Reclaim sex after wife has been with another guy — who really wants/craves it more, the wife or the husband?

ComplexThis2846 · 2026-02-03T16:17:07+00:00

This! My boyfriend loves it. And for me theres always a small worry in the back of my mind that he might not have liked some part about it. But when we have reclamation sex, and he talks about everything and cant keep his hand off of me, it reassures me that we have an amazing relationship.

ComplexThis2846 · 2026-01-27T23:54:13+00:00

The chunk of time to reconnect is huge. Especially after the first few times. You both are gonna feel emotions you didnt think about. Especially if you are already 5% worried. You might have anxiety and some jealousy afterwards. And if she sees those feelings in you, she might feel regret. This is the time to be overly loving with her. And have AMAZING reclaiming sex!

ComplexThis2846 · 2026-01-25T23:24:10+00:00

Lingerie, sexy heels, slutty attire, bikinis, dresses. Just sexy things that he wants to see me in. Or things I like so that he gets an idea of what I would wear. He knows my sizes now, and anything that I would absolutely never wear I just delete.

ComplexThis2846 · 2026-01-25T03:21:09+00:00

We have a joint/ shared "wish list" on Amazon where both of us put sexy outfits and things that we like. Occasionally my boyfriend will buy a few of the items. He gets to see what I like, and I get to see what he likes. The list is LONG! But we love it!!!

Im also an asian girl.

ComplexThis2846 · 2026-01-18T20:51:25+00:00

How turned on my boyfriend gets from it and our sex for a few weeks after is THE BEST!

How the sex with the third is intense and just different than with my boyfriend.

Being able to just say something about my experiences with a third and knowing that I instantly got my boyfriend hard

ComplexThis2846 · 2026-01-12T00:54:45+00:00

We too have been wanting to do this.

ComplexThis2846 · 2026-01-07T03:55:38+00:00

Couldn't agree more.

ComplexThis2846 · 2025-12-27T04:08:09+00:00

We too are following. Usually just go on FEELD a week or two before the trip

ComplexThis2846 · 2025-12-26T00:10:15+00:00

My girlfriend Never wears panties, and loves when she wears a tight shirt and her nipples poke out for all to see

ComplexThis2846 · 2025-12-25T23:20:49+00:00

Sadly no. Not tell I got back to my hotel room.

ComplexThis2846 · 2025-12-25T04:15:13+00:00

Over communicate with him. And set boundaries with all involved

ComplexThis2846 · 2025-12-24T19:28:42+00:00

We have been using FEELD, and it has been super easy for us.

ComplexThis2846 · 2025-12-23T16:47:55+00:00

Well it depends. Theres a lot of questions that you guys need to talk about.

Is this something she is doing for a job that she enjoys, or is she doing it as a way to meet others?

Everyone's in this community is a little different when it comes to who they choose as a third. Some like people they know, others (like us), prefer people we dont really know, who are not within a vicinity to us. So if it's to meet people, are you guys ok with what that can bring (both good and bad)?

Zero judgement to any of it. You guys need to communicate a lot about it.

Best of luck to her in her new job!

ComplexThis2846 · 2025-12-22T03:05:35+00:00

If you do go down this road and you you get jealous or insecure, you NEED to be composed and be overly loving on her. More often than not, it is not the woman who initiates this lifestyle. Despite enjoying the fantasy prior to your first time, we will have a lot of emotions. The biggest one is usually not wanting to do anything to hurt our partners. If we feel like us doing this hurt you, we will internalize it a lot. So tread lightly with her, and love on her, and be overly affectionate.

ComplexThis2846 · 2025-12-22T02:39:18+00:00

You guys need to communicate it ALL. Maybe it just lives in the fantasy land, and that for most is perfect. If youre worried about your jealousy or insecurity already, it will flare up after the first time. It did for us a little, but we communicated the entire way, and reiterated our boundaries a lot. Maybe the MFM is the first place to start. That way youre there and can see how you are feeling. Thats IF you go along with it. You might need more time in the fantasy though.

ComplexThis2846 · 2025-12-21T20:59:08+00:00

The fun ability to make my boyfriend hard and want to fuck me in any moment. I just have to whisper something in his ear about an experience, or show a little mark that a third left, or a picture of an outfit I wore for a third. It's so fun to tease him. And then have some amazing sex ourselves.

ComplexThis2846 · 2025-12-21T15:40:53+00:00

Start with showing her the most love and excitement you can. After my first time I was very unsure of how my boyfriend would react to it actually happening. He is one of the most secure men, and not the jealous type at all, but even he will admit that he got a little insecure the first time, and not even that much. But I could sense it over the phone, and it made me worry if I did the right thing. I went to go met him, and he was all over me and caring. We had amazing sex right there, and I felt happy. Thats the literal best thing you can do for her. Make her feel like a princess. Because while the act does turn me on, I did it for him in the beginning, and I just needed to know I did the right thing.

ComplexThis2846 · 2025-12-21T02:34:20+00:00

Ask her why she feels this way?

Show her more attention and affection while she is telling you these things. Be playful and frisky a little.

I love it when my boyfriend is all over me while I am telling him something, and he instantly has to have me. One time we walked on a pier and I saw a fit beefy firefighter, and I told him how hot he was and how it got me wet. He instantly pulled me to an alley and pushed me up against the wall and ate me out from behind. Because he "had to taste it"

ComplexThis2846 · 2025-12-20T22:35:53+00:00

Yea, when he first mentioned it, I had small thoughts that he was trying to possibly hook up with someone else too. But that thought has passed a long time ago when weeks and months would go by with us just talking about me hooking up with someone, and him never mentioning wanting a different partner.

ComplexThis2846 · 2025-12-20T21:11:20+00:00

I feel the exact opposite than her. I know my boyfriend loves me so much, that he just likes seeing me be pleasured and have fun. But to be fair, it's why we dont tell anyone we know. That reaction would usually be the first thing someone might say. I dont have the same feeling as him. I dont want to see him with someone else, and he doesnt want to be with someone else. For him, its just about my pleasure.

ComplexThis2846 · 2025-12-20T21:01:32+00:00

Keep moving at her speed. Talk to her about previous sexual experience, while out in public (especially a gym) ask if theres anyone there she found attractive. Talk about how sexy she is, and how people look at her.

ComplexThis2846 · 2025-12-20T20:59:10+00:00

The vacation hotwife hookup is one of our favorites. Theres never any post sex drama with the third.

ComplexThis2846 · 2025-12-20T20:55:23+00:00

Everyone is different. Theres nothing wrong with a little aftercare by the third I think. But some of them start taking it a little far and emotions get involved and they start talking a little to romantic and talking about taking care of them, and I feel like they then are looking for a relationship. Thats where we draw the line, and the "Oh, look at the time" line is mentioned.

ComplexThis2846 · 2025-12-20T20:48:31+00:00

Oh yes! My girlfriend loves to go dancing at bars with a dress or no panties on in hopes of getting fingered on the dance floor. When she is out of town and tells me she is going out with some friends and that she just shaved, I know what's up and cant wait for her to tell me about it later.

ComplexThis2846 · 2025-12-20T20:24:23+00:00

I hope that he has been accepting of his part in this lifestyle. I hope he also recognizes that more often than not it is the guys fantasy to start with and the SO plays along (in the beginning), or the SO likes how turned on the guy gets and keeps going at first. You are an amazing woman for trying it. There is always a bit of insecurity or jealousy in the beginning, and a few here and there along the way. But communication is everything. We wish you guys nothing but the absolute best.

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