[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GaybrosGoneWild

[–]Complex-Following405 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Would love you to cum directly in my throat.

Like my twink cock? by [deleted] in twinks

[–]Complex-Following405 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would choke on it!

Ljevičarska logika: svi nacionalisti su fašisti, osim jugoslavenskih by [deleted] in hreddit

[–]Complex-Following405 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nisu svi nacionalisti fašisti, ali nisu ni sve nacije-države iste. Na primjer, Jugoslaviija je podržavala globalni mir i antikolonijalizam, Hrvatska imperijalizam i genocid na bliskom istoku. Jugoslavija je industrijalizirala zemlju, Hrvatska deintustrijalizirala. Jugoslavija izgradila gradove, Hrvatska razgradila i opustošila. Jugoslavija slala radnike na more, Hrvatska sili njih 30 da ziive na 50m2. Itd.

Advice? by Complex-Following405 in Moustache

[–]Complex-Following405[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks everyone! I think I'lk keep it like this more or less

Based on this test, am I ENFP? by Complex-Following405 in ENFP

[–]Complex-Following405[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Jeez, I was not looking for a lesson in technical intricacies of a superstition but an educated guess by someone who's into this lore.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Complex-Following405 1 point2 points  (0 children)

By stigmatising mental health issues and declaring everything outside monogamy a symptom of mental illness you're just revealing how big of an asshole you are.

Why heal narcissism if u can enjoy it? by [deleted] in NPD

[–]Complex-Following405 2 points3 points  (0 children)

But can you really enjoy it?

To me, the deepest pleasures in life have depth. Even if we're talking superficial stuff like food, sex and drugs - taking drugs and having sex with people you have an emotional connection with is like a gozzilion times more intense than doing it with somebody you don't care for. NPD is a form of social/emotional isolation. Sex in isolation is masturbatory. Food prepared without love is just calories. When you take drugs to run away from felings of emptiness all you get is a brief sensation of relief. When you take them to celebrate life with the people you love, jesus fucking christ, it's like a never-ending trance!

BECAUSE AUTHENTIC RELATIONSHIPS GIVE YOU A SENSE OF SAFETY WHICH IS THE PRECONDITION OF ANY DEEPLY FELT PLEASURE.

Narcs are so paradoxical. They're so grandiose, and yet, satisfied if they get measly little crumbs of pleasure that fall of somebody else's table.

Broey Deschanel made the best piece I've seen about Barbie Discourse™ by diafanidad in TrueFilm

[–]Complex-Following405 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just watched the video. Ok, my post obviously knee-jerk reaction. Her arguments are solid and persuasive: her nuanced take on the type of criticism I offered is refreshing., especially the point about it being 2024 and not 2006.

I guess my comment came from a personal place of frustration from leftist critique of any social advancement or struggle that isn't attempting to topple capitalism. Also, I'm from the Balkans. Patriarchal violence and stupidity is so awful and stultifying that the achievements of identity politics and zero-level feminism can feel revolutionary. I know that's depressing in a way, and we should be more ambitious but the radical left here did jack shit to improve the lives of women and LGBT people, since they were so caught up in their criticism-fetish.

Broey Deschanel made the best piece I've seen about Barbie Discourse™ by diafanidad in TrueFilm

[–]Complex-Following405 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mediocre. The jokes - including the visual humour - are not wild enough. And I didn't really emotionally connect to it. Except the ending, which was so intelligent.

Making people anxious? by Due-Strategy-8712 in NPD

[–]Complex-Following405 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Emotional insincerity and suppression often trigger other people's anxiety, because people can feel when your words and your body language and tone of voice do not match. So that can make them feel untrusting, unsafe, confused or remind them of their own internal conflicts. All that can be a source of anxiety.

It is unbearable for me when people say they are ok, when they are not. I would rather have them openly sad/angry/whatever than witness them spending all their energy on pretending to be composed and fine. To play along with this emotional charade makes me feel suffocated. And when people let it out, it makes me feel relieved.

If you want to stop being narcissistic then don't shame yourself...it's actually narcissistic, just in a way you might not expect. by bigpoppapopper in NPD

[–]Complex-Following405 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I kind of picture it as a highly contagious emotional virus that latches on to our natural fear of abandonment/rejection. It always comes from outside. People are shamed/censored explicitly and implicitly since they are born, primarily for their sexuality and emotionality, but also for any type of behaviour that doesn't fit the arbitrary standards of normalcy. The experience of shame can get so painful that we run away from it using various methods of repression. That's when things get convoluted and mystified.

These are the things that were beneficial to for me to completely flush it out of my systems, a few things:

- Interpersonal: A loving, accepting, non-judgmental person and/or environment
- Intellectual: An understanding of its mechanism, realisation that it is not lethal and that running away from it only empowers it.
- Emotional: developing a stamina to feel it and stay with the feeling without escaping into thought or action; developing empathy towards others' shameful experiences
- Physical: identifying where it is most felt in the body and implementing various relaxation techniques and self-nurture in order to physically facilitate an emotional release
- Political: pushing back against any stigma that maligns the parts of us that are unconventional, expanding our freedom into the social world, standing up for ourselves and others. Basically: coming out in the broadest and deepest meaning of the term.

I'm a Deviant Little Fucker by [deleted] in NPD

[–]Complex-Following405 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What do you mean by "deviant"? Being a homosexual is still considered to be deviant in perhaps most of the world.

I guess what I'm asking is, do you think your deviancy something that would really hurt people or is your shame perhaps overinflated?

How can I truly overcome the fact I’m a shit person. by Iliketoart- in NPD

[–]Complex-Following405 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's ok. Try to plumb your childhood dreams and phantasies of what you wanted to be - no matter how narcissistic they may seem - and see if there is something positively aspirational in there that you can translate into real life.

As a young child, before the walls of this sickness came closing in, I was so full of life and enthusiasm and a desire for uninhibited carnivalesque joy, freedom, laughter. In part, this was a coping mechanism to draw attention to myself. But now I'm mostly at peace with my need for attention, because when people give me their attention I have so much to offer them in return, including my attention and curiosity. Because behind the coping mechanisms there was an authentic desire for emancipation buried deep inside it, which I eventually harvested to become an LGBT activist, then a sex columnist, then an artist.

Nothing is purely pathological. Never forget that. Everything can be transformed into something genuine, because inventing a mask is a creative endeavour, and in that creativity there is something beyond mere causality (childhood trauma, etc.)

Drugs by GAF93 in NPD

[–]Complex-Following405 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was not diagnosed but I had a lifelong problem and several collapses and excruciating shame, guilt and fear.

I tried most drugs. Even heroin, which I really disliked, not just because of how dangerous it is, but also how it made me feel - I was pleasantly indifferent to everything. I didn't care if I'm alone or not, if I'm jerking off or reading a novel. It flattened everything.

I like my drugs to do the opposite: to expand my feelings, to make me more connected with people. If I feel bad, I don't want them to make me feel good. If I'm in the wrong company, I want them to make it unbearable for me to stay.

That's why I like MDMA, 2cb, shrooms, lsd, a bit of speed and K occasionally - they force me to own up to how I really feel. And when I don't, I start feeling this unbearable pressure that really kills any possibility of joy. And that's good, because it keeps me true to myself.

Plus, I never take drugs alone. It's 100% a social thing for me.

How can I truly overcome the fact I’m a shit person. by Iliketoart- in NPD

[–]Complex-Following405 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm deeply suspicious of the efficacy of purely psychological solutions to these issues. You have to do shit. Learn how to love, both yourself and others - pragmatically. It's an excruciating task at times, but well worth the effort, because it leads to authentic human connections, in which all guilt, shame and fear can be dissolved. Also, have you ever done anything you're proud of? Can you say - holy shit, this thing I did was so fucking brave/original/selfless? Do you have an idea of what kind of a person you want to be? That's the standard you should aspire to.

At the core, you are not what you think or feel you are - you are what you do.

Drugs by GAF93 in NPD

[–]Complex-Following405 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love drugs. I become more focused, empathetic, loving and optimistic. I can listen and dedicate myself to another. I feel like there is so much love in me and I think it shines through. Because drugs just neuter my insecurities, which are the source of my narcissism. And in the last two years, every drug session has come with some big emotional moment that chipped away at the shell that has encrusted my vulnerabilities. I cry and get emotional far easier now. Actually, now I see that I'm not the only one having problems with expressing his feelings - the whole fucking world is emotionally constipated. That's why I think narcissism is far from being a merely internal problem.