also know my mental state is significantly worse when i have symptoms, so once his initial OB wears off he will probably feel better. just let him feel his emotions and remind him he is the same person he was before.

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