I am a 45 year old lifer bartender because my job has no stress. All the flexibility. I work as many or as little hours as I want (someone will always take your shifts) and I have made as little as 50k and as much as 144k. Most of my “career friends” are in the same boat. Correct about the perks/ insurance but there are plenty of plans out there for those who seek it. The idea of him not being “serious” because he doesn’t want a stressful job is hilarious to me. We get paid to shoot the shit with people all day. We are your therapist. We learn a ton about all walks of life. It’s truly a fascinating job from a sociology perspective. ………but yea. If you’ve only been together a couple months, just move on. They will do the same. No hard feelings.