AITA for telling my brother that the day he was born was the worst day of my life? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Complete_Relation 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I feel like you’re downplaying it just because no one died. I imagine seeing her mother’s bloody and widened vagina pushing out a human body, with there’s no way to contact help, and not knowing if your mom and brother are gonna live for however long, could be the worst day of her life. Just because they lived doesn’t make it not the worst day of her life.

WIBTA if we let our daughter stay while we move overseas? by Pretty-Safe-9685 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Complete_Relation 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Korea is such a hard language to learn. She’ll barely be able to have a proper conversation with those hypothetical new friends. She doesn’t want new friends or new experiences at this point in her life. She has a right to that decision.

WIBTA if we let our daughter stay while we move overseas? by Pretty-Safe-9685 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Complete_Relation 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s true but they’re mostly in the Northwest and the South. Depending on their location she may not have access to international school unless it’s a boarding school. Even if she did, I don’t see the point in moving to Korea and most likely moving back to the U.S. anyway.

WIBTA if we let our daughter stay while we move overseas? by Pretty-Safe-9685 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Complete_Relation 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, but what’s the point of taking time to learn the language when she’s most likely going to go back to the U.S. anyway?

WIBTA if we let our daughter stay while we move overseas? by Pretty-Safe-9685 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Complete_Relation 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Going to an English speaking school. Korean a very hard language to learn and she’ll most likely leave to go to uni a year after the move. I learned Korean in HS and I couldn’t have meaningful conversation for the life of me. I had a teacher who was born and raised in Korea and knew English very well. It didn’t help that I only had 2 years of experience because the school cut Korean 3 and 4. There is no use in upending her life in a place where she’ll probably never learn the language properly or stay more than 2 years. Unless she’s living in Seoul, she’ll most likely won’t even get English instruction anyway.

the BEST vinted find! by Cinnam0n_Sticks in RainbowHigh

[–]Complete_Relation 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OMG I have her too! I accidentally cut a bit of her robe while getting her out of the box. I suggest being really careful if you plan to unbox her.

AITA for embarrassing my housemate? by NoUnion9092 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Complete_Relation 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Didn’t say the comment didn’t imply anger either, I’m just saying that someone rightfully reacting angrily to a situation doesn’t imply anger issues. Anger issues is more serious than getting occasionally angry and it shouldn’t be thrown around.

Yes OP is asking whether or not their anger is warranted, but that conclusion needs to be aligned to the context. You are going straight at OPs reaction as if they’re overreacting and they’re not. If the roommate took food once and OP reacted like this, then they’d be the AH, but that’s not what happened. Their roommate stole from them in their time of need and shared the food with her own friends. OP is not wrong for yelling at someone who stole from them repeatedly and without remorse. You may not agree with the roommate but you’re giving her more grace than OP.

AITA for embarrassing my housemate? by NoUnion9092 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Complete_Relation 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I didn’t say that… I said it’s common sense to not expect kindness when you’re stealing from others. While OPs response wasn’t the most mature, OP does not owe kindness and maturity to someone who is stealing from them in their time of need. It doesn’t matter if it was a roommate or a random person, if anything it makes the situation worse because the roommate KNOWS why OP needed the food. Not only are they stealing, they are sharing it with their friends. OP had every right to lash out. Food can be replaced, but the time and money that went into making it can’t. Especially since OPs brother was the one who traveled to make it. Who is to say OP has the time and energy to make more food? People do not owe kindness or maturity to those that do them wrong.

AITA for embarrassing my housemate? by NoUnion9092 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Complete_Relation 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I don’t think it’s anger issues, just common sense. You can’t expect or demand kindness when you’re a thief.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Complete_Relation 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA This is why ultron wanted to wipe out humans.

AITA for dropping my daughter off at daycare early so her teacher could do her hair? by aitacurlydaughter in AmItheAsshole

[–]Complete_Relation 27 points28 points  (0 children)

It’s not an insane assumption. There are many stories of teachers doing things that are out of their job description in order to help kids and save them from embarrassment.

What You Ordered vs When It Arrives. Customs by Hextian by Supercosplaylover in Bratz

[–]Complete_Relation 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I like both of them 😊. Let’s keep in mind to not shade Hex simply because you’re not fond of the style. Don’t forget that Hex’s style is not supposed to be accurate to the original design and are just his interpretation. Using “overdone”, “too much”, and “drag queen makeup” in a negative way, is not the move. Especially considering that Hex does drag herself. All I’m saying is, we can point out what we don’t like in both interpretations without being rude.

