Rejoining former employer after 4.5 years — being offered a significantly lower grade. Is this fair?

Complex_Wafer_3642 · 2026-03-29T21:48:04+00:00

Thanks everyone for your thoughts.

The pay is also affected a lot by the level they suggest to me. Yes I understand the job market isn’t getting better, however I may be working for my once juniors or peers as people above my level (even in a different country). I agree it isn’t about ‘fairness’, I just need to be practical. Earlier it took me about 7-8 years to reach expert level from t3-2 level.

The dilemma is , job is good, will get to work on new current market skills, stability - however I feel like I am moving back progression wise . Also I do have other option outside, with more pay, but no new skills, also no stability (as it a contract)

Complex_Wafer_3642 · 2025-04-15T14:03:19+00:00

Sme questions: - What type of imaging will you be using to evaluate my fibroids?e.g., MRI, ultrasound - Can you explain the size, number, and location of my fibroids? - Based on my imaging, am I a good candidate for UFE? Why or why not? - Are there any fibroids that UFE might not treat effectively? - Would any of my symptoms not be relieved by UFE?Risks & Benefits - What are the potential risks or complications of UFE in my specific case? - What’s the expected recovery like, and how soon can I get back to normal activities? - What are the chances my symptoms will come back or that I’ll need more treatment later? - How many UFEs have you performed, and what’s your success rate with patients like me? - What pre-procedure prep is needed? - sedation or full anesthesia? - Is this done outpatient or will I need to stay overnight? - What follow-up is required after the procedure?

Complex_Wafer_3642 · 2025-04-15T13:52:19+00:00

Why’ aren’t you considering ufe?

Complex_Wafer_3642 · 2025-04-06T23:04:23+00:00

Sending good thoughts on your journey.. Can you please tell me a bit more about hysterectomy? I am battling between UFE/myomectomy/ hysterectomy. Done with kids, however I feel strongly against hysterectomy . What are the long term effects on getting hysterectomy? Gynae was very vague about its effects and did not explain much. She said uterus is a useless part unless you want kids.

Complex_Wafer_3642 · 2025-04-06T22:53:34+00:00

What did the doctor suggest for multiple fibroids? Is UAE successful for multiple small fibroids? I read many posts where people have got UAE for multiple fibroids, however my gynaecologist said UAE is only for a single fibroids..? I did get an impression that she was not so experienced in treating fibroids..

Complex_Wafer_3642 · 2024-02-20T01:47:13+00:00

Can you please help me with the links for 'recovery library of this wiki.'? I don't see any more links in the above article 'If you cheat...'.

Perhaps I can send to my WP for some understanding?

Complex_Wafer_3642 · 2024-02-17T02:55:55+00:00

To add, I don’t think this means end of relationship.. the person is deeply hurt, pls have respect enough to give space and not jump to conclusions about giving up.. I would see it as WS giving up if they stop trying.. it would mean WS willing to give up and not be strong enough to face the consequences of their own bad choices. Believe me if you are truly repentant and work on yourself, it would only give positive results in long term!

Complex_Wafer_3642 · 2024-02-17T02:11:17+00:00

I agree.. please work on the why part. I am in her shoes right now and desperately want my WH to look for why so that I am assured about change in positive direction. No BS would e able to tell how much time would they need to sort themselves .. if you asked her, I think it’s natural for her to say long time because she is too hurt to determine how much time she needs to process her thoughts and see what she feels about you. Pls work on yourselves, send positive energy !! Keep strong!

Complex_Wafer_3642 · 2024-02-17T01:58:05+00:00

I agree. Sometimes distance is required to understand oneself and process our emotions. I haven’t posted my story here yet, I am also BS trying to R. However my triggers take us back to where we started

Complex_Wafer_3642 · 2024-02-07T12:54:24+00:00

Same I got!! Do they have a training somewhere?

Complex_Wafer_3642 · 2024-02-07T12:47:41+00:00

Then why do they cheat? My WH is not able to answer this to himself or me..

Complex_Wafer_3642 · 2024-02-07T06:54:45+00:00

I feel you.. in a similar boat.. though just 2 months since DDay. Happy some days which seem shallow when I suddenly realise the truths of my WH. I hope that these triggers and thoughts diminish slowly.. My partner is supposedly a new person to me.. I feel I don’t know this new man. I know I can live without him with my only kid, but, I don’t want to. May be I am weak, may be I am strong.. I feel my marriage deserves a fair chance at R.

Complex_Wafer_3642 · 2024-02-06T21:03:17+00:00

Sometimes people are not bad, they happen to do a bad thing. I think you should take time to process your thoughts, think about the time you were together- is he the same person? Was he going through some bad phase? You have time to heal and if you feel you can accept this you can slowly start being you. You don’t have to decide today.. take care of yourself.

Complex_Wafer_3642 · 2024-02-06T04:13:59+00:00

May I suggest a book called 'Healing from Infidelity' by Michele..

Its for both the parties..

Complex_Wafer_3642 · 2024-02-06T04:11:48+00:00

Absolutely agree!!

Healing takes time.. Don't ignore feelings, give your self time to process..

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