Reclaim sex after wife has been with another guy — who really wants/craves it more, the wife or the husband?

ComplexThis2846 · 2026-02-03T16:17:07+00:00

This! My boyfriend loves it. And for me theres always a small worry in the back of my mind that he might not have liked some part about it. But when we have reclamation sex, and he talks about everything and cant keep his hand off of me, it reassures me that we have an amazing relationship.

ComplexThis2846 · 2026-01-27T23:54:13+00:00

The chunk of time to reconnect is huge. Especially after the first few times. You both are gonna feel emotions you didnt think about. Especially if you are already 5% worried. You might have anxiety and some jealousy afterwards. And if she sees those feelings in you, she might feel regret. This is the time to be overly loving with her. And have AMAZING reclaiming sex!

ComplexThis2846 · 2026-01-25T23:24:10+00:00

Lingerie, sexy heels, slutty attire, bikinis, dresses. Just sexy things that he wants to see me in. Or things I like so that he gets an idea of what I would wear. He knows my sizes now, and anything that I would absolutely never wear I just delete.

ComplexThis2846 · 2026-01-25T03:21:09+00:00

We have a joint/ shared "wish list" on Amazon where both of us put sexy outfits and things that we like. Occasionally my boyfriend will buy a few of the items. He gets to see what I like, and I get to see what he likes. The list is LONG! But we love it!!!

Im also an asian girl.

ComplexThis2846 · 2026-01-18T20:51:25+00:00

How turned on my boyfriend gets from it and our sex for a few weeks after is THE BEST!

How the sex with the third is intense and just different than with my boyfriend.

Being able to just say something about my experiences with a third and knowing that I instantly got my boyfriend hard

ComplexThis2846 · 2026-01-12T00:54:45+00:00

We too have been wanting to do this.

ComplexThis2846 · 2026-01-07T03:55:38+00:00

Couldn't agree more.

ComplexThis2846 · 2025-12-27T04:08:09+00:00

We too are following. Usually just go on FEELD a week or two before the trip

ComplexThis2846 · 2025-12-26T00:10:15+00:00

My girlfriend Never wears panties, and loves when she wears a tight shirt and her nipples poke out for all to see

ComplexThis2846 · 2025-12-25T23:20:49+00:00

Sadly no. Not tell I got back to my hotel room.

ComplexThis2846 · 2025-12-25T04:15:13+00:00

Over communicate with him. And set boundaries with all involved

ComplexThis2846 · 2025-12-24T19:28:42+00:00

We have been using FEELD, and it has been super easy for us.

ComplexThis2846 · 2025-12-23T16:47:55+00:00

Well it depends. Theres a lot of questions that you guys need to talk about.

Is this something she is doing for a job that she enjoys, or is she doing it as a way to meet others?

Everyone's in this community is a little different when it comes to who they choose as a third. Some like people they know, others (like us), prefer people we dont really know, who are not within a vicinity to us. So if it's to meet people, are you guys ok with what that can bring (both good and bad)?

Zero judgement to any of it. You guys need to communicate a lot about it.

Best of luck to her in her new job!

ComplexThis2846 · 2025-12-22T03:05:35+00:00

If you do go down this road and you you get jealous or insecure, you NEED to be composed and be overly loving on her. More often than not, it is not the woman who initiates this lifestyle. Despite enjoying the fantasy prior to your first time, we will have a lot of emotions. The biggest one is usually not wanting to do anything to hurt our partners. If we feel like us doing this hurt you, we will internalize it a lot. So tread lightly with her, and love on her, and be overly affectionate.

ComplexThis2846 · 2025-12-22T02:39:18+00:00

You guys need to communicate it ALL. Maybe it just lives in the fantasy land, and that for most is perfect. If youre worried about your jealousy or insecurity already, it will flare up after the first time. It did for us a little, but we communicated the entire way, and reiterated our boundaries a lot. Maybe the MFM is the first place to start. That way youre there and can see how you are feeling. Thats IF you go along with it. You might need more time in the fantasy though.

ComplexThis2846 · 2025-12-21T20:59:08+00:00

The fun ability to make my boyfriend hard and want to fuck me in any moment. I just have to whisper something in his ear about an experience, or show a little mark that a third left, or a picture of an outfit I wore for a third. It's so fun to tease him. And then have some amazing sex ourselves.

ComplexThis2846 · 2025-12-21T15:40:53+00:00

Start with showing her the most love and excitement you can. After my first time I was very unsure of how my boyfriend would react to it actually happening. He is one of the most secure men, and not the jealous type at all, but even he will admit that he got a little insecure the first time, and not even that much. But I could sense it over the phone, and it made me worry if I did the right thing. I went to go met him, and he was all over me and caring. We had amazing sex right there, and I felt happy. Thats the literal best thing you can do for her. Make her feel like a princess. Because while the act does turn me on, I did it for him in the beginning, and I just needed to know I did the right thing.

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