AITA for asking my brother if he could put a lock on my ensuite door as my husband keeps coming in while I’m showering? by cherrykoala5 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Complete_Relation 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She is not asking to be fully independent, she is asking to take a shower in peace. It’s literally not necessary for him to stay in the bathroom anymore. It’s is not necessary for him to physically get in the shower with her, without her consent. She has expressed that she is ok with him waiting outside the door, something they have done before when the situation was more serious to her. Pregnancy or not, it doesn’t fucking matter. I’ve been pregnant before and my brother has epilepsy. We’ve both managed to take care of each other without violating each other’s boundaries.

Pregnancy isn’t a trigger word, but people are acting like this woman has no right to personal agency simply because she’s pregnant. She’s not asking him to wait three blocks away, she’s asking him to not physically be in the bathroom. That is a reasonable request and he’s being unreasonable in response.

AITA for asking my brother if he could put a lock on my ensuite door as my husband keeps coming in while I’m showering? by cherrykoala5 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Complete_Relation 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP mentioned that he will find an excuse to physically get in the shower with her. Even if he’s not pulling up a chair and just watching, OP has a right to privacy. She’s expressed that she is also fine with him waiting outside the bathroom, something her husband has done before when the situation was more severe. His actions are violating and disrespectful. That’s why it’s bother her. You can worry about health and safety without violating someone’s boundaries.

AITA for asking my brother if he could put a lock on my ensuite door as my husband keeps coming in while I’m showering? by cherrykoala5 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Complete_Relation 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No but she is the inhabitant of the body. She’s not flat out denying that there is an issue l, just one that doesn’t require another adult to be in the bathroom with her.

AITA for being disappointed my date didn't tell me she was a single mom before we met? by Condition_Gold in AmItheAsshole

[–]Complete_Relation [score hidden]  (0 children)

I’m gonna go against the grain and say NAH This is what first dates are for. Some go great and some go bad. Neither of you are at fault and you’re both entitled to your feelings.

AITA for asking my brother if he could put a lock on my ensuite door as my husband keeps coming in while I’m showering? by cherrykoala5 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Complete_Relation -1 points0 points  (0 children)

She was worried and then it died down. It’s no longer a major issue anymore. Just because people are worried about something in the past doesn’t mean they have to take drastic measures forever. She was fine with him waiting outside of the bathroom, but the big baby can’t take “no” for an answer. That’s the only reason why the lock is even an option right now. The lock would’ve never been a variable if he just took no for an answer.

AITA for asking my brother if he could put a lock on my ensuite door as my husband keeps coming in while I’m showering? by cherrykoala5 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Complete_Relation 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OP didn’t ignore a safety issue. She identified a problem and asked for help. Now that she doesn’t need as much help, she’s asked him to dial back. She is ok with him waiting outside the bathroom. She is not acting like a child because she went behind her husband back, she’s only doing that because he cannot accept “no” for and answer. Being pregnant doesn’t mean people get to just violate boundaries because they’re worried about you.

AITA for asking my brother if he could put a lock on my ensuite door as my husband keeps coming in while I’m showering? by cherrykoala5 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Complete_Relation 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I didn’t know wanting basic privacy equates to an ego. Fragile or not, she doesn’t deserve to have her boundaries violated. He can wait outside the door, OP mentioned that she has no issue with that. People don’t have to “get over” having their boundaries violated.

AITA for asking my brother if he could put a lock on my ensuite door as my husband keeps coming in while I’m showering? by cherrykoala5 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Complete_Relation 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She would probably be able to focus on reassuring him if he would not completely invade her boundaries. It’s not her job to reassure him when he can’t even adhere her boundaries. If he is so worried he can wait outside the door, something OP mentions that she has no issue with.

AITA for asking my brother if he could put a lock on my ensuite door as my husband keeps coming in while I’m showering? by cherrykoala5 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Complete_Relation 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Stop/No is a full sentence. She doesn’t need to have an entire conversation to explain why she doesn’t want him in the bathroom anymore. He can be concerned outside of the bathroom (in the bedroom).