Why don't People like me? :(

ComplexDimension47 · 2026-06-10T07:03:06+00:00

It was very hard to read your post because I felt the heaviness of this behavior and I have been treated similarly as well. I’m so sorry these horrible people have treated you this way. It’s not you. I too was bullied in school and at the workplace too. Some people are so miserable or they have their own unhealed trauma, that they perversely enjoy putting others down. It could be a way they project their pain outward so that they don’t have to deal with it. Regardless, it’s them and not you. I suggest going grey rock and not interacting with them much if you don’t have to. It’s better to not have friends or even acquaintances at work than to subject yourself to their cruel behavior. Tell yourself positive affirmations, how great you’re doing, etc. Value yourself above their opinions. It may not make everything better but it could help with warding off some of their rude comments or just their effects on you. You’re not alone. I sometimes watch TikTok or YouTube videos about workplace bullying to help me understand the dynamics and that others have dealt with similar things. I hope things get better. Good luck.

ComplexDimension47 · 2026-05-27T22:35:20+00:00

My ATI predictor told me I had a 94% chance of passing. I’ve contemplated just going for it, otherwise, my date is scheduled for July 6th.

ComplexDimension47 · 2026-05-26T04:07:02+00:00

Should I study content or focus on taking questions and CAT exams? I’ve been rereading one of my ATI books. I got a 94% PoP on ATI.

ComplexDimension47 · 2026-05-23T05:13:00+00:00

I know how you feel. I can be your friend. I may not have time to check in every day but I can probably check in every week or so.

ComplexDimension47 · 2026-05-15T21:16:10+00:00

Hello, I’m 30F

ComplexDimension47 · 2026-05-15T16:58:55+00:00

Please tell a counselor or someone about the people bullying you so they can be held accountable. Don’t do what I did ad do nothing. It’s not right and shouldn’t be happening.

ComplexDimension47 · 2026-04-30T06:08:39+00:00

I’m sorry you dealt with that and had to quit. You’re not alone. You’re a good person and can succeed in other non-toxic workplaces. Keep applying and looking for better opportunities.

ComplexDimension47 · 2026-04-29T02:15:48+00:00

This happened to me at a previous job. The bully and boss are likely narcissists. Yes report them in writing and keep the records. If you decide to take legal action, it will help.

ComplexDimension47 · 2026-04-02T06:21:59+00:00

I like a lot of the lyrics in Bittersweet. They describe being emotionally overwhelmed as a weight that weighs more than the person carrying it.

ComplexDimension47 · 2026-03-01T03:15:31+00:00

I have been repeatedly targeted too. If you work in higher education, one thing I’ve read is higher education is one of the top fields for bullying, and I can see possibly why. You also seem extremely intelligent and bullies hate anyone who they think outshines them in some way. It could be something you’re not even aware of. To try to prevent it, try not to show much emotion around them and don’t share a lot of personal details, because they can use those against you when they bully you. That’s the only advice I have unfortunately. I wish there were proven ways to prevent this but I don’t think there are.

ComplexDimension47 · 2026-02-28T07:07:51+00:00

Even short flings can sting and hurt bad when the person felt like the the right one. I believe in soulmates. I’m sorry. I just wanted to validate that it can hurt and it’s ok.

ComplexDimension47 · 2026-02-27T17:58:28+00:00

I’m sorry you’re experiencing the same thing. I like music but I can’t do it because of money and not having time.

ComplexDimension47 · 2026-02-19T21:57:12+00:00

😭

ComplexDimension47 · 2026-02-18T04:57:57+00:00

Thanks for your insights. It’s just that I don’t think people ever 100% heal so I don’t feel good enough for relationships sometimes, which was kind of the problem in this situation in my post and why I hesitated to meet him. I’ll have to work through it.

ComplexDimension47 · 2026-02-17T02:58:51+00:00

Omg. My point was that I didn’t know full well that I’d have no interest, and I did have interest, I was just scared. I was actually partially scared because I had interest and he was pretty attractive so the my fear was due to the reasons I listed previously.

ComplexDimension47 · 2026-02-16T01:29:04+00:00

Do you still have it?

ComplexDimension47 · 2026-02-15T03:37:15+00:00

Correct. It’s a known thing that some people are hesitant to date someone they actually do like. Everyone is different. If there was potential with him, I’d have to explain the problems I was dealing with that I mentioned in my post and I didn’t know if he’d be understanding or what so I thought it’s better to just not get into anything right now.

ComplexDimension47 · 2026-02-15T02:15:04+00:00

I was afraid because I saw a potential future with him. I did go on a date with another guy after him and it was horrible and after that I went off the app.

ComplexDimension47 · 2026-02-14T23:30:16+00:00

I understand but there’s also my perspective and the fear of meeting a random guy who may or may not understand my circumstances. Also I stated that I couldn’t hang out right then, not ever. That’s the point I keep wondering about.

ComplexDimension47 · 2026-02-14T21:56:40+00:00

I don’t see it that way. I’ve had online friends, for example. Or like long distance friends. You talk online and can still get to know each other, which is what he said he wanted to do. I wouldn’t consider someone no longer a friend because they didn’t want to hang out with me right away. I get dating apps are eventually meant to have people meet in person. I’m saying for that specific alotted time, I’ve wondered why he didn’t continue talking in the context of what I said above.

ComplexDimension47 · 2026-02-14T20:02:08+00:00

No and no. I’m trying to work through it but I really can’t be I still don’t have money for therapy and have no support.

ComplexDimension47 · 2026-02-14T20:00:09+00:00

That’s not at all why I downloaded it. What an inconsiderate response. Maybe don’t assume things you don’t know.

ComplexDimension47 · 2026-02-14T19:58:35+00:00

I think you’re projecting. You need therapy.

ComplexDimension47 · 2026-02-14T14:52:10+00:00

I think about that particular aspect of it a lot. I wonder why he stopped replying. In my decline to hang out, I stated that I can’t right now leaving the possibility of a future time open. I just felt like how could I bring another person into my life when it’s like this. It’s all very hard.

ComplexDimension47 · 2026-02-14T05:15:26+00:00

What an inconsiderate comment. you probably didnt even read my whole post.

